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Anonymous.

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Reply 1

shona

10

You made a mistake with this guy. You were young, and he took advantage of you. There's no shame in that. We're all just feeling our way through life - and we make plenty of mistakes along the way.

One bad experience does not mean you'll never find love. If anything, going through the rough time you're going through now, is going to make you appreciate love more, when you actually find it.

I think first though, you do need to seek help for your self-harming. It's not easy to let someone else love you, when you can't understand why they think you're such an amazing person. You do need some time to yourself to work on your problems before you try and find another boyfriend.

If you feel like you want to talk to someone right now, I suggest you call The Samaritans: 08457 90 90 90. They won't wave a magic wand, but talking to one of the volunteers might help you calm down, and help you see things a bit more objectively.

:hugs:

Reply 2

Tyler Durden

17

Anonymous.

but i am incomplete without someone to love me , i need love with me true love, i want a man who is settled and loves me

Out of your entire post, this is what's wrong. You should never need just anybody. As long as you feel that your life is meaningless without validation from a guy you will have problems. No man who will actually be good for you will want to be this anybody (and therefore nobody). To find someone you need to be happy in yourself, you need to have a life that revolves around you and not about your need to have someone love you. There will always be people like this Robert dude who are happy to take what they can get, but they will tend to be losers. Sort yourself out first and then, if you're attractive enough to hoot at from a car you are attractive enough to find a guy. Remember though, girls that are so obviously emotionally attached to the first guy that comes along are also going to get hurt very easily.

Reply 3

Hanzing

13

Awwh, Hun I really feel for you. I think that you pick out all these people because as you say your searching for someone to protect you and to love you, But your never going to be comfortable till you love yourself. You need to help yourself before you can really get involved in these relationships because they just seem to be making it worse for you, and adding to the pain and suffering. Maybe you should get help, as you seem to already be getting and find someone who you can confide/talk to and give you support but not in a romantic way. You definitely need to concentrate on getting yourself better and feeling good about yourself first.

Reply 4

Cherry Kisses

13

'No one can love you until you love yourself'

(advice from an old friend of mine)

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

I agree. If you're confident in yourself, then that confidence will shine out of you, and trust me, people will pick up on it. If you're positive of yourself then others will be positive of you. I know it can be hard to accept yourself sometimes; this is where professional help comes in. Go back to your counsellors, it will benefit you in the long run, trust me :smile:

Also, from your post, I think it's pretty clear that Robert simply wasn't the one for you. You clearly deserve much better, and as englishstudent said, this shouldn't just be Joe Bloggs off the street...if you make it out to people that you are desperately in need of love, then there are some crazy sadasses who will unfortunately take advantage of you and we'd hate for that to happen. It's a harsh cold world out there and sadly we've all gotta deal with it; unfortuately there are times such as these where you think you're out of hope, but you're not. You've got a whole life ahead of you, maybe you could learn to be your own friend for a while until you are comfortable again?
But as I was going to say, (and as Shona already said :smile:

) call the Samaritans. And go back to your counselling routine.
Good luck with everything and let me know how you get along. And please don't rely on strangers over the Internet...they may seem like a solution for life but if anything they are only a short-term one to your problems.
;grouphugs;

Reply 6

DeepStar

17

englishstudent

Out of your entire post, this is what's wrong. You should never need just anybody. As long as you feel that your life is meaningless without validation from a guy you will have problems. No man who will actually be good for you will want to be this anybody (and therefore nobody). To find someone you need to be happy in yourself, you need to have a life that revolves around you and not about your need to have someone love you. There will always be people like this Robert dude who are happy to take what they can get, but they will tend to be losers. Sort yourself out first and then, if you're attractive enough to hoot at from a car you are attractive enough to find a guy. Remember though, girls that are so obviously emotionally attached to the first guy that comes along are also going to get hurt very easily.

Couldn't have said it better myself lol.....remember that Love is the heart of life but seeking it in anyone doesnt work...you need to learn to love yourself...that will influence the environment your in and things would gradually improve...I think you should call the Samaritans....and also go back to your counselling routine.

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