drunk blurtages

Ok Im in a awkward situation right now. Basically ive been with this guy for a few weeks now, but its just like a bit of fun over the summer type thing since he’s off to uni in September, and we’re both ok with that and with it not going any further than that.

But the other night we were out with mates and I was quite drunk, and when im drunk I blurt out really ridiculous things, some are true, some is absolute gibberish and some I don’t really mean but they just come out :s-smilie:

. well anyway I was with him and I have no clue why, I don’t even remember saying it, but apparently I said “I love you”. well in actual fact I don’t lol, but even though ive text him explaining that I was drunk and stuff and that I didn’t mean it I think he thinks I was for real and is kind of avoiding me/hasn’t text back or called. So now im stuck. Whats the best thing to do?

Reply 1

ClareR

Did you try to say 'oh i didnt mean to say i love you... i dont love you really...' might just have been digging!
(maybe that upset him a little)

When you were sober did he just go to you 'you told me you loved me' and if so what did he say when he told you that? did he look happy / sad or what?

Theres not really much you can do that i can see but try to forget about it and hope he does to? try to laugh it off sort of thing?

Id try not to worry about it too much, if he cant get over it then it doesnt say the best for your relationship and maybe it will come to an end before september anyway?

But tricky situation.. sorry this has been like no help!

Reply 2

campbell87

The balls in his court, you've explained to him that you didn't mean it in the serious-we-should-get-married way, for all he knew you were saying it like you would to a friend. If he isn't mature enough to see that, or is foolish enough to run away with his tail betwen his legs because he suddenly has a bad case of commitifobe-isis because he has taken it way to literally then it shows you just what kind of person you are with and your probably better of without him.

Reply 3

penny_lane89

Im not quite sure what I did afterwards-I think it was as i was saying bye so i musta left straight after lol. But yeah i just hope it isnt really awkward, i like the whole "i was saying it as a friend" idea-yeah that musta been why i said it :s-smilie:

I just really dont want things to become awkward before summers even begun!

Reply 4

Wez

Do guys actually take "I love you" that seriously? Actions speak louder than words. "I love you" means nothing to me. Only actions and behaviour count for me.

Reply 5

Louise88

I know many people, including myself who do the whole "Oh I love you" thing while drunk. It never bothers anyone since i've only ever said it to my boyfriend or to a close friend. But a lot of people do it, and it's just drunken, nothing that should be taken too seriously.

Just say you were drunk, you were being friendly, whatever. That's all it was and if he wants to believe otherwise then there is nothing you can do i'm afraid. He'll stop avoiding you eventually i'm sure, hopefully things wont be too awkward but it's I do find it slightly odd that he is taking it so seriously. Most people know that when people are drunk, most of the things they say are just the result of the alcohol, nothing more, nothing less. Give him time, he'll come round.

Reply 6

Epitomessence

Just tell him you were drunk.

Reply 7

Hannah_S

I did that to my boyfriend after we'd been together 2 weeks, he knew I was drunk and didn't take it very seriously because I also told my best friend I loved her and my friend's boyfriend who I'd only just met when he said I could use his bathroom.

Maybe you should talk to him face to face, it might be a bit awkward, but at least you're know what's going on

Reply 8

abc101

Bit silly of him to take it seriously. One of my mates gave me a hug the other day and was like 'I love you' but that's what he does when he's drunk, you just tend to humour the person and go, 'Yeah, I love you too!' You could just go with the 'I hope you don't feel weird after the other night, I meant I love you as a good friend.' Guess it's kinda embarassing though, I occasionally let slip 'Love you' if I'm saying bye to someone just coz that's what I always say to my family when I'm saying bye, people generally don't tend to take it to heart though.