help over housemate problem next yr

Hope you can help, next yr 2nd yr uni I have got a house with 4 other girls, however there is one other room free which has been ok up until noe. Now there is a girl in the same halls as us now who had said all along that she was sharing with other people has asked my soon to be housemates whether or not she can share with us, now the other girls are quite friendly with her but I think she talks about herself and is a name dropper plus the fact that she is aways telling me that my boyfriend finds her fit.
Anyway this girl text everyone individually to say can she share with us and it seems a forgone conclusion that she will (by her and my soon to be flatmates) despite the fact we haven't discussed it as a group.

However I am scared to say I don't really want toshare with her as a) I feel I will cause an atmosphere and B) I don't want to cause an atmosphere in the house before we have moved in but I also feel Iam in a catch 22 situation. What should I do? just accept it or what?

thanks in advance

Reply 1

Segat1

Call a meeting and say "Right, is everyone happy about X moving in" - if it creates an atmosphere then so be it. You are potentially going to live with someone you don't like for a year so voice your concerns now.

Reply 2

Drederick Tatum

tell her to **** off home

Reply 3

Nix!

Stop being so passive. Either tell your future housemates that you're not happy about it or aim for an open discussion so you can air your feelings.

Either way, it's not helpful to keep your feelings bottled up as things could get very uncomfortable for you.

Reply 4

Lady_Darkness

Trust me, speak up whilst you can... I've just spent a year in a very tense and bitchy house ('cause we're all female and can't just smile and pretend to get along in such close quarters!). It has split a previously happy and close group down the middle - and all because we couldn't say no when the perpetrator asked if she could move in with us. Though we didn't realise that the girl in question was quite so bad until after we'd signed contracts.
So yeah, probably best to talk about it with the rest of the group - maybe they have doubts and just need someone else to bring it up.

The more time you're forced to spend with a person, the more you're going to notice their bad points - so if it's already happening...
And the trouble is, no one who doesn't have to live with a person realises how bad they are.

That said, you might just have to get to know her. Keep your friends close, keep your enemies closer.