Any advice would be appreciated

in the beginning i was denying my feelings for my crush, but one day my best
friend comes up to me and asks me if i like this guy, cos apparently i was
making it so obvious. my face jus said it all she says. i said what do i do. i
have been trying to ignore what i am feeling, n it wont go away. i am really
good friends with my crush. well anyway my bestfriend went and askd him if he likes anyone in the college, and he said no, why? and she just said, just making conversation..then for couple of weeks after that it was really awkward btween us..we'd look at each other, and if i caught his eye i would pretend to be looking at something else, and vice versa..but things are pretty much back to normal with us..we have jokes and evrything, im scared of loosing him as a friend, because when we wasnt talking made me realise how much i missed talking to him and stuf..what do i do? i was going to confess my feelings on the last day of college, but i am very scared, becasue the idea of getting rejected and loosing him as a friend scares me..he is the first guy iv liked proper if dat makes sense and i am 18years old! i was also considering not talking to him,but my bestfriend was saying that would make it obvious. what should i do, because being friends with him is hard for me

Reply 1

username47781

20

Just tell him, what you got to lose. You won't know otherwise.

Reply 2

bunthulhu

14

hope78945

i was also considering not talking to him,but my bestfriend was saying that would make it obvious.

I just have to point out, the only thing that this would make obvious to the poor guy is that you have some sort of problem with him. Guys don't get mind games like that. Is it really any wonder that they don't realise that being ignored means love? :p:

Reply 3

ellabella

bunthulhu

I just have to point out, the only thing that this would make obvious to the poor guy is that you have some sort of problem with him. Guys don't get mind games like that. Is it really any wonder that they don't realise that being ignored means love? :p:

lol true

it is possible that this guy said he didnt like anyone in your college because he didn't want to be like "oh well yes actually i like your best friend, dont tell her though" - he could possibly have just been trying to act cool
i dunno
it's hard to say, you take a risk either way, whatever you do. which is the biggest risk for you? missing out on something potentially good through fear, or embarrassment? i have a feeling if you 2 are good enough friends and you are subtle and slow so you can pick up hints if he doesnt like you back, then the embarasment wouldnt be too bad and you wouldnt lose his friendship

Reply 4

generalebriety

16

As is so often the case, bunthulhu is right. Men generally don't understand hints, and my first thought when reading that is "he probably thinks she hates him". It's up to you, your decision, but either way you might lose something.

Reply 5

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ellabella

lol true

it is possible that this guy said he didnt like anyone in your college because he didn't want to be like "oh well yes actually i like your best friend, dont tell her though" - he could possibly have just been trying to act cool
i dunno

I'm afraid you have wildly over-estimated the ability of guys to be subtle, we just don't really think like that at that age. I was asked exactly the same question by one girl and, with no ability for subtlety, just told her that i fancied her mate...but it turned out the girl asking the question fancied me....and was a little crushed... If i wasn't a silly 16 year old guy at the time i may have been able to read the signals, or played it cool, but it just doesn't work like that.

Reply 6

campbell87

8

Sometimes we just have to take chancs in life otherwise were left wondering, 'what if'. Unless you can get him to outright say to someone else that he see's you as more than a friend then there is always the possibility of ruining the friendship but then again, theres always the possibility or it becoming so much more.
You've just got to do what feels right, if you do feel as strongly as you say you do then a few words is all it will take. For all you know he does feel the same way.
Just need to decide if you can take the chance, noone can make that decision for you!

Reply 7

hope78945

OP

thnkx guys 4ur comments..probs is i got exams cumin up

Reply 8

matthew.swallow

4

hope78945

thnkx guys 4ur comments..probs is i got exams cumin up

leave it till after exams if it is gana worry you too much then... they are more important, and besides you have the whole summer holidays!

Reply 9

hope78945

OP

generalebriety

As is so often the case, bunthulhu is right. Men generally don't understand hints, and my first thought when reading that is "he probably thinks she hates him". It's up to you, your decision, but either way you might lose something.

why did you think "he probably thinks she hates him"

n i have decided im going tell him (;kissing2 :wink:

on da last day of my exam..after unit 6 synoptic paper 4 chem..wish me luck guys.. :redface:

but right now gona concentrate on my exams :argh:

Reply 10

Becca <3.

1

^ Sounds like a plan.
Stick to it!!
Good Luck m'dear.

Becca <3.

Reply 11

generalebriety

16

hope78945

why did you think "he probably thinks she hates him"

n i have decided im going tell him (;kissing2 :wink:

on da last day of my exam..after unit 6 synoptic paper 4 chem..wish me luck guys.. :redface:

but right now gona concentrate on my exams :argh:

You avoided catching his eye, which is normally a sign of someone who doesn't want to talk to you, and someone who doesn't want to talk to you doesn't like you - in a typical man's eyes. I should know. :wink:

Reply 12

hope78945

OP

generalebriety

You avoided catching his eye, which is normally a sign of someone who doesn't want to talk to you, and someone who doesn't want to talk to you doesn't like you - in a typical man's eyes. I should know. :wink:

..but its da complete opposite.. :redface:

! i didnt wana catch his eye, cos it wud be embarasin if he caught me looking at him
guys r so difficult to understand :eek:

why whats your story..u said 'i should know'

Reply 13

generalebriety

16

hope78945

..but its da complete opposite.. :redface:

! i didnt wana catch his eye, cos it wud be embarasin if he caught me looking at him
guys r so difficult to understand :eek:

why whats your story..u said 'i should know'

I have no story. I'm a guy, so I know how guys work. Luckily I'm gay so I have some insight into how girls work, and trust me, it's really not that logical to avoid looking at someone who you like. :p:

Reply 14

hope78945

OP

why is it really not that logical to avoid looking at someone who you like. ..

Reply 15

thatwhichiam

14

Because then they think you don't like you, or are rude or something. If you can pull off blushing shyly and only looking under your eyelashes without looking a complete prat, try it. But I don't think it's that easy. You need to look at him and laugh at his jokes and try a little touching (I don't mean grope him, I mean touch his arm to gain his attention or something)
Good luck, you sound as shy as I used to be :smile:

Reply 16

hope78945

OP

yes the big problem of blushing!! :redface:

couple of days ago he came up to me in college, and well basically he was asking me if i wanted 2 revise with him and it took him like 10minutes 2ask me, that day was jokes..well anyways here i was thinking he was going to ask me something else, i started to go soo red. most stupidiest day ever!!!

Reply 17

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Are you mental? He wants to revise with you? Do you really not get that no one actually NEEDS to revise with another person, rather that he's just trying to get you alone?

Reply 18

hope78945

OP

i didnt think of it like that.. :eek:

Reply 19

hope78945

OP

but i very much doubt it 3232

Any advice would be appreciated

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