Turn on thread page Beta

Very confused about a guy???? Help :( watch

    • TSR Support Team
    Online

    20
    ReputationRep:
    TSR Support Team
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    But I can't just ask him because he is working and I'm at uni and he is bad on social networks with messaging and things and he seems to struggle making conversation in real life sometimes too. I told him it was great to see him and he replied with " yeah it was great to see everyone hope you have a good year?"
    You obviously like each other, you have a choice, either tell him and see what happens or you don't tell him and he eventually goes with someone else and you never get him.
    • #1
    • Thread Starter
    #1

    (Original post by Anonymous)
    If he likes you (I think he really does) , why doesn't he show it in front of his friends ? What's his motive ? You know ...

    And the fact he didn't pull away when you held his hand and the take a picture with me bit aswell just shows

    I think just let more things build up then nudge him a little in the sense that he will ask u out because I'm sure you wouldn't want to
    I think he just gets nervous and the fact that I am not in his friendship group I think he wonders what his friends would think but if that was the case, he wouldn't add a photo with our faces next to each other and his arm round me on social media, where his friends can see it. He must have shown it without realising it because one friend asked him "which one you got your eyes on hen?" When he was speaking to me and my friend.

    I held his hand for 10 minutes and he didn't pull away he just stayed still and let me hold his hand. Yeah!

    Yeah I don't want to ask him out because im worried incase he rejects me and one thing which confuses me about him is he never likes my photos on social media ( but he didn't like his ex girlfriends either and it took him 14 months to pluck up the courage to ask her out) and he is so awkward with messages, he either doesn't reply or he replies so generally ^^ see above in answer to other person! So he makes it difficult in that sense as I'm trying to get close to him since I don't see him everyday like I used to at school
    • #1
    • Thread Starter
    #1

    (Original post by Rock Fan)
    You obviously like each other, you have a choice, either tell him and see what happens or you don't tell him and he eventually goes with someone else and you never get him.

    That's true but I know i like him and i think he pretty much knows I like him too, so if that's the case I always wonder, why hasn't he done something?
    • TSR Support Team
    Online

    20
    ReputationRep:
    TSR Support Team
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    That's true but I know i like him and i think he pretty much knows I like him too, so if that's the case I always wonder, why hasn't he done something?
    Shy maybe, like I said doesn't have to be the guy who makes the first move, as I kept saying either say something or you lose him.
    • #1
    • Thread Starter
    #1

    (Original post by Rock Fan)
    Shy maybe, like I said doesn't have to be the guy who makes the first move, as I kept saying either say something or you lose him.

    and what can i say, since when i send him a personal message saying " glad to see you aand catch up and hope can see you again in the future" and the reply is like" yeah it is good to see EVERYONE have a good year!" like okay? what??

    i don't understand him, surely if you liked someone you would make conversation with them if they messaged you not just try and end the conversation. so then i think ah he doesnt like me, but then WHY do everything what i said above the other night ^^^ Even his friends noticed that he was standing with me all night, as some girls got very jealous.
    • #3
    #3

    (Original post by Anonymous)
    and what can i say, since when i send him a personal message saying " glad to see you aand catch up and hope can see you again in the future" and the reply is like" yeah it is good to see EVERYONE have a good year!" like okay? what??

    i don't understand him, surely if you liked someone you would make conversation with them if they messaged you not just try and end the conversation. so then i think ah he doesnt like me, but then WHY do everything what i said above the other night ^^^ Even his friends noticed that he was standing with me all night, as some girls got very jealous.
    There's something wrong with him 😫 I think get your friends to ask him on social media and say "I noticed you was hovering around (insert your name here) I can totally set you 2 up , I think she MAYBE interested to"

    By saying MAYBE doesn't put out you like him it puts out that your friend thinks that but then if he says no I don't and then your friend can say oh she said the same thing aswell that she don't like u aswell ???? Cmon this is a good idea
    • #1
    • Thread Starter
    #1

    (Original post by Anonymous)
    There's something wrong with him 😫 I think get your friends to ask him on social media and say "I noticed you was hovering around (insert your name here) I can totally set you 2 up , I think she MAYBE interested to"

    By saying MAYBE doesn't put out you like him it puts out that your friend thinks that but then if he says no I don't and then your friend can say oh she said the same thing aswell that she don't like u aswell ???? Cmon this is a good idea
    Exactly do you see why i'm like so confused wish i could work him out!! and its such a good plan, the only problem is my friend has no idea that i have liked him or that he could like me, i haven't mentioned it to her because she is one of my good friends but not my best friends and i don't know what she would think, because he is very good looking and a lot of girls fancy him, so she might also be jealous/annoyed because i know even she finds him attractive and she is taken.It's so hard to try and keep ijn contact and keep close if he doesn't respond to messages in a good way, but at the same time i don't understand WHY he doesn't respond friendly way, especially when he kept taking pictures of us on his phone and hanging round with me all night, holding hands, a hug etc. its so confusing?
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    There's this guy who has shown me strange signs for almost a year now. In September he kept sitting with me (just me and him) in all my free periods, but at first not talking ( shy perhaps..) but then he started getting chattier with me. We then added each other on social networks, but it was always me who would like posts, and we never really spoke online. But he kept staring at me in class, gave me several car lifts, he tried to sit next to me whenever possible, staring at me during every class, and lingering around in the room to walk out with just me down the corridor. And then one day I thought he had doodled his name on my folder but I'm still unsure about that. He would compliment me too in front of everyone and say to the teacher that I'm really clever, or a really nice person. One day he wanted to share a book with me, rather than just use his own. And every lunchtime he all of a sudden seemed to be wherever I was, and started listening to the same music as me, possibly on purpose.

    Then we had a strange time in January where we kinda stopped talking, we stopped sitting together, and everything sorta faded out, for no valid reason. He then wrote on some paper one day "what's going on??" ( not to me personally he just wrote it)

    But recently he's starting talking to me again, and keeps looking at me. He's been asking me strange questions like homework questions/ answers that he had in front of him but "just wanted to double check with me.." He also asked me which building we were in for next period, when he had already put his bag in there, so he already knew the answer to the question. I really don't know what to do anymore or what to think? I thought we had something and then I gave up, but now I'm beginning to wonder if he still likes me..Anyone suggest anything??
    i think you should ask him out, sometimes you have to make the first move , every relationship should be 50/50 i think because its what you give and what they put in too. However the way he is behaving does seem slightly different but i mean everyone has different ways of showing love and liking someone , so maybe this is his way. I think you should be direct and ask him so you know because before you know it if you dont ask you may never get a chance or there may never be a tomorrow.,,
    Offline

    0
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Exactly do you see why i'm like so confused wish i could work him out!! and its such a good plan, the only problem is my friend has no idea that i have liked him or that he could like me, i haven't mentioned it to her because she is one of my good friends but not my best friends and i don't know what she would think, because he is very good looking and a lot of girls fancy him, so she might also be jealous/annoyed because i know even she finds him attractive and she is taken.It's so hard to try and keep ijn contact and keep close if he doesn't respond to messages in a good way, but at the same time i don't understand WHY he doesn't respond friendly way, especially when he kept taking pictures of us on his phone and hanging round with me all night, holding hands, a hug etc. its so confusing?
    But that girl must of noticed that he was hovering and she is in a relationship so why should she be jealous ?

    If girls fancy him why hasn't he went for them? Does he do this to other girls aswell?
    • #3
    #3

    🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔
    • #1
    • Thread Starter
    #1

    (Original post by Ria25)
    i think you should ask him out, sometimes you have to make the first move , every relationship should be 50/50 i think because its what you give and what they put in too. However the way he is behaving does seem slightly different but i mean everyone has different ways of showing love and liking someone , so maybe this is his way. I think you should be direct and ask him so you know because before you know it if you dont ask you may never get a chance or there may never be a tomorrow.,,
    Yes i know exactly where you are coming from with that.. great point, but i don't want to spoil our friendship by asking him out unless im sure that he likes me. And i don't think hes looking for a girlfriend as he told me hes focusing on his job at the moment and he doesn't want to be working away and not see his grilfriend. But i'd be fine with that since im away from home most of the time anyway
    • #1
    • Thread Starter
    #1

    (Original post by jasmine43)
    But that girl must of noticed that he was hovering and she is in a relationship so why should she be jealous ?

    If girls fancy him why hasn't he went for them? Does he do this to other girls aswell?

    She did probably but don't think she thought much of it or payed much attention as she was talking to some other people there that we know or on her phone to her boyfriend. I don't know because most people think he's attractive so feel annoyed when he talks to other people (e.g me)

    I'm not sure, he hasn't been this close to other girls i don't think, he was only like that with me.
    • #1
    • Thread Starter
    #1

    i just don't know what to do? keep worrying that i'm overthinking and he doesn't actually like me and maybe thatas why hes not talkative on social networks, but in real life hes shy around me so maybe its just him being shy hes so confusing
    • TSR Support Team
    Online

    20
    ReputationRep:
    TSR Support Team
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    i just don't know what to do? keep worrying that i'm overthinking and he doesn't actually like me and maybe thatas why hes not talkative on social networks, but in real life hes shy around me so maybe its just him being shy hes so confusing
    Don't mean to be horrible but you have got over 200 replies here and most of them are telling you to talk to him and ask him out.
    • #3
    #3

    (Original post by Anonymous)
    i just don't know what to do? keep worrying that i'm overthinking and he doesn't actually like me and maybe thatas why hes not talkative on social networks, but in real life hes shy around me so maybe its just him being shy hes so confusing
    Hey ignore what people are saying -about talking to him yeah I've mentioned that and other people but if that's not what u want to do then that's not what u want to do ! We have to find other ways around it but the plan that someone mentioned about getting your friend to ask is a good idea
    • TSR Support Team
    Online

    20
    ReputationRep:
    TSR Support Team
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hey ignore what people are saying -about talking to him yeah I've mentioned that and other people but if that's not what u want to do then that's not what u want to do ! We have to find other ways around it but the plan that someone mentioned about getting your friend to ask is a good idea
    Not being funny usually unless you ask you will not know, not all friends are reliable either.
    • #3
    #3

    (Original post by Rock Fan)
    Not being funny usually unless you ask you will not know, not all friends are reliable either.
    true! I agree!
    • #1
    • Thread Starter
    #1

    (Original post by Rock Fan)
    Not being funny usually unless you ask you will not know, not all friends are reliable either.
    Should I ask him if he wants to hang out next week or would that be strange? Considering I'm not in his friendship group or anything I wouldn't know what to invite him to or whatnot to suggest and I'm sure he would say no Snd I don't want to spoil our friendship
    • #1
    • Thread Starter
    #1

    (Original post by Anonymous)
    true! I agree!
    See my reply to rock fan 😁
    • TSR Support Team
    Online

    20
    ReputationRep:
    TSR Support Team
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Should I ask him if he wants to hang out next week or would that be strange? Considering I'm not in his friendship group or anything I wouldn't know what to invite him to or whatnot to suggest and I'm sure he would say no Snd I don't want to spoil our friendship
    You got nothing to lose by asking to hang out with him.
 
 
 
Reply
Submit reply
Turn on thread page Beta
TSR Support Team

We have a brilliant team of more than 60 Support Team members looking after discussions on The Student Room, helping to make it a fun, safe and useful place to hang out.

Updated: June 13, 2017
Poll
Do protests make a difference in political decisions?

The Student Room, Get Revising and Marked by Teachers are trading names of The Student Room Group Ltd.

Register Number: 04666380 (England and Wales), VAT No. 806 8067 22 Registered Office: International House, Queens Road, Brighton, BN1 3XE

Write a reply...
Reply
Hide
Reputation gems: You get these gems as you gain rep from other members for making good contributions and giving helpful advice.