confused by the ex

Hey all, im a lttle confused at the moment - would be really grateful for any insights particularly from the girls here. Basically my girlfriend split up with me me about 5 months ago - we were really close, but i was moving to a different country. Anyway a week ago after not hearing from her for ages I recieved on my birthday a really expensive watch with my initials on the back. She sent it with a note apologising for splitting up, saying she knew she'd had her chance with me and blown it, and saying she wouldn't forget our being together. Obviously I found this quite moving, but I don't know what signal is being sent out - Is it a sign that she has fully moved on, or is it a way of saying she still has feelings for me, but is leaving it to me to make any moves if I want to.

Reply 1

ClareR

I dont really blame you for feeling confused!

Thats a really nice thing of her to do, had she been generous when you were going out? Like was it out of the ordinary?

To be honest i cant tell you whetehr its a sign shes moved on or a sign she still has feelings for you without talking to her, so im not gonna try and guess or anything. But i suppose if it was me, a fairly nice present and a card would say 'sorry... hope we can be friends...' Though an expensive watch, especially with your initials on it, implies it meant quite a lot to her so maybe she does still think about you etc? Tho in what way only she knows.

My advice would be maybe talk to her and try to establish which one of the two it is before acting on anything?

Sorry this probably isnt much help!

Reply 2

Louise88

Nobody knows how she feels apart from her, if you want answers then you're going to have to ask her these questions. I don't blame you for being confused, it could mean that there is still feelings there or it could mean that, yes it was a mistake but i'm moving on now. Infact, it could mean a lot of things, so just ask her and find out the true meaning of it. She'll be able to give you a lot more information than anyone on here. It's best to know how she is feeling before acting on it, because you could easily pick her up wrong. Good luck.

Reply 3

DaChronik

Carr

Hey all, im a lttle confused at the moment - would be really grateful for any insights particularly from the girls here. Basically my girlfriend split up with me me about 5 months ago - we were really close, but i was moving to a different country. Anyway a week ago after not hearing from her for ages I recieved on my birthday a really expensive watch with my initials on the back. She sent it with a note apologising for splitting up, saying she knew she'd had her chance with me and blown it, and saying she wouldn't forget our being together. Obviously I found this quite moving, but I don't know what signal is being sent out - Is it a sign that she has fully moved on, or is it a way of saying she still has feelings for me, but is leaving it to me to make any moves if I want to.

Oh, nice... Well you must still mean a lot to her then! But I dunno, maybe she thinks the break up didnt affect you? I know when one of my ex's told me that she would never forget us, it was like someone punchin me in the stomach... I think the ladies are probably right... Just go ahead and ask her?

Reply 4

username47781

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You obviously meant something to her, but it's hard to tell whether she has moved on or not.

Reply 5

Carr

OP

thanks for all the replies everybody - it really has helped.

confused by the ex

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