Boyfriends ex trying to give me advice...

This is a really weird situation I've found myself in, and not all that great. Ive been going out with my bf for nearly 2 months now, and everything seems to be going pretty well (touch wood) aside for this problem with his ex. Who's two years younger than me.

So he was illegidly friends with her when we started going out, but just friends, even though he did mention that she wanted to get back with him. But he said he liked me much more and it wasnt a problem. But of course as the new gf I was the enemy, bitch, whatever she felt like calling me. Fine. I don't like it when people don't like me, and as far as I'm concerned I haven't done a thing wrong, but she doesn't like me so thats that.

But then my bf told me about this night he was out with some mates. She was trying it on with him, even though she knew we were going out or whatever. So my bf, asked his close mate Natalie to pretend to be his gf to make the ex back off. Ok. Is it me or is that a bit weird? I mean he said it worked and everything and she went away all pissed off, but... wtf? Shouldn't he just have said, "listen I've got a gf bugger off"?

But hey, I got slightly annoyed at him, wondered for a bit why he told me but I suppose it was right... so I dismissed it. He said he likes me a lot, and I trust him so what else could i do?

But then, on my way back to my car after meeting up with him, this girl stops me and asks if she can talk for a second.

So the girl was apparently his exs friend, and recognised me. She just wanted to see if we were still gong out, and if we were, had I heard that hes dating this girl natalie? That hes a right **** and why am I still with him?

Ok fine. It fitted in with what my bf said. Was she just looking out for me? I dont know.

Then last night his ex sees me and asks if we'e still going out etc etc.... and its like, why the hell cant they just leave me alone? Should I listen to them? Should I confront my bf and ask him again what happened that night and is he really only friends with natalie? Should I doubt him on what his ex has told me? Did he do the right thing in telling me? Yes. Of course he did. Because if he hadn't, and these girls had told me this....

Urgh. what a situation. Anyone have any ideas to help me out?

Reply 1

username47781

20

THat's just weird, surely all he needs to do is tell her to back off.

Reply 2

dh00001

16

trust your boyfriend. these girls are hardly the most reliable source and may want to break you up as the ex is havving second thaughts?

Reply 3

FadedJade

15

Nah I know people that do it all the time, sometimes its the only way to make people back off. I've done it myself, there's nothing in it so I wouldn't worry.

And he told you about it, which shows he's honest with you and explained, which is much better than hiding it from you! It sounds like she keepsasking you if you've split up with him so that she can take him back. Ignore her and tell her to back off.

Reply 4

PhilMc

16

'Close friend Natalie'

Uh-oh.

Reply 5

PhilMc

16

Oh and if its any consolation I had to do it a few times, the last time being when one of my mates was getting hassle from another drunk guy: with the girl I'm actually seeing at the minute sitting right across from me. :smile:

She found it funny. :p:

Reply 6

Insanespana

OP

1

PhilMc

'Close friend Natalie'

Uh-oh.

Hmm I don't actually know how close they are tbh, but he said shes got a boyfriend anyway.... So I suppose I might have just been overreacting a little, its just the ex and friends were getting to me. Urgh I wish they'd just leave me and my relationship alone.

Reply 7

Zoecb

11

Ignore all the teeny boppers. They're just trying to sabotage you.

Boyfriends ex trying to give me advice...

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