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    Okay so he is Muslim & he knew he is going to go Hajj & got drunk? Isn't he strange?
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    (Original post by Ayaz789)
    Okay so he is Muslim & he knew he is going to go Hajj & got drunk? Isn't he strange?
    Hes going to hajj in 40 days and he said he wont drink in those 40 days
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    (Original post by tammie123)
    Does it seem like he's serious about me?
    He will be serious just as long as it suits him and no more.

    He is controlling, manipulating, selfish and duplicitous. You are being bought like a common prostitute and he's even boasting about how much he is spending on you and justifying it by saying you can tell your future husband how nice he is!

    He may not have a choice with regards to an arranged marriage and is just getting his oats while he still can.

    Open your eyes, this relationship is going nowhere.

    Don't fall for his con trick. Mark my words.
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    (Original post by tammie123)
    Hes going to hajj in 40 days and he said he wont drink in those 40 days
    But drinking is haraam anyways in Islam?
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    (Original post by Ayaz789)
    But drinking is haraam anyways in Islam?
    I know he said hes going to give it up completely after hajj
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    (Original post by tammie123)
    I know he said hes going to give it up completely after hajj
    But it's still wrong , why didn't you stop him from drinking?
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    (Original post by uberteknik)
    He will be serious just as long as it suits him and no more.

    He is controlling, manipulating, selfish and duplicitous. You are being bought like a common prostitute and he's even boasting about how much he is spending on you and justifying it by saying you can tell your future husband how nice he is!

    He may not have a choice with regards to an arranged marriage and is just getting his oats while he still can.

    Open your eyes, this relationship is going nowhere.

    Don't fall for his con trick. Mark my words.
    What does the bit in bold mean?
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    He sounds rather all over the place, mentally speaking... :erm:
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    (Original post by RobML)
    He sounds rather all over the place, mentally speaking... :erm:
    Why would you say that?
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    (Original post by tammie123)
    What does the bit in bold mean?
    His family will decide who he will marry and he has little choice other than to comply with his religion and culture. Until then, he will go behind their backs, do what he wants with whomever he wants and until such time as his bachelor days are over.

    The saying is "make hay while the sun shines".
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    (Original post by tammie123)
    Why would you say that?
    Just the constant contradiction of himself
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    (Original post by uberteknik)
    His family will decide who he will marry and he has little choice other than to comply with his religion and culture. Until then, he will go behind their backs, do what he wants with whomever he wants and until such time as his bachelor days are over.

    The saying is "make hay while the sun shines".
    Oh right no he said he would never have an arranged marriage and he really doesn't agree with the idea.
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    (Original post by tammie123)
    Oh right no he said he would never have an arranged marriage and he really doesn't agree with the idea.
    As I said, he may say that, but he may also have no choice.

    Have you ever met his family? Has he introduced you to them as his girlfriend?
    Have they accepted you warmly as his girlfriend?
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    (Original post by uberteknik)
    As I said, he may say that, but he may also have no choice.

    Have you ever met his family? Has he introduced you to them as his girlfriend?
    Have they accepted you warmly as his girlfriend?
    Hes bengali (so am I) and bengalis tend to be open to allowing their children have love marriages (as long as they don't do anything haram and the person they pick is bengali ). He also mentioned that his family would allow him to pick someone
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    (Original post by Ayaz789)
    But it's still wrong , why didn't you stop him from drinking?
    I tried to stop him but he doesn't listen to me
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    (Original post by tammie123)
    Hes bengali (so am I) and bengalis tend to be open to allowing their children have love marriages (as long as they don't do anything haram and the person they pick is bengali ). He also mentioned that his family would allow him to pick someone
    Thats not always the case
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    (Original post by tammie123)
    I tried to stop him but he doesn't listen to me
    Well that sounds promising.

    You're both way out of you depth.
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    (Original post by Slutty Salafi)
    lol at him trying to dupe Allah :rofl:
    Especially after getting drunk...
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    (Original post by TurboCretin)
    Especially after getting drunk...
    Exactly, the problem is the inconsistency, if you want to be a Muslim that's fine.

    Go Hajj, no alcohol, no girlfriend

    If you don't want to be Muslim, that's fine too


    Have a girlfriend, stay at home, but don't make your girlfriend suffer because you flipflop more than Hillary Clinton.
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    (Original post by Spongebob'sPants)
    Well that sounds promising.

    You're both way out of you depth.
    What do you mean out of our depth?
 
 
 
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