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    Im just curious.. In my opinion, I hate staying in touch with my ex's. Ex for a reason and all that. But I want to get over opinions on this matter.
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    I think they can yeh, it's just usually quite hard. I feel like most of the time people are still friends with their ex is because they need to be - e.g. kids or for the sake of mutual friends, or if they work at the same place.
    I only have one friend with still talks to her ex regularly and that's because they were childhood friends.

    I think if it's been a long time after break up (years) then there could be a successful friendship with an ex. Otherwise nope, i feel like it's a way of holding on but really when you break up you just need to let go.
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    No, because she is with someone else and it would kill me inside to speak to her knowing that she love him. So no. It depends, but I think very few people get far enough to the point of not caring to be able to shut off all of the old feelings.
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    The 'ex's for a reason ' thing to not stay friends doesn't make sense to me because a romantic relationship is a lot different from friendship more things can go wrong where the person is perceived in a negative way. Just because someone is bad in a relationship doesn't mean they wouldn't make a good friend.
    The reason that does make sense to not be friends is that it will be hard to due to feelings, everytime you see them you might want to hug/get close to them for example and then when they get into a relationship with someone else it might hurt seeing them with them.

    The was a guy I liked in a friendly way and wanted to be friends with, had been for 7 years not close friends but knew and saw each other. The thing is he asked me out and wanted a relationship. I agreed and went on a few dates but was scared of ruining the friendship, I just wanted to be his friend and see him regular like he would with his mates. I told him that I enjoyed his company but didn't want the romance with it. He said it was cool and we still met up etc but one night (happened to be my bday) he said that it was time for him to back off. He said he was attracted to me and wanted a relationship. I ended up going out with him for months as I liked him and didn't want to lose him completely and never see him again. I just wasn't feeling it sexually though, the relationship was on and off. Because we weren't sexually compatable he ended it and texted 'well don't contact me again'. So that was that. I get frustrated that my friends have regular contact with him but obviously I can't talk to him.

    I guess if someone is attracted to you or vica versa you just can't be friends with them
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    Nah - completely CUT contact
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    (Original post by samina_ay)
    Nah - completely CUT contact
    Then how do you have the FWB sex?
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    yes i'm good friends with my ex. she's coming up to see me at uni in a few weeks with her friends. We were together 5 years ago, still friends now.
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    (Original post by Nameless Ghoul)
    Then how do you have the FWB sex?
    Cos i don't want that?
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    (Original post by samina_ay)
    Cos i don't want that?
    Because you don't want it you're proscribing it for others?

    Are you a doctor?
 
 
 
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