(Original post by xylas)
Yeah you don't. No-one does.
No-one in my family has been murdered but that is obviously something that doesn't only affect an individual. I don't want to get personal but there are worse things that happen to people including myself that you have no idea about (and vice versa). I don't pity those with medical conditions.
Everyone goes through massive problems in their life. Everyone. I think you know that but what you don't want to admit is that your problems are no worse than others'.
Your attitude that "a lot more bad things happen to me than many others" in no way helps you at all, and if anything contributes to you being affected by your problems.
Honestly I am trying to help you because I've had to battle with this mentality so many times (I used to have it and I've found it to be a common human natural response). It is 3am in the morning and I am not spending minutes of my life for 'shits and giggles' believe me.
The best thing you can do from now on is to come around to thinking along the lines of:
-Bad things happen.
-I don't need to compare to others (some have it worse some of the time, some have it better some of the time).
-I am in control of my life.
-I can determine whether or not I get affected by bad things in my life.
-I am not 'damaged goods'.
-I have the capability to do any good thing I want.
-The world is a better place with me in it.
Please just give what I say a chance. But don't reject all of it because I know at least some of it is true.
I believe there is two trains of thought on things like mental health, yours is that no matter what its up to a individual how they interpret it, others will say things can affect people different.
It does not take into account mental heath issues, the bullying and bad school set me back many years in social development as if I stood up for myself I was given the blame, and if I ignored it the bullying continued, when I started getting more confident I had a family murder, when that got a little better my grandfather got cancer, I then had flatmates who had 24/7 parties and identity theft literally stole about £5000 from me (which was my student loan, savings and overdraft) and opened credit in my name and to top it off I found out I was autistic! and thats not to include individual things like living next to drug dealers, having bi polar flatmates who got agressive, neighbours on drugs having sex for over 24 hours straight, having all your post like birthday cards stolen, being illegally evicted, being burgled.
Going through all that and not having a nervous breakdown I am stronger than you might think but of course it affected me.
Each thing on its own would of been traumatic but together stopped me getting better.
I could of handled the bullying at school if I had more opportunities in life rather than parents struggling to put food on table as then I wouldn't have to worry about being able to afford study materials, not being seen as a waste of air by the school