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Have lost all faith in humanity

Unfortunately, I am finding myself increasingly withdrawn and distant from people as I can no longer trust anyone at all/ think everyone is just out gor number 1. Before I get slated for going on to tell a woe is me sob story I'm not looking for sympathy I just wanna try and explain why I feel this way.

Recent events are petty but pretty much are the tip of the iceburg. For instance on the bus the other day and an old woman gets on. I'm on the middle seats so I got out my way for her so she could sit but all the gits at the front didn't bother. Pi$$ed me off royally. While out in town watched an old blind man try cross the street while loads of people walked passed without offering help. Eventually I went over and did.

These minor events along with the major ones in my life make me think that people are all selfish and out for themselves.

For instance so far in life so far, my father has left us, my mother has slept around, one of her men used to beat me up and she still went back to him, she's always chose men over my siblings and I, we have no money/lived in various rough areas and that makes life tough, bf's have cheated on me, men have tried using me for money(hasn't worked - hahaha!), i have lazy siblings. I'm the only one that has worked hard at school (rubbish govt schools at that) and had any ambitions and not even one person in life has ever turned round and said to me 'your doing really well, good girl, well done.' I think that's all I've ever really wanted.

I thought at uni I might meet a better type of people but the vast majority again only from my experience have been back stabber, classcist, racist, naive types who are a world away from my life experiences/can't relate to me. Most uni kids seem really ungreatful especially the better off public school educated types. One girl at my hall in uni's parents bought her a brand new audi tt and she hardly used it and let it collect dust for a year while I'd be out cleaning my 10 yr old fiesta every weekend (which I sold after a few months couse I couldn't afford the up keep.) It just seems life is very unjust and although I would say I am happy, I am dissapointed in life. As a child I really thought things would become better when I was an adult.

The question I'm trying to get at really is does anyone else feel there are no good people left? It's very depressing and disheartening.

Reply 1

username72629

What ever you do don't get a job in retail.

Just because you haven't met the nicer people that are around, doesn't mean they don't exist.

Reply 2

kimble

1

C'est la vie.
I fell this is a lesson everyone learns at one point in their life. Life sucks. No one really cares if their not benefitting. ITs dog eat dog etc. etc. Maybe I'm just a cynic. But ... it's true. Look after no. 1, becuase everyone else is there to try and make your life hell. And the ones who don't you have to treasure but in the end they will probally stab you in the back.

sorry about the bitter post.

Reply 3

matthew.swallow

4

kimble

C'est la vie.
I fell this is a lesson everyone learns at one point in their life. Life sucks. No one really cares if their not benefitting. ITs dog eat dog etc. etc. Maybe I'm just a cynic. But ... it's true. Look after no. 1, becuase everyone else is there to try and make your life hell. And the ones who don't you have to treasure but in the end they will probally stab you in the back.

sorry about the bitter post.

mmm... that is abit cynical. I think it really does depend on the people you hang around with; the people who I hang around with are not only out for themselves and activley care about others feelings.

If people were only out for themselves you wouldn't get people joining the RAF, Army, RN etc- you wouldn't get people becoming doctors, charity workers, nurses. Trust me the pay in the RAF really wouldn't be enougth to temp me to be shot at for my own gain :biggrin:

There are people in the world that are nasty, spiteful and will put themselves first- however in my expereince if you show these people that there is more to life than number one they will change.

I do however agree that there is now a general lack of respect for people, as you say young people will no longer help the elderley cross the street, give up their seat, people won't say hello to people anymore- they will look the other way. This is a result of society changing, and in my opinion can only be a bad thing.

To the OP- I am really sorry that you feel that everyone in society is like that; perhaps you should come to Reading and meet my m8s :rolleyes:

But then perhap I am an idealist?

Reply 4

didi997

10

It looks like you've had it pretty tough in your life. I know what you mean about these people.

I have sometimes felt as though the world is full of bad, selfish, backstabbing, two-faced *******s, because so many people I know are like this. It's always the people you trust the most and the people you think will stick by you forever that turn around and stab you in the back. But what you've got to remember is there are some amazing people out there. People who always put others before themselves. It's just the bad always outweighs the good and sometimes we forget.

I don't know where I'm going with this tbh. People nowadays have become so ignorant and selfish. But there really are good people out there. :smile:

Reply 5

Adam83

12

i feel that way too, Melissa

Reply 6

Elegy

I'm fairly misanthropic myself, but I don't let it bother me. I believe most people are incredibly selfish, incompetent, unfair and hypocritical at most things but that's just the way life is and the way people are. It's highly unlikely you'll be able to change the world, no matter what some might say and so if you want to feel happier, it would be more productive to lower your standards rather than getting upset or angry with people.

Reply 7

Sweet-Euphoria

Melissa85

Unfortunately, I am finding myself increasingly withdrawn and distant from people as I can no longer trust anyone at all/ think everyone is just out gor number 1. Before I get slated for going on to tell a woe is me sob story I'm not looking for sympathy I just wanna try and explain why I feel this way.

Recent events are petty but pretty much are the tip of the iceburg. For instance on the bus the other day and an old woman gets on. I'm on the middle seats so I got out my way for her so she could sit but all the gits at the front didn't bother. Pi$$ed me off royally. While out in town watched an old blind man try cross the street while loads of people walked passed without offering help. Eventually I went over and did.

These minor events along with the major ones in my life make me think that people are all selfish and out for themselves.

For instance so far in life so far, my father has left us, my mother has slept around, one of her men used to beat me up and she still went back to him, she's always chose men over my siblings and I, we have no money/lived in various rough areas and that makes life tough, bf's have cheated on me, men have tried using me for money(hasn't worked - hahaha!), i have lazy siblings. I'm the only one that has worked hard at school (rubbish govt schools at that) and had any ambitions and not even one person in life has ever turned round and said to me 'your doing really well, good girl, well done.' I think that's all I've ever really wanted.

I thought at uni I might meet a better type of people but the vast majority again only from my experience have been back stabber, classcist, racist, naive types who are a world away from my life experiences/can't relate to me. Most uni kids seem really ungreatful especially the better off public school educated types. One girl at my hall in uni's parents bought her a brand new audi tt and she hardly used it and let it collect dust for a year while I'd be out cleaning my 10 yr old fiesta every weekend (which I sold after a few months couse I couldn't afford the up keep.) It just seems life is very unjust and although I would say I am happy, I am dissapointed in life. As a child I really thought things would become better when I was an adult.

The question I'm trying to get at really is does anyone else feel there are no good people left? It's very depressing and disheartening.

I feel exactly the same. I've had a very unique upbringing that could be compared to very few people.

As a result of my upbringing I've always had a cynical view of life, moreover I really don't like people.

Reply 8

Cromulent

12

Has it occurred to any of you that your attitudes might make other people not want to think about you? If you come across as uncaring / untrusting / aggressive why should someone put themselves out for you?

You need to be open to meeting new people and in turn people will be open to you. If you are cynical, cold and uncaring then do you blame people for being uncaring? Would you put yourself out for someone if they behaved in the manner you act towards people? That is the question you need to ask yourself.

Reply 9

yellow96

15

Hixxy

What ever you do don't get a job in retail.

I concur. Also, try to do your shopping via the internet. Nothing deadens the soul like an hour in Tesco.

Reply 10

matthew.swallow

4

Cromulent

Has it occurred to any of you that your attitudes might make other people not want to think about you? If you come across as uncaring / untrusting / aggressive why should someone put themselves out for you?

You need to be open to meeting new people and in turn people will be open to you. If you are cynical, cold and uncaring then do you blame people for being uncaring? Would you put yourself out for someone if they behaved in the manner you act towards people? That is the question you need to ask yourself.

I think cromulent has a good point. Also I think people are always looking for the worst bits of our country/world- not the best bits. I think that if you looked hard enougth you'd find that people are not so bad.

Reply 11

Dinendal Leralonde

1

Thelfo

I concur. Also, try to do your shopping via the internet. Nothing deadens the soul like an hour in Tesco.

Nothing deadens the soul like shopping for an hour at any supermarket in Nottingham. I thought the Tesco in Ashby had it's fair share of tossers, but I can't go anywhere in Notts without:

Bastarding children - one the other day was, without regard for anyone else, and without the parents doing anything about it, cartwheeling down the aisles, occasionally hitting people. No one did a ****ing thing. I've also had kids run into me because they weren't looking where they were going. And the parents glare at me for this!?
Bastarding families - Why is it every family acts like they're the only ones doing any shopping? They park their trolleys in the centre of the aisle, and block off the rest of it while they all crowd around one item, or just stand there talking.
Bastarding old people - They dawdle, they park their trolleys sideways, in twos or threes, partaking in mindless, ignorant gossip, fully aware other people are wanting to get past their decaying, useless asses. Just because you're about ready to kick the bucket, doesn't mean you have to make me suffer either!
Bastarding people in general - People will tend to block the aisle you're wanting to go down, watch you, and, as soon as you're about to make your way through what little space there is, move quickly and stand there, apparently just to spite you.

Sorry about the bitter rant about shopping, but it had to be said. And kind of ties in to what the OP was trying to get across. There are three types of people. The kind that will go out of their way to help someone, be nice to people, and, in turn end up depressed. The ignorant SoBs that are out to do sweet FA except get in your way and make things 25x harder. And then there're the ignorant lazy bastards that get handed everything on a silver platter and do **** all for or with it, and still get everything they wanted.

I actually used to be quite reserved, and would hand out favours to people just because it was the right thing to do, and never release my anger in a healthy manner. Now, I'm actually starting to release that anger in sharp, hurtful, sarcastic (albeit quite funny) lines, and now people are actually starting to warm to me. Funny world, isn't it?

However, there's one person that, while still liking the fact I'm now saying exactly what's on my mind instead of keeping it bottled up, did give me a sound piece of advice that does make sense. He told me, stick to your convictions, and don't change for anyone, because, at the end of the day, you will meet someone amazing who feels the exact same way, and all that effort will eventually be worth it.

I know I've kind of gone off on tangents and on semi-rants that might appear to have nothing to do with the topic, but I hope I've said something that will make sense to you and allow something to click.

And, finally, I'll leave you with this. Find someone, anyone, be it a friend, partner or work colleague, who feels very like how you feel, or at least will be able to stand your ranting. Because, even if you have that one person you can share your feelings with, it'll at least mean you'll be able to vent off some of those angry, depressive feelings, and start to create better impressions about yourself for other people, meaning they might become more likely to go out of their way for you.

Oh yeah, and we need a thread/forum for shopping rants. It would easily become the most posted in :P

Reply 12

Eau

15

Melissa85

Unfortunately, I am finding myself increasingly withdrawn and distant from people as I can no longer trust anyone at all/ think everyone is just out gor number 1. Before I get slated for going on to tell a woe is me sob story I'm not looking for sympathy I just wanna try and explain why I feel this way.

Recent events are petty but pretty much are the tip of the iceburg. For instance on the bus the other day and an old woman gets on. I'm on the middle seats so I got out my way for her so she could sit but all the gits at the front didn't bother. Pi$$ed me off royally. While out in town watched an old blind man try cross the street while loads of people walked passed without offering help. Eventually I went over and did.

These minor events along with the major ones in my life make me think that people are all selfish and out for themselves.

For instance so far in life so far, my father has left us, my mother has slept around, one of her men used to beat me up and she still went back to him, she's always chose men over my siblings and I, we have no money/lived in various rough areas and that makes life tough, bf's have cheated on me, men have tried using me for money(hasn't worked - hahaha!), i have lazy siblings. I'm the only one that has worked hard at school (rubbish govt schools at that) and had any ambitions and not even one person in life has ever turned round and said to me 'your doing really well, good girl, well done.' I think that's all I've ever really wanted.

I thought at uni I might meet a better type of people but the vast majority again only from my experience have been back stabber, classcist, racist, naive types who are a world away from my life experiences/can't relate to me. Most uni kids seem really ungreatful especially the better off public school educated types. One girl at my hall in uni's parents bought her a brand new audi tt and she hardly used it and let it collect dust for a year while I'd be out cleaning my 10 yr old fiesta every weekend (which I sold after a few months couse I couldn't afford the up keep.) It just seems life is very unjust and although I would say I am happy, I am dissapointed in life. As a child I really thought things would become better when I was an adult.

The question I'm trying to get at really is does anyone else feel there are no good people left? It's very depressing and disheartening.

I am sorry to hear, but all you could do is stay strong.

Do not let things like these affect you too much - or else you would never be happy.

Reply 13

Jelkin

17

I know exactly what you mean. I mean, I've been fairly lucky with my life and my problems aren't major, but at least I try to be grateful for it - the people I know at uni who've had everything handed to them and whine about stupid things really anger me. I know so many people at home who've been through so much crap in life and cope, but a lot of people here have no idea about any of it. There was a girl at school whose parents bought her a new car with a personalised number plate, and she totaled it, so they bought her another and she did the same. Not sure where I'm going with this so I'll leave it there.

By the way, well done for going through crap and getting on with it. I really do admire that in a person - I have a friend with cervical cancer and the way she copes just blows my mind. Good luck at uni and you'll end up a better person. I'm sure you'll find decent people someday :smile:

Reply 14

Joric

Melissa85

These are signs of depression.

Reply 15

Melissa85

OP

Has it occurred to any of you that your attitudes might make other people not want to think about you? If you come across as uncaring / untrusting / aggressive why should someone put themselves out for you?

You need to be open to meeting new people and in turn people will be open to you. If you are cynical, cold and uncaring then do you blame people for being uncaring? Would you put yourself out for someone if they behaved in the manner you act towards people? That is the question you need to ask yourself.

Do you think I have not thought of this? You have missed my point completely. I have been and still am courteous and polite when I meet people. I used to go out of my way to help people but have stopped doing so cause i rarely even get a thanks back.

These are signs of depression.

ha, even if i thought i was depressed i would never take no drugs. I am more dissapointed really.

OP. so what? Life is ****ty deal with it.

Yes this is my philosophy now though I'm not closed to the idea that there may be some good one day.

Reply 16

h82think

14

Melissa85

Unfortunately, I am finding myself increasingly withdrawn and distant from people as I can no longer trust anyone at all/ think everyone is just out gor number 1. Before I get slated for going on to tell a woe is me sob story I'm not looking for sympathy I just wanna try and explain why I feel this way.

Recent events are petty but pretty much are the tip of the iceburg. For instance on the bus the other day and an old woman gets on. I'm on the middle seats so I got out my way for her so she could sit but all the gits at the front didn't bother. Pi$$ed me off royally. While out in town watched an old blind man try cross the street while loads of people walked passed without offering help. Eventually I went over and did.

These minor events along with the major ones in my life make me think that people are all selfish and out for themselves.

For instance so far in life so far, my father has left us, my mother has slept around, one of her men used to beat me up and she still went back to him, she's always chose men over my siblings and I, we have no money/lived in various rough areas and that makes life tough, bf's have cheated on me, men have tried using me for money(hasn't worked - hahaha!), i have lazy siblings. I'm the only one that has worked hard at school (rubbish govt schools at that) and had any ambitions and not even one person in life has ever turned round and said to me 'your doing really well, good girl, well done.' I think that's all I've ever really wanted.

I thought at uni I might meet a better type of people but the vast majority again only from my experience have been back stabber, classcist, racist, naive types who are a world away from my life experiences/can't relate to me. Most uni kids seem really ungreatful especially the better off public school educated types. One girl at my hall in uni's parents bought her a brand new audi tt and she hardly used it and let it collect dust for a year while I'd be out cleaning my 10 yr old fiesta every weekend (which I sold after a few months couse I couldn't afford the up keep.) It just seems life is very unjust and although I would say I am happy, I am dissapointed in life. As a child I really thought things would become better when I was an adult.

The question I'm trying to get at really is does anyone else feel there are no good people left? It's very depressing and disheartening.

You seem like quite the pessimist.

You should use your anger to do something about it! I would start off by sending the owner of the audi tt some disturbing photos from third world countries, with some statistics saying how the cost of the car could have paid for ??? amount of people eating or clean water. When I'm at the back of a bus, and young people at the front of the bus do not offer elderly people a seat, I stand up and shout at them!

As for people being out for themselves maybe they do it as just like you, they do not know who to trust- therefore if you stop trusting you will be just as bad as they are!

Reply 17

username47781

20

Joric

Melissa85

These are signs of depression.

I agree, see a counsellor.

Reply 18

The Thinker

Believe it or not your brain changes the way you perceive the world to be in line with what you think the world is like. If that makes sense.

So if you think people are all *******s you will pick up on every little ****ty person and action around you. You will be much more likely to miss the good people/things that are happening around you.

I am an optimist. I always look on the bright side of life and people. I focus on what is good about the people I meet rather than the bad. It works for me, although I have not grown up in a big city which is probably a reason that this is easier for me.

I advise you try it, Its not like you've got anything to lose. In the words of monty python "always look on the bright side of life"

Reply 19

Duran Duran

If you start worrying about things in the world, you'll spend the whole of your life doing it. Look at the bright side of things.

Have lost all faith in humanity

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