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    A while ago my boyfriend (who I have been with for almost a year) chose to use porn to masturbate. He had pictures of me at the time he could've used but chose to watch porn and all this makes me think is that he believes they are hotter and that he's just settling with me. He always calls me the most beautiful girl blah blah etc but he obviously can't mean it if that's what he chooses instead of me. Any advice on how to get over this as it is making me very insecure. He said none of his exes were bothered about it but I am significantly and this just makes it worse.
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    A while ago my boyfriend (who I have been with for almost a year) chose to use porn to masturbate. He had pictures of me at the time he could've used but chose to watch porn and all this makes me think is that he believes they are hotter and that he's just settling with me. He always calls me the most beautiful girl blah blah etc but he obviously can't mean it if that's what he chooses instead of me. Any advice on how to get over this as it is making me very insecure. He said none of his exes were bothered about it but I am significantly and this just makes it worse.
    Are you satisfying him sexually i.e having sex with him regularly?
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    I actually had this same discussion with my boyfriend! If you're uncomfortable with it then sit down and talk to him calmly about why it makes you feel the way you do. I felt very insecure due to past relationships and didn't like the idea of him watching porn when I'm willing to do whatever he wants whenever he wants. He completely understood and he stopped completely.

    Is it a deal breaker for you? If so then you really need to talk to him and explain that it's not something you're comfortable with in a relationship as you're willing to do/send whatever he'd like. If he continues, it's up to you as to whether you still want to be with someone who continues to do something even when presented with better alternatives. Only you can make this decision, but you'd like to think that if he loves you, he'll stop.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    A while ago my boyfriend (who I have been with for almost a year) chose to use porn to masturbate. He had pictures of me at the time he could've used but chose to watch porn and all this makes me think is that he believes they are hotter and that he's just settling with me. He always calls me the most beautiful girl blah blah etc but he obviously can't mean it if that's what he chooses instead of me. Any advice on how to get over this as it is making me very insecure. He said none of his exes were bothered about it but I am significantly and this just makes it worse.
    he has pics of you? means nude pics???
    try to talk to him - his sex-drive must be touching the sky
    plus i think porn are videos and he has your pics soo maybe he is using porn videos to help him out
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    (Original post by Anonymous;[url="tel:63751175")
    63751175[/url]]Are you satisfying him sexually i.e having sex with him regularly?
    yes we have sex at least 3 times a week.
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    he has pics of you? means nude pics???
    try to talk to him - his sex-drive must be touching the sky
    plus i think porn are videos and he has your pics soo maybe he is using porn videos to help him out
    Yes he does but he still chose to watch that instead and I don't understand why
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yes he does but he still chose to watch that instead and I don't understand why
    but isn't porn is a video and pics are just dead picture - if you know what i mean
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    I think sometimes there is just something about watching porn with random girls that's different for them, not necessarily better just different. A lot of the time the girls in porn are "dirtier" and that is a turn on and satisfies their "needs" quickly, but they may actually not want you to be like that. Sometimes it's just the fantasy that gets them off. I wouldn't worry too much.


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