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    It doesnt seem that im cut out for relationships. Im female, in my late twenties and ive never really dated when i was younger as i didnt really meet people/socialise or go out and all that because i was so quiet i didnt have a social circle of friends, well still dont lol.

    The thing is Ive tried dating men and I can get on with them and be attracted to them but I never seem to have time in my life to give them the attention that someone in a relationship deserves. I feel like i have to rush things a lot more. I work, study and go training 5 times a week (i run and go to the gym) and i feel like im rushing this just to go round to their house to do what feels like unproductive things like chatting/watching tv and the usual relationship stuff. Then when im there i feel im wasting valuble time that i could have used for studying. In all honesty as bad as it sounds having a bf feels like having another job/chore to do in my life on top of all the other things.

    Its not good to feel like this and its not fair on the person in the relationship. The last guy had lots of free time and i felt annoyed when he wanted to do things and i had an exam comming up. I think a big problem too is im an introvert and also need quite a bit if time on my own to 'unwind' as even time spent with a bf drains my energy.

    I dont know, just wanted advice. Do any others feel this way, if not then where am i going wrong?
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    I certainly don't think you're doing anything wrong, you're just being yourself, I'm exactly the same, with needing lots of alone time to unwind. Although I don't date at all because of how much of a chore it is to me, and even the thought of a relationship is mentally exhausting. And I really like being single, so it will never be a concern for me. I think you perhaps need to think about what you want, and whether doing that will make you happy and healthy in the long run. Single or relationship, neither one is 'better' or 'worse' than the other... only better or worse to each and every individual.

    As as for whether you're cut out for a relationship, there's no reason to think you're not from where I stand. It's all about whether it will make you happy.
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    It doesnt seem that im cut out for relationships. Im female, in my late twenties and ive never really dated when i was younger as i didnt really meet people/socialise or go out and all that because i was so quiet i didnt have a social circle of friends, well still dont lol.

    The thing is Ive tried dating men and I can get on with them and be attracted to them but I never seem to have time in my life to give them the attention that someone in a relationship deserves. I feel like i have to rush things a lot more. I work, study and go training 5 times a week (i run and go to the gym) and i feel like im rushing this just to go round to their house to do what feels like unproductive things like chatting/watching tv and the usual relationship stuff. Then when im there i feel im wasting valuble time that i could have used for studying. In all honesty as bad as it sounds having a bf feels like having another job/chore to do in my life on top of all the other things.

    Its not good to feel like this and its not fair on the person in the relationship. The last guy had lots of free time and i felt annoyed when he wanted to do things and i had an exam coming up. I think a big problem too is im an introvert and also need quite a bit if time on my own to 'unwind' as even time spent with a bf drains my energy.

    I dont know, just wanted advice. Do any others feel this way, if not then where am i going wrong?
    Hi there!

    Relationships are only as good as the amount of effort you put into them. Sometimes, you can cruise and it's ok but most of the time you have to invest time and effort into it to make it grow. It seems like you have a lot of priorities in your life? If I was in a relationship with you, I would probably feel quite close to the bottom of your priority list, which would put me off. The question is, when you find the right man, are you willing to make the necessary sacrifices for him? Maybe that's some of your gym time or even some study hours or work hours.

    On the other hand, it's a good thing not to define your life around relationships with men like many girls do. It's not for everyone. Personally, I find relationships to be immensely more satisfying than any success in work or study in the long term.

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