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    I know that this is a rather niche subject, but I am four months in to my first proper relationship, and I find myself struggling at times. I know it's early days, but I don't care I'm in love with her, but we both have aspergers and I only get to see her once every couple of weeks, so we have hit a few bumps to say the least.
    Often things bother me that shouldn't, I've been cheated on before, so I'm scared of that, I'm a bit sensitive to teasing, and generally insecure. In the past I have tried, as calmly as possible, to talk through some issues with her, about something she says or does, only to find it ending in an argument, and both of us in tears. I'll mention something that bothers me and try to explain why, and what she could do to help, she then gets mad at a part of what I had said, and an argument ensues. So far to my recollection this has happened 5 times in the past two months, today being the worst we've had so far.
    I was wondering if anyone had any advice for my situation, anything would be greatly appreciated. I'm not sure how to let less stuff get to me, and if I really need to I'm scared about talking about it, because I don't know how to avoid an argument. I've been completely honest to her throughout, though in some cases that's caused even more issues, which confuses me because people always say to be completely honest, but anything will help.
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    (Original post by suiagg)
    I know that this is a rather niche subject, but I am four months in to my first proper relationship, and I find myself struggling at times. I know it's early days, but I don't care I'm in love with her, but we both have aspergers and I only get to see her once every couple of weeks, so we have hit a few bumps to say the least.
    Often things bother me that shouldn't, I've been cheated on before, so I'm scared of that, I'm a bit sensitive to teasing, and generally insecure. In the past I have tried, as calmly as possible, to talk through some issues with her, about something she says or does, only to find it ending in an argument, and both of us in tears. I'll mention something that bothers me and try to explain why, and what she could do to help, she then gets mad at a part of what I had said, and an argument ensues. So far to my recollection this has happened 5 times in the past two months, today being the worst we've had so far.
    I was wondering if anyone had any advice for my situation, anything would be greatly appreciated. I'm not sure how to let less stuff get to me, and if I really need to I'm scared about talking about it, because I don't know how to avoid an argument. I've been completely honest to her throughout, though in some cases that's caused even more issues, which confuses me because people always say to be completely honest, but anything will help.
    Thank you.
    What have you been arguing about exactly? What doe she say in the arguments?
 
 
 
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