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Prenups- yay or nay Watch

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    (Original post by 999tigger)
    You should qualify that. They are not legally binding, but if one exists hey are the starting point and are generally adhered to by the court unless they think they are unfair.
    I am trying to qualify this statement. I have invited a matrimonial solicitor in TSR, but he is struggling to fit me in.
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    (Original post by 999tigger)
    I doubt a pen nup like that would stand and the court would ignore it.
    What do you mean?
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    (Original post by M14B)
    I am trying to qualify this statement. I have invited a matrimonial solicitor in TSR, but he is struggling to fit me in.
    What's that meant to mean?
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    (Original post by Trapz99)
    What do you mean?
    They arent legally binding, but if one exists they will follow it unless they think its unfair. making sure your partner gets nothing is hardly fair,
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    (Original post by queen-bee)
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    you need to make a space in ur box
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    (Original post by Slutty Salafi)
    you need to make a space in ur box
    Oh I didn't realise,okay
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    I'm all for the prenuptial agreement. It's simply a piece of paper she has to sign, heck it will hopefully never be seen or used again, just a quick signature and boom job done
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    (Original post by 999tigger)
    They arent legally binding, but if one exists they will follow it unless they think its unfair. making sure your partner gets nothing is hardly fair,
    Why is it not fair? If I earned my money I should be allowed to keep all of it.
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    Easy, family trust funds - protect assets without the awkwardness of a prenup
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    (Original post by queen-bee)
    What if you have children together,should men still be required to pay child support after the divorce?
    This comment shows a problem with family courts and the fact that it is assumed that the mother will get custody.
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    (Original post by joecphillips)
    This comment shows a problem with family courts and the fact that it is assumed that the mother will get custody.
    The mother usually does in most cases?
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    Tsr is full of naive student lefty types and those madly in love with that first girlfriend and so the responses you get won't be those that are rational and thought through, they will be those of a love sick child. Play the long game and do the sensible thing people
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    (Original post by queen-bee)
    The mother usually does in most cases?
    Yes they do and that is the problem.
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    (Original post by Trapz99)
    Why is it not fair? If I earned my money I should be allowed to keep all of it.
    Because there is no probision for the wife and part of that money is earned whilst you are married as a parnership. You also dont know ehether there are any children involved.

    She would have to be a very desperate or stupid wife to marry someone like that imo.
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    (Original post by 999tigger)
    Because there is no probision for the wife and part of that money is earned whilst you are married as a parnership. You also dont know ehether there are any children involved.

    She would have to be a very desperate or stupid wife to marry someone like that imo.
    But the prenup also means that I'm not allowed to take any of her money if we get divorced. It works both ways- we both keep our own money.
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    (Original post by Trapz99)
    But the prenup also means that I'm not allowed to take any of her money if we get divorced. It works both ways- we both keep our own money.
    well the courts look at it and follow the guidelines if they think its unfair they wont follow it.

    If your lucky wife owns very little before the marriage, then to deny her a penny is hardly a fair bargaining power. If you dont regularly update the prenup to take account of changes, then thats also another reason they might not uphold it. Children being the prime example.
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    Yes so it can protect either party although they're pretty much useless. I probably won't get married anyways.
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    Yeah and if my wife dared divorce me I would make her life and future happiness unbearable....impose conditions on the property such as she must sell (getting me my hard earned equity) if she 1. Cohabits 2. The children become aged 21.......honestly it wouldn't be worth divorcing me.......I call the shots #rant
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    For the girls saying no:

    If you're saying no to the prenups because it may cause doubts within the relationship, if you were to get divorced without any prenups, would you ask for the husbands money?

    This applies the other way round, for the boys, would you ask for your wife's money?
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    (Original post by UTG8)
    Easy, family trust funds - protect assets without the awkwardness of a prenup
    Kind of , but the court has exrensive powers to take all property into consideration.
 
 
 
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