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    There is someone in my life who is really annoying.

    She talks minutes upon minutes with no interruption. I zone out and am polite but others mock and laugh at her behind her back. She also talks about everyone's business.

    I pity her for this reason. Noone likes her and I've been in this position. It isn't pleasant.

    Is it helpful to try to tactfully get her to speak less? While I can see why she'd be better knowing, I'm not sure it's the right thing to do.

    I wouldn't want her to become consumed by social anxiety or to repeat what I've said.
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    All I'll say is be very careful in what you say. Depending on the person, things said can stick with people for a long time
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    I love talkative people - I'm not sketchy or overly judgemental so I'd get on with her probably - people who don't like talkative people are usually ****ing boring and I say that with no hint of irony - if I'm judgemental towards people whom themselves are usually judgemental then **** me right?
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    (Original post by Student403)
    All I'll say is be very careful in what you say. Depending on the person, things said can stick with people for a long time
    Indeed. Hence my hesitance. I do not like hurting peoples' feelings but I don't like the fact she acts in a way that is mocked.

    (Original post by AlmightyJesus)
    I love talkative people - I'm not sketchy or overly judgemental so I'd get on with her probably - people who don't like talkative people are usually ****ing boring and I say that with no hint of irony - if I'm judgemental towards people whom themselves are usually judgemental then **** me right?
    There is a time and place and it's not always appropriate for someone to wax on and on at you when you're busy. And the individual has a reputation for gossip.
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    (Original post by Kvothe the arcane)
    Indeed. Hence my hesitance. I do not like hurting peoples' feelings but I don't like the fact she acts in a way that is mocked.



    There is a time and place and it's not always appropriate for someone to wax on and on at you when you're busy. And the individual has a reputation for gossip.
    gossip sucks - people who gossip are the worst. but it's not as if being talkative is the same as that
    and if it's inappropriate to talk, then that's kind of a weird idea. if you're busy, just tell her you're busy. it's inappropriate to be around people when you're busy though, right? if she won't stop when you're trying to study or something then that's when you ought to be angry
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    (Original post by Kvothe the arcane)
    There is someone in my life who is really annoying.

    She talks minutes upon minutes with no interruption. I zone out and am polite but others mock and laugh at her behind her back. She also talks about everyone's business.

    I pity her for this reason. Noone likes her and I've been in this position. It isn't pleasant.

    Is it helpful to try to tactfully get her to speak less? While I can see why she'd be better knowing, I'm not sure it's the right thing to do.

    I wouldn't want her to become consumed by social anxiety or to repeat what I've said.
    maybe drop some hints to her?
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    (Original post by thefatone)
    maybe drop some hints to her?
    I think the problem is that she isn't receptive to hints or cues.

    She means well but isn't able to tell when things are personal and not to be repeated and when others are trying to concentrate on what they're doing.
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    (Original post by Kvothe the arcane)
    I think the problem is that she isn't receptive to hints or cues.

    She means well but isn't able to tell when things are personal and not to be repeated and when others are trying to concentrate on what they're doing.
    well i guess a bit problematic
    i guess it'll only hurt her more if you reveal it in a not so conspicuous way... she'll have though you always liked her as a friend then when the sudden realisation hits... uh oh , not good for anyone's mental hp
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    (Original post by thefatone)
    well i guess a bit problematic
    i guess it'll only hurt her more if you reveal it in a not so conspicuous way... she'll have though you always liked her as a friend then when the sudden realisation hits... uh oh , not good for anyone's mental hp
    I would hardly call us friends. I suppose she could misinterpret my politeness for friendly interest but I see what you're saying.

    (Personally, I prefer uncomfortable truths)

    I think I'll say nothing.
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    (Original post by Kvothe the arcane)
    There is someone in my life who is really annoying.

    She talks minutes upon minutes with no interruption. I zone out and am polite but others mock and laugh at her behind her back. She also talks about everyone's business.

    I pity her for this reason. Noone likes her and I've been in this position. It isn't pleasant.

    Is it helpful to try to tactfully get her to speak less? While I can see why she'd be better knowing, I'm not sure it's the right thing to do.

    I wouldn't want her to become consumed by social anxiety or to repeat what I've said.
    You have already mentioned that she talks everyone's business so it's possible that she'll do the same with you. It will be better if you can divert her attention. Instead of paying attention to her non-sense talks, why not give her some board games, puzzles or even magazines to shut her and positively controlling her talking?

    :p:p
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    (Original post by lostandfound86)
    You have already mentioned that she talks everyone's business so it's possible that she'll do the same with you. It will be better if you can divert her attention. Instead of paying attention to her non-sense talks, why not give her some board games, puzzles or even magazines to shut her and positively controlling her talking?

    :p:p
    Well that would be awfully patronising to an adult who is perhaps double my age :lol:.
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    Next time she goes off, listen for 2 minutes, conspicuously timing her on your phone/watch. Then, without expression, put your finger on your lips, signalling shhh.

    She clearly lacks any self-awareness.

    Then tell her that you (as in you, yourself, not her), have a terrible attention span, and can only listen to 120 seconds of uninterrupted monologue.
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    (Original post by Kvothe the arcane)
    Well that would be awfully patronising to an adult who is perhaps double my age :lol:.

    Is this a work colleague?
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    I tell them to shut up and I'm busy (nicely) and that usually works :dontknow:

    Just say "I'm working right now can we carry this conversation on later?"
    And about the :dolphin::dolphin::dolphin::dolphin::dolphin::dolphin::dolphin:s (i swear if the dolphins are gone i aint coming back) that ***** about her behind her back, you should tell the to grow up and tell her or shut the :dolphin::dolphin::dolphin::dolphin: up. So childish smh
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    (Original post by Kvothe the arcane)
    Well that would be awfully patronising to an adult who is perhaps double my age :lol:.
    Growls! Lemme' think... :daydreaming::daydreaming:

    Now, I'm speechless. LOL
 
 
 
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