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    So this guy and I keep coming back to each other and a few weeks ago somthing bad happened and we decided it was for the best we stopped every form of communication cos I really needed to move on for my sake and he was too self destructive to not mess it up with me.

    This morning I woke up to find a good few messages from him sent in the middle of the night and they were dead emotional about life and so I reply in depth cos I obviously still care for him and then he replies once and leaves!?!?

    What does this mean?
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    He wants to give you his D and is being emotional to try and get you to accept his D.
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    Yoube been here before. decide whether you are ok with him doing this. If you are not then tell him and also how youd like him to communicate woth you, Then if he cant, ask him not to bother as youd like to move on.

    It means he's selfish and doesnt respect your agreement not to talk.
    he's inonsiderate because he doesnt appreciate the emotional drain it has.

    Stop wasting time overthinking it and move on.
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    He just wants to take advantage and keep having you come back.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So this guy and I keep coming back to each other and a few weeks ago somthing bad happened and we decided it was for the best we stopped every form of communication cos I really needed to move on for my sake and he was too self destructive to not mess it up with me.

    This morning I woke up to find a good few messages from him sent in the middle of the night and they were dead emotional about life and so I reply in depth cos I obviously still care for him and then he replies once and leaves!?!?

    What does this mean?
    Middle of the night? Easter friday sound like drunk texts to me. If he's not making the effort, leave it
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    Just stop communicating when he text or call you. Let him miss you too. don't come running to him when he wants too. He does not respect you.
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    (1) He wanted to see if you would reply. You did, so he had his answer.
    (2) He's trying to play with your head. Withdrawing attention to draw you in so-to-speak. In fairness, I expect this does tend to work on girls who are not aware of this trick. Not nice.
    (3) He was embarrassed when he realised that you engaged with his emotional problems. I bet he was just ranting and didn't expect advice. Your reaction made him embarrassed for a) having emotions, b) having expressed those emotions, c) having been judged to need lengthy advice or soul-talk. NB this is his problem, assuming you were just being nice.
    (4) He passed out or went to work.

    I think (3) is the most likely, especially if there were a few hours between his texts and your reply. In that time he could have "sobered up" emotionally.

    Next time, maybe only reply in a short but witty sort of way that takes his mind of things but is otherwise neutral. That is if you want to keep communicating. I see no particular reason to drop contact, but if you don't feel appreciated, or there is more to this history between you, feel free to do so. Life is short.
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    (Original post by llys)
    (1) He wanted to see if you would reply. You did, so he had his answer.
    (2) He's trying to play with your head. Withdrawing attention to draw you in so-to-speak. In fairness, I expect this does tend to work on girls who are not aware of this trick. Not nice.
    (3) He was embarrassed when he realised that you engaged with his emotional problems. I bet he was just ranting and didn't expect advice. Your reaction made him embarrassed for a) having emotions, b) having expressed those emotions, c) having been judged to need advice. NB this is his problem, assuming you were just being nice.
    (4) He passed out or went to work.

    I think (3) is the most likely, especially if there were a few hours between his texts and your reply. In that time he could have "sobered up" emotionally.
    It works on the ones who do know it as well, it's like a dosage of heroin to lure you in and then cutting you off.
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    Either something is up with him and thinks you don't care, maybe needs someone to be openly talk to or he is messing with you for attention. I would suggest meeting up with to talk but if he's lying then leave him.
 
 
 
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