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    I'm 27, female. I have never really been in a long term relationship, never been in love and I'm fairly inexperienced. I consider myself to be attractive and I have a good head on shoulders etc.

    I am fairly happy with my life. I have a great family and a good circle of friends. There is just a missing piece of the puzzle. I spent the most part of last year getting over my ex and I am finally over it. I have been on dates that haven't lead anywhere, I've signed up for all kinds of dating sites and I haven't had much luck. I am not giving up on dating - I just feel lonely all the time. I can't seem to see the light, the guys I've spoken to have been incompatible with me.

    I could be in a room full of people I enjoy spending time with and I will feel like I'm all by myself. I don't know how to run away from feeling like this. Nothing seems to help it disappear. I've had an awesome weekend with my family and at the back of my mind I've been pining for a relationship. It happens all day everyday
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    I feel exactly the same. All I can do is grit my teeth and hope it get's better.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm 27, female. I have never really been in a long term relationship, never been in love and I'm fairly inexperienced. I consider myself to be attractive and I have a good head on shoulders etc.

    I am fairly happy with my life. I have a great family and a good circle of friends. There is just a missing piece of the puzzle. I spent the most part of last year getting over my ex and I am finally over it. I have been on dates that haven't lead anywhere, I've signed up for all kinds of dating sites and I haven't had much luck. I am not giving up on dating - I just feel lonely all the time. I can't seem to see the light, the guys I've spoken to have been incompatible with me.

    I could be in a room full of people I enjoy spending time with and I will feel like I'm all by myself. I don't know how to run away from feeling like this. Nothing seems to help it disappear. I've had an awesome weekend with my family and at the back of my mind I've been pining for a relationship. It happens all day everyday
    preoccupy yourself with a project or something that you enjoy then that should take your mind of things
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    Have you tried The Loneliness Cure? Sometimes I think part of the struggle is learning to be happy with what you already have or to at least work on building that connection with other people. Being lonely sucks. :-(
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    You're probably looking too hard and becoming pre-occupied with it. Let things fall where they may.
    I just feel like I'm at that age where it's hard to stop feeling like this. Especially when lots of my friends are loved up, getting married or expecting babies. I just want someone to sit on the sofa to watch friends with me whilst eating mini cheddars.

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    I feel exactly the same. All I can do is grit my teeth and hope it get's better.
    *sighs* it will, no way it can get any worse than this.

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    preoccupy yourself with a project or something that you enjoy then that should take your mind of things
    I've been doing this for years then lonely comes k knocking at my door.

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    Have you tried The Loneliness Cure? Sometimes I think part of the struggle is learning to be happy with what you already have or to at least work on building that connection with other people. Being lonely sucks. :-(
    Thanks self help books are not my thing. I've read so many in my life and I don't think they've helped plus I've read the reviews on the book you recommended and it doesn't sound too great. I'm happy with what I have, I'm grateful for all the amazing people in my life. But nothing compares to someone you can connect with on another level.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've been doing this for years then lonely comes k knocking at my door.
    hmmm don't really have a solution, tbh i'm gonna be lonely for the rest of my life xD
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    [QUOTE=Anonymous;63725081]I just feel like I'm at that age where it's hard to stop feeling like this. Especially when lots of my friends are loved up, getting married or expecting babies. I just want someone to sit on the sofa to watch friends with me whilst eating mini cheddars.

    Yeah. I don't need a relationship or to do specific things. I just want company.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I feel exactly the same. All I can do is grit my teeth and hope it get's better.
    Once you become 30, man are out of your hand. Go out there and stop wasting time

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    Once you become 30, man are out of your hand. Go out there and stop wasting time

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    I like this. Straight to the point.
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    I like this. Straight to the point.
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    (Original post by AsandaLFC)
    Once you become 30, man are out of your hand. Go out there and stop wasting time

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    Dont be ridiculous.

    OP, loneliness is natural, human beings are social, we are drawn to relationships. Im single and quite happy most the time but yep sometimes i do get lonely.

    But constant loneliness is a worry. Its showing that your not fulfilled in life. So fill that void, get a hobby, go out, find like minded people. Do something. Dont put so much effort into dating. Just see how it goes and one day you will find someone
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    I understand you, OP. Wish I had more to say other than that you're not alone.
 
 
 
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