Am I in the "friendship zone"?

BL2007

If a girl tells you she "raves about you to all her friends", "loves yah" and makes jokes about having kids with you fairly frequently, does it mean your in the "friendship zone" or is it not possible to tell from such a small ammount of ****ty information?

Sorry if this sounds ridiculous, but thanks in advance for any replies.

Reply 1

generalebriety

16

Small amount of ****ty information. Sorry. :p:

Reply 2

Talya

16

I guess you won't know til you ask her out?

Reply 3

BL2007

OP

Talya

I guess you won't know til you ask her out?

I know but I'd look like a tit if she only sees me as a friend, plus I wouldn't want to ruin the friendship if thats all she saw it as.

Thanks for the replies so far.

Reply 4

Nix!

11

BL2007

I know but I'd look like a tit if she only sees me as a friend, plus I wouldn't want to ruin the friendship if thats all she saw it as.

Thanks for the replies so far.

You'd only look a tit if you let it bother you. Just ask her, if she says no at least you tried. It really isn't the end of the world.

Reply 5

Yoda

12

Speak of body language also.

Reply 6

TheRandomer

18

^ Yep. I agree with that. There's not much to go on otherwise tbh

Reply 7

BL2007

OP

Yoda

Speak of body language also.

I'm not really sure. The things that i've mentioned on this thread she rarely says to me face to face, usually over msn or through text messages. But body language in general, I don't pay too much attention, although she does mess with my hair alot if thats the sort of thing you mean?

Reply 8

Yoda

12

It is looking up for bl2007. Perhaps he may be more observant, body language is most important.

Reply 9

TheRandomer

18

Good signs I think :]
Hmm, so perhaps she's just a bit shy of saying these things face to face. As we all know.. it's way easier to say things over MSN or via text. Maybe you should give a few subtle hints yourself, and just see what happens.

Reply 10

BL2007

OP

Yoda

It is looking up for bl2007. Perhaps he may be more observant, body language is most important.

What sort of body language should I be looking for then to make it a little clearer about whether she just sees me as a friend or not?

Reply 11

Toasted marshmellows

2

It depends what she is like with other guys.......look for contrast i would say

Reply 12

Louise88

Before my boyfriend and I started dating we would find excuses to touch each other. I know that sounds rather rude, but it's not, don't worry. Touching each others arms, maybe on the leg at some point, touching each others hair, face. Just things that you wouldn't usually do to a friend. Look out for that sort of thing, that's a good way of telling you if someone is attracted to you. It doesn't always work, it depends on the person. Watch how she is with you, her friends, and other men.

Nobody knows if your in the friend zone or not, and we can't guess based on the information given. If you like her, why don't you just ask her? The worst that can happen is that she will say no. If she is a true friend, she wouldn't let it get in the way of your friendship, if she doesn't feel the same way I mean. Asking is ten times easier, and quicker than observing her :p:

Reply 13

BL2007

OP

xPunkx

Good signs I think :]
Hmm, so perhaps she's just a bit shy of saying these things face to face. As we all know.. it's way easier to say things over MSN or via text. Maybe you should give a few subtle hints yourself, and just see what happens.

I'll try but i'm pretty **** when it comes to girls, to put it bluntly.

Reply 14

Yoda

12

Yoda agrees not with subtle hints, and suggests bl2007 goes for it. Looking for subtle body language is the way forward - many cannot fake it.

Reply 15

BL2007

OP

Yoda

Yoda agrees not with subtle hints, and suggests bl2007 goes for it. Looking for subtle body language is the way forward - many cannot fake it.

Should I be looking for any other sort of body language other than touching?

Reply 16

Yoda

12

Look for all body language you must.

Reply 17

BL2007

OP

When it comes down to asking her, what do you think of sending her a text saying something along the lines of "do you only see me as a friend?" That way, whether she says "why", "no" or "yes" its clear how she feels.

I know its a bit pathetic talking about it through a text message but I really don't have the balls to say it to her face (unless I was drunk - and im guessing she wouldn't take me too seriously then.) Plus, if its true that shes shy herself, she should understand, shouldnt she :s-smilie:

?

Reply 18

Yoda

12

Rather than asking, bl2007 must tell her. Perhaps asking her on a date (bl2007 must use the term date) or going for a kiss may be the best option if bl2007 wishes not to state in words. Having never faced this problem before (yoda is vastly good looking - all girls wish for more than friends with yoda), yoda knows not what he would do. Probably kiss her.

Reply 19

Louise88

It's okay to be shy, but doing it face to face would be better. Instead of asking her how she feels, if she see's you as more than a friend, why don't you just tell her that you like her? That way, she wont question you, she will take you seriously and will feel more comfortable telling you, if she does, that she likes you.

Putting it in a way so that she knows you like her, would be better than just questioning her. Obviously, you wouldn't just question someone like that without a reason, the most obvious being that you like her. It might just give her that little bit more encouragement.

Try to do it face to face though, I know it's difficult but it would be good if you did. If you really, really can't do it then phone her, text her even. Try not to worry about it too much, it'll be okay.

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