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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    In my opinion, all my friends have betrayed me. Basically I broke up with girlfriend on a Monday, took a few days to sort my head out and then told my 'friends' on the Friday. That Friday night we went out to a club and she was there. It turns out that one of my the members of my 'squad' made out with my ex gf. Others went out of their way to turn me away so I did not see. Others saw/found out but did not tell me.

    What do I do?
    It was really bad of your friends and your ex to do this, it shows a lack of respect for your feelings and understandably causes you pain. It sounds like your other friends were just trying to protect you and avoid friction, but it's a tricky situation. Have you confronted the gentleman who has kissed your ex?
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    (Original post by whorace)
    Have you ever been in a serious relationship? It's just you clearly don't understand the emotions at play here.
    Yes, I have, and I was a wreck for a while afterwards. And if my mate happened to kiss her while I was "grieving" then that's my issue, not his, not hers. And if I felt bad about all I'd do is pull him aside and tell him that it made me uncomfortable. But then again, kissing is nothing, it takes more than a kiss to make a bond.
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    (Original post by Cashmere_Cat)
    It was really bad of your friends and your ex to do this, it shows a lack of respect for your feelings and understandably causes you pain. It sounds like your other friends were just trying to protect you and avoid friction, but it's a tricky situation. Have you confronted the gentleman who has kissed your ex?
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    (Original post by Cashmere_Cat)
    It was really bad of your friends and your ex to do this, it shows a lack of respect for your feelings and understandably causes you pain. It sounds like your other friends were just trying to protect you and avoid friction, but it's a tricky situation. Have you confronted the gentleman who has kissed your ex?
    Don't you think confront is a strong word, considering it was just a kiss?
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    (Original post by Lime-man)
    Yes, I have, and I was a wreck for a while afterwards. And if my mate happened to kiss her while I was "grieving" then that's my issue, not his, not hers. And if I felt bad about all I'd do is pull him aside and tell him that it made me uncomfortable. But then again, kissing is nothing, it takes more than a kiss to make a bond.
    Agreed, but I sincerely hope you don't fall on hard times because you have very low standards for friendship, I would never let someone in my life who did this.
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    (Original post by Cashmere_Cat)
    It was really bad of your friends and your ex to do this, it shows a lack of respect for your feelings and understandably causes you pain. It sounds like your other friends were just trying to protect you and avoid friction, but it's a tricky situation. Have you confronted the gentleman who has kissed your ex?
    I have not as yet. I only just found out about this tonight. He subsequently found out I knew but I have not had an opportunity to confront him as of yet.

    What would I even say if I did confront him?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I have not as yet. I only just found out about this tonight. He subsequently found out I knew but I have not had an opportunity to confront him as of yet.

    What would I even say if I did confront him?
    As I said previously,

    "look, it really wasn't great seeing you kiss my ex, I'm not saying hands off or anything, but it would have been nice to have a heads up".
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    That's peak ! Hope your ok 😟 But don't take it to heart ( I know easier said than done) what's happened has happened, you can't change it ... That shows how loyal they are or arn't should I say😠 But you should definitely talk to them about it and get it off your chest. Allow the ex, she probably did it to get you jealous.
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    That's peak ! Hope your ok 😟 But don't take it to heart ( I know easier said than done) what's happened has happened, you can't change it ... That shows how loyal they are or arn't should I say😠 But you should definitely talk to them about it and get it off your chest. Allow the ex, she probably did it to get you jealous.
    But like what do I say to them? And how can one move forward with them after arguably the biggest betrayal possible? Do I move forward with them? My instinct tells me not.
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    (Original post by whorace)
    Get them all together. Shout at him and tell the guy who kissed her you never want to see him again, this will scare the cowards who didn't tell you, make a note of the ones who led you away they're the closes things you have to friends
    Why are the people who prevented me from seeing the closest things I have to friends? Surely, they just tried to hide it from me to avoid a difficult scenario?
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    She's your ex... Bring up this imaginary 'bro code' all you want, the moment you broke up with her, she became free to date other people.

    The friend that kissed her didn't betray you if you ask me, the ones that were trying to get you to look the other way are the ones that you should be warey of.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    But like what do I say to them? And how can one move forward with them after arguably the biggest betrayal possible? Do I move forward with them? My instinct tells me not.
    did you speak to them ? Obviously you can continue to socialise withthem if you like but just know they're not your real friends if they did that. Unless they do something to prove that they are but you should take it as a lesson. I hope your ok 😔
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    My problem isn't with my ex gf. After we broke up yes she is technically free to do whatever (although being so ready a few days later did surprise me). My problem is with my so called friends
    The guy who did the kissing- maybe a bit insensitive, but she isnt wth you any more.

    the ones who turned you away so you didnt see perhaps they were good friends becayse they knew you would get worked up amd wmated to avoid trouble.

    Loyalty is really importnat, but in this case I don think theyve done much wrong.
 
 
 
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