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    I am in the same situation as you, well im out of it now.
    The guy acted exactly the same way you described, i was always the first to text him and planned things, but really what was happening was that he was just playing the field, i was merely a distraction whilst he was in class and when i wasn't with him i was out of his mind completely unless i texted him and he really enjoyed the attention. he even told me that he did everything apart from sex with some girl and thought he was in a relationship with her over the weekend, but she was doing it to get back with her ex which she did(he used this as an excuse as to why he didnt reply to my text, saying he had a weekend from hell because of this girl). i wouldnt waste to much time on this guy, if he is really at all interested he will pursue you like crazy and thats more than just wanting to hang around with you. at the end of the day you can either ask him if hes interested in a relationship at the moment and if he likes you or just flap around getting hurt and confused by him. just take my words with a pinch of salt perhaps hes not at all like the guy i was chasing. Best of luck
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    (Original post by Rock Fan)
    You got nothing to lose by asking to hang out with him.
    what should i suggest we do? i think cinema is a bit unsociable but he is shy with conversation anyway so maybe watch a movie at one of our houses or like maybe go on a walk as he likes walking idk? what do you think? i dont want it to seem too serious and i'm 99 percent certain he'll probably say no
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    (Original post by squirelltree)
    I am in the same situation as you, well im out of it now.
    The guy acted exactly the same way you described, i was always the first to text him and planned things, but really what was happening was that he was just playing the field, i was merely a distraction whilst he was in class and when i wasn't with him i was out of his mind completely unless i texted him and he really enjoyed the attention. he even told me that he did everything apart from sex with some girl and thought he was in a relationship with her over the weekend, but she was doing it to get back with her ex which she did(he used this as an excuse as to why he didnt reply to my text, saying he had a weekend from hell because of this girl). i wouldnt waste to much time on this guy, if he is really at all interested he will pursue you like crazy and thats more than just wanting to hang around with you. at the end of the day you can either ask him if hes interested in a relationship at the moment and if he likes you or just flap around getting hurt and confused by him. just take my words with a pinch of salt perhaps hes not at all like the guy i was chasing. Best of luck
    okay im gonna ask him to meet up! but i don't know what to suggest that we do, he'll probs reject me anyway
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    okay im gonna ask him to meet up! but i don't know what to suggest that we do, he'll probs reject me anyway
    He shouldn't reject you! As it's just a hang out thing. So it will be best to just put yourself out there and then maybe you can hint something when you 2 are sitting a lone something about you liking him or whatever
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    He shouldn't reject you! As it's just a hang out thing. So it will be best to just put yourself out there and then maybe you can hint something when you 2 are sitting a lone something about you liking him or whatever
    okay! what do you think i should suggest to him? like whats a good thing to do together ? i have no idea id quite like it somewhere not so public so we can not worry about other people we know seeing us, but also somewhere exciting or thathe would like if you get me

    do you think he does like me?
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    okay! what do you think i should suggest to him? like whats a good thing to do together ? i have no idea id quite like it somewhere not so public so we can not worry about other people we know seeing us, but also somewhere exciting or thathe would like if you get me

    do you think he does like me?
    Ideas: aquarium, walk in somewhere interesting, theatre or gig, restaurants,
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    I mean he may like you Bc of what he had said to u the 'what happened?' Thing so maybe ask him out as a friend at first just to be sure?

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    Ideas: aquarium, walk in somewhere interesting, theatre or gig, restaurants,
    thanks! i know he likes outdoors so i thought maybe a walk followed by a drink?
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    I mean he may like you Bc of what he had said to u the 'what happened?' Thing so maybe ask him out as a friend at first just to be sure?

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    what do you mean because of the " what happened?" cant remember what you mean
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    Like when u guys stopped talking a little and he was like what happened

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    thanks! i know he likes outdoors so i thought maybe a walk followed by a drink?
    Yeah followed by a drink at a bar !
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    what do you mean because of the " what happened?" cant remember what you mean
    Hey have u asked him yet
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    Like when u guys stopped talking a little and he was like what happened

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    oh okay i get it!
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    Hey have u asked him yet
    no not yet i'm so so scared and also going to ask on sunday as think hes with friends tomorrow
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    Yeah followed by a drink at a bar !
    okay fab! im worrying that ive overthought everything, in your personal opinion what percent do you think it is that he likes me?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    There's this guy who has shown me strange signs for almost a year now. In September he kept sitting with me (just me and him) in all my free periods, but at first not talking ( shy perhaps..) but then he started getting chattier with me. We then added each other on social networks, but it was always me who would like posts, and we never really spoke online. But he kept staring at me in class, gave me several car lifts, he tried to sit next to me whenever possible, staring at me during every class, and lingering around in the room to walk out with just me down the corridor. And then one day I thought he had doodled his name on my folder but I'm still unsure about that. He would compliment me too in front of everyone and say to the teacher that I'm really clever, or a really nice person. One day he wanted to share a book with me, rather than just use his own. And every lunchtime he all of a sudden seemed to be wherever I was, and started listening to the same music as me, possibly on purpose.

    Then we had a strange time in January where we kinda stopped talking, we stopped sitting together, and everything sorta faded out, for no valid reason. He then wrote on some paper one day "what's going on??" ( not to me personally he just wrote it)

    But recently he's starting talking to me again, and keeps looking at me. He's been asking me strange questions like homework questions/ answers that he had in front of him but "just wanted to double check with me.." He also asked me which building we were in for next period, when he had already put his bag in there, so he already knew the answer to the question. I really don't know what to do anymore or what to think? I thought we had something and then I gave up, but now I'm beginning to wonder if he still likes me..Anyone suggest anything??
    Smear yourself in yogurt and screech, we dig that.
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    Smear yourself in yogurt and screech, we dig that.
    what??
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    what??
    Greek, not fromage frei, it's too pungent.
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    im asking soon, what do i say? a drink at night somewhere? a walk then a drink? or a movie? want something casualish but he seems more confident where alcohol is there hahah
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    im asking soon, what do i say? a drink at night somewhere? a walk then a drink? or a movie? want something casualish but he seems more confident where alcohol is there hahah
    Go for a walk and then drink if he's more confident with alcohol
 
 
 
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