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    my girlfriend doesn't really spend as much time with me like she does with her friends. Is that normal? like whenever we do something, it's always me that initiates the plans... Is that normal?

    She says she can't spend much time because exams are coming up and she has a lot of work but she had friends over at her house and i haven't seen her once in a week.

    Any pieces of advice? I was thinking of giving the cold shoulder when we're in school and not talk to her because i am not really sure what else i can do, i don't want to drop her because you know i don't feel that way and i feel like this could blossom into something big and she feels the same.

    We have had a couple of bumps along the way they're not actually arguments more like awkward moments. So we sort of confess our problems to each other about one another and we improve upon them. But i have 2 main questions or like 3 or 4

    1) is it normal that she likes her friends more
    2) Should i wait for her to initiate plans
    3) Shall i give her the cold shoulder?
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    1) normal
    2) yes
    3) dunno what it means
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    (Original post by Nd8Man)
    my girlfriend doesn't really spend as much time with me like she does with her friends. Is that normal? like whenever we do something, it's always me that initiates the plans... Is that normal?

    She says she can't spend much time because exams are coming up and she has a lot of work but she had friends over at her house and i haven't seen her once in a week.

    Any pieces of advice? I was thinking of giving the cold shoulder when we're in school and not talk to her because i am not really sure what else i can do, i don't want to drop her because you know i don't feel that way and i feel like this could blossom into something big and she feels the same.

    We have had a couple of bumps along the way they're not actually arguments more like awkward moments. So we sort of confess our problems to each other about one another and we improve upon them. But i have 2 main questions or like 3 or 4

    1) is it normal that she likes her friends more
    2) Should i wait for her to initiate plans
    3) Shall i give her the cold shoulder?
    1) yes and no
    2/3) no, i think you should tell her that its bothering you
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    (Original post by fatima1998)
    1) normal
    2) yes
    3) dunno what it means

    so the cold shoulder means ignore her until she messages me to see how i am doing etc.
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    (Original post by Nd8Man)
    my girlfriend doesn't really spend as much time with me like she does with her friends. Is that normal? like whenever we do something, it's always me that initiates the plans... Is that normal?

    She says she can't spend much time because exams are coming up and she has a lot of work but she had friends over at her house and i haven't seen her once in a week.

    Any pieces of advice? I was thinking of giving the cold shoulder when we're in school and not talk to her because i am not really sure what else i can do, i don't want to drop her because you know i don't feel that way and i feel like this could blossom into something big and she feels the same.

    We have had a couple of bumps along the way they're not actually arguments more like awkward moments. So we sort of confess our problems to each other about one another and we improve upon them. But i have 2 main questions or like 3 or 4

    1) is it normal that she likes her friends more
    2) Should i wait for her to initiate plans
    3) Shall i give her the cold shoulder?
    1. maybe? everyone has to have friends right?
    2. yes?
    3. no give her a chance first
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    OP, you made a thread asking for this advice already. Giving her "the cold shoulder" is a very immature approach when in a relationship. If something is bothering you then you need to talk with her about it, otherwise it will never get resolved.
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    (Original post by Nd8Man)
    so the cold shoulder means ignore her until she messages me to see how i am doing etc.
    lets try again...
    so...
    1) normal
    2) yes
    3) dont ignore her - keep talking to her
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    So, she has probably known her friends a lot longer than you and expects they will be around for ever. You may be only a passing bf.

    You are supposed to win her approval, prove to her that you are reliable, serious, worth the trouble of changing her life etc. if it is to be a lifelong commitment. Surely you don't expect her to sacrifice friends for you otherwise?

    Cold shoulder her if you want. She'll no doubt consider the relationship is over if you do.
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    (Original post by pickup)
    So, she has probably known her friends a lot longer than you and expects they will be around for ever. You may be only a passing bf.

    You are supposed to win her approval, prove to her that you are reliable, serious, worth the trouble of changing her life etc. if it is to be a lifelong commitment. Surely you don't expect her to sacrifice friends for you otherwise?

    Cold shoulder her if you want. She'll no doubt consider the relationship is over if you do.
    I hope i'm not a passing boyfriend tbh!
    but i get what you're saying, how do i do without being needy? or how do i even prove it? any ideas...?

    No i don't expect her to sacrifice her friends for me... unless it was for something really serious, not for something that could wait.
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    (Original post by georgiaswift)
    OP, you made a thread asking for this advice already. Giving her "the cold shoulder" is a very immature approach when in a relationship. If something is bothering you then you need to talk with her about it, otherwise it will never get resolved.

    not many posted on the first thread, and i needed more opinions... But yes, the cold shoulder is an immature approach
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    End it...you're too young to be tied down, and it seems like your girlfriend is feeling this strain already. Her friends are going out, so she wants to go hang out with them, and then in whatever spare time is left, she studies.
 
 
 
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