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    There is this guy I am dating and I really like him and we have been dating for a few weeks and he has expressed that he really likes me and wants to be in a serious relationship and he has asked me to be his girlfriend which I responded with yes. I am super comfortable around him to be myself, he is a massive good influence on my unii work - he encourages me to study and motivates me, I am physically attracted to him and I love his personality and the way he treats me and the fun things we do together. The problem is me really. I know something is going to go wrong in the future and I can't allow myself to just fall for him and catch feelings knowing that it could end in a massive heartbreak and possibly going back to a really bad place. Every time he makes me smile or gives me butterflies with small gestures, I get more and more anxious about the whole situation. I am so so so scared this is going to go wrong and I can't stop myself from being so anxious. The worst part is its going so perfect right now, I literally could no imagine myself with anyone better but I am unable to get myself to fully put my trust into him. I do have background issues such as childhood problems and I am diagnosed with depression. I have briefly talked to my therapist about this issue and he concluded that I'm scared to trust and put faith into a relationship unless it turns bad so I'm just discarding everyone. And also I'm not allowing good things to happen to me cause I don't feel I deserve it.

    So anyway how do I stop myself from falling for this guy? Should I break up with him??
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    I don't see why you would want to

    Break up with him then



    Or be heartless af like me
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    (Original post by Goaded)
    I don't see why you would want to

    Break up with him then



    Or be heartless af like me
    I dont want to break up with him but I just know its going to end in an heartbreak and I dont want that even more.

    I have been heartless for a number of years but this year, I have been getting professional help and it really has made me so much more "human".
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    If you don't love him, end him. Simple
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    If this relationship is causing you so much stress and it's outweighing the benefits, then maybe it is time to break up.
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    I wouldn't say that there was any necessary reason to break up with him, especially if you are so happy with how the relationship is going so far. That being said, I understand where you are coming from as I have had similar feelings and can imagine the anxieties you are going through.

    I'd say the best thing to do would be to talk to your new boyfriend about it, although slowly and sensitively as you have only just formed a relationship with him, and see what he thinks. Communication is so important, and I think that it would take a lot of weight off of your mind to at least let him know of how you feel. Being cautious is a good thing I think, but overdoing it can restrict you and make you all the more unhappy, so don't let it control your life.

    Anyway I hope this helps you
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I dont want to break up with him but I just know its going to end in an heartbreak and I dont want that even more.

    I have been heartless for a number of years but this year, I have been getting professional help and it really has made me so much more "human".
    Vulneribility is part of what it means to be human
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    (Original post by Sameerio)
    If you don't love him, end him. Simple
    I really do like him and don't think I'll meet anyone better

    (Original post by SeanFM)
    If this relationship is causing you so much stress and it's outweighing the benefits, then maybe it is time to break up.
    I think he has a really good influence on me, he makes sure I do all my school work, he rings me up randomly just to check on me, if I am feeling low he will be like lets meet up and make me feel better, he doesn't judge me etc

    Honestly I would probably hate myself later in the future if I broke up with him. But I really just want to stop having feelings but keep all the other bits just in until I can sort myself out.
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    (Original post by WhimsicalSloth)
    I wouldn't say that there was any necessary reason to break up with him, especially if you are so happy with how the relationship is going so far. That being said, I understand where you are coming from as I have had similar feelings and can imagine the anxieties you are going through.

    I'd say the best thing to do would be to talk to your new boyfriend about it, although slowly and sensitively as you have only just formed a relationship with him, and see what he thinks. Communication is so important, and I think that it would take a lot of weight off of your mind to at least let him know of how you feel. Being cautious is a good thing I think, but overdoing it can restrict you and make you all the more unhappy, so don't let it control your life.

    Anyway I hope this helps you
    I'm scared it might scare him away and in regards to "slowly and sensitively" I really would not know where to start :sad:
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    You don't know that it's going to end in heartbreak, it may be the start of something amazing and long lasting here. I do totally understand where you're coming from though.

    You do deserve this, let yourself enjoy it.

    If it doesn't work out yes you'll feel hurt but if you end it you will also feel hurt and so will he..It's better that it ended because it didn't work out rather than because you were afraid to give it a chance.

    Don't sabotage something that makes you happy. It could potentially help your depression too as it will bring you out of yourself.


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