Oversensitive/Overanalysing

Basically i am way too sensitive to things or tend to read way too much into things which is kind of getting me down. Its even silly things like someone not speaking to me on msn when they usually do, or if someone doesnt happen to text me for a while, or even tiny things that make me paranoid that Ive done somehting wrong or that im not liked etc. I always have this paranoia that people are talking about me negatively as well and I think i care too much about what people think, which really affects my confidence levels and the way i act. What can i do to stop this?

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

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Oh I also should add Im not oversentitve in that i cry too easily or make big dramas out of nothing, but i just keep all my insecurities and doubts bottled up whih in a way is probably worse :s-smilie:

Reply 2

Lara C.

3

everybody thinks about what others think of them, its innate, as we are a sociable species it pays to think about that kind of stuff.

Reply 3

wajiha

You need to relax. Just concentrate on yourself, you need to learn to be comfortable in your own skin. Once you've accomplished that then you wont have anything to worry about, your confidance will shine through and you wont even bother thinking about what people might be saying.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

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wajiha

You need to relax. Just concentrate on yourself, you need to learn to be comfortable in your own skin. Once you've accomplished that then you wont have anything to worry about, your confidance will shine through and you wont even bother thinking about what people might be saying.

I know, easier said then done though isnt it. All those little confidence things like "Tell yourself you're worth it" blah blah blha doesnt really work

Reply 5

*River

15

^Don't be so cynical that you don't try though. It didn't work for me, but I know several people who've really been helped. Give it a go and see what happens, you might be surprised.

Reply 6

Sanity Panda

Actually I think you already focus too much on yourself. I'm actually fairly self conscious in that sense too, and unfortunatly I haven't really found a method for overcoming it.

There is actually one thing I really hate about this behaviour and its a sort of negative narcissism that I keep on attaching to myself. That people are always looking at me, even if it is judging behaviour. More often than not most people are just neutral and don't really mind.

The above isin't a solution, but its a different perspective on what you yourself are doing. I hope to get rid of this mentality one day.

Reply 7

Hanzing

13

I also tend to care alot about what others think of me, and how there judging (Which seems to make me ripe for psych experiments..) But I think that you need to relax. I know it seems like it will never work but you do have to start to love yourself, and try and worry less about what others think about you. If its people you dont know, then you have to ask why do you care? They dont know you, there not going to say anything about you.. There prob thinking what your thinking about them!