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    So i've only started being sexually acitve in the last 6 months and am still a virgin but whenever i do anything i don't orgasm, i had to lie to my ex about it and he had no problem with reaching his.

    it might be that i've had one and not realised it? like i'm not really sure what to expect but there is this big hype around it and i'm not sure i've had it
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    You'll know when you reach it, just keep experimenting with different things. Usually it just takes time.. if it feels right then keep on doing it. Don't worry it'll happen eventually
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    (This entire answer is based off me presuming you're female)

    When you get one, you'll know! I'm not actually sexually active, but I orgasm from masturbating fairly often. The first time I got kind of nervous about what the weird feeling was and stopped before orgasm - it kind of felt like I needed to pee - but if you keep going it'll happen!

    If you're tense or worried, it's a lot harder, so try masturbating when you're home alone or whatever, rather than with your boyfriend. Don't concentrate on anything internal, at least not without also involving your clit - hardly anyone can orgasm from penetration alone. Watch some porn on your phone or tablet or whatever (that's what Google Incognito is for!) or read erotica, since a lot of women are less visual than men and prefer using their imagination. Literotica is a good site. Don't focus on the goal of orgasm, focus on what you're feeling now. Just go with it. Time spans can vary - I can go at it for an hour or so without coming close, or I can *** in less than five minutes. Either use your fingers or a vibrator - if you don't have one, a good substitute is an electric toothbrush with fabric (clean panties or whatever) over the head for hygiene and so it's not so abrasive.

    After all that, if you're still worried, you could try a gynecologist. Sometimes it can be linked to medical issues or things like depression, so make sure that isn't an issue. But remember, orgasm isn't necessary to enjoy sex and sexual activity! If you're worrying about it all the time and not enjoying what you're doing as a result, try forgetting about it for a while.
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    What #3 said.

    Lying about it to partners is a problem: either they've been pressuring you to have one and are thus a problematic partner, or they'll assume that what they were doing worked and so will work again. Or both.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    (This entire answer is based off me presuming you're female)

    When you get one, you'll know! I'm not actually sexually active, but I orgasm from masturbating fairly often. The first time I got kind of nervous about what the weird feeling was and stopped before orgasm - it kind of felt like I needed to pee - but if you keep going it'll happen!

    If you're tense or worried, it's a lot harder, so try masturbating when you're home alone or whatever, rather than with your boyfriend. Don't concentrate on anything internal, at least not without also involving your clit - hardly anyone can orgasm from penetration alone. Watch some porn on your phone or tablet or whatever (that's what Google Incognito is for!) or read erotica, since a lot of women are less visual than men and prefer using their imagination. Literotica is a good site. Don't focus on the goal of orgasm, focus on what you're feeling now. Just go with it. Time spans can vary - I can go at it for an hour or so without coming close, or I can *** in less than five minutes. Either use your fingers or a vibrator - if you don't have one, a good substitute is an electric toothbrush with fabric (clean panties or whatever) over the head for hygiene and so it's not so abrasive.

    After all that, if you're still worried, you could try a gynecologist. Sometimes it can be linked to medical issues or things like depression, so make sure that isn't an issue. But remember, orgasm isn't necessary to enjoy sex and sexual activity! If you're worrying about it all the time and not enjoying what you're doing as a result, try forgetting about it for a while.
    Thank you! i really appreciate the help (yeah i am female )
 
 
 
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