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Boyfriends going to australia for a year... :(

Hey ,

Well heres the story , Iv been going out with my boyfriend for nearly 2 months and when we first met, which was about 2 months before he told me he was going to australia for a year this september. Which I really respect him for doing , and at the time I was really happy for him :smile:

. But.. 2 months down the line lol we get together and I realise how much I like him and how much he likes me... :smile:

So.. we talk and decide we should go out , but I totally forgot about the australia thing... untill he mentioned it :frown:

but just chose to forget about it and go for it .
Now two more months down the line lol , Im really scared! I like him so much and Im so worried about having to let him go in septemeber :frown:

Being with him for the past 2 months have a been the best 2 months of my life , and I really feel a bond between us! Tho theres 3 months left till he leaves I no how much Im going to miss him, and wev talked about it and hes worried to but we just dont no what to do. A part of me wants to stay with him for the next 3 months, knowing how sad it will be letting him go in september. but then another part of me thinks that.... maybe just being friends with him when he leaves would be better because then their wont be the worry?!
Im just so confused, and Iv never been in a serious relationship before and I really feel something for him :frown:

Has anyone else been in this horrible horrible sitaution ? I no it could be worse... but just when I think Iv found someone I really like, that I could possibly love.. but then hes going away for 365 days!! And I no this is really cheesy but I just think about how horrible it will be when I kiss him for the last time.... :frown:

Please help , I just dunno what to do ?!

xxxx

Reply 1

coloursonthetv

What do you do? Why don't you get a job, that way when it comes to him being over there you can go visit and he can come back here to visit too. Is it really a FULL year he's gone for? Or more like an academic year?

You've only been together two months which is hardly that long at all but no one knows what you feel so if you want to give it a go then go for it but don't 'worry'. There's no point if you trust your boyfriend which you really should. It makes no difference where he is, you should always have that trust, even if he is half way around the world.

EDIT: Actually not only would a job fund you being able to visit but it will also keep you busy and ensure you won't be sat around moping in your spare time :smile:

Reply 2

ForeverIsMyName

Break up and decide what to do when he gets back. If it's gonna happen, a years break will be nothing. On the other hand, it might give you time to evaluate your perspective and find out what you want from a relationship, and you may realise it's not what you want. What you don't want to do is stay in the relationship, him to get back after a year and you both decide you don't want anything, because that's a year of your life right there.

Reply 3

Ice_Queen

Find a hobby. Remember, trust is ever-important. Communicate with him. Time together is quality not quantity.
LDRs can work. One year is not so long, and he will return to you.
My boyfriend LIVES on another continent. Seeing him requires meticulous planning and at least £500. Enjoy the time you have.

Reply 4

princesshannah1986

My best advice is enjoy the next three months, create more happy memories which both of you will remember whilst he is away. Im sure you will both stay in touch while he is away there is the internet, letters, postcards, Australia has phones too :wink:

hehe! Just treasure the time you have left together and then pick it up again when he comes back. If he likes you as much as you like him whats to say you have to lose what you have forever?? It's a year not for the rest of your lives, so maybe look at it that way? He may be going, but you'l get him back again after a year :smile:

Reply 5

Yellowmarshmellow

I think you should stay with him through all of it and keep in contact on the phone/net etc, a year might make you realise just how much you both love eachother and once he returns you can maybe then continue your relationship, I know it will be hard being without him for the year and of course you will miss him loads and feel crappy for the first few weeks/months he is away but don't put your life on hold whilst he is away - get a job, see friends loads, meet new people and look forward to him coming back.
Good luck :smile:

Reply 6

pumpkin7

my ex was going to go to australia for 6 months at one point. we were so in love.. aww. the thought of him going made me feel ill. ergh. i don't know if i would have stayed with him if he had gone. even 6 months is a long time.
in the end, his family decided to only go for the summer, and he stayed behind. t'was a good summer.

yeah.. that didn't really help eh?

Reply 7

cheekylittleminx

A year is a long time - I think you should seperate just for the year and if your feelings are as strong as they are now in a years time then get back together!

Reply 8

PhilMc

Enjoy the next three months. And then finish it in September. And when he comes back if he/you still want to make it happen then very good - go for it. However, if you find that either you or him don't then nothing is lost because you'll know that it'd never have worked.

Good luck :smile:

Reply 9

x_princessofdiamonds_x

U no wat? im sorta in the same situation.. im movin 2 canada in august, leavin my boyfriend of 6 months (so far) behind... in august it will b 8-9 months, so imagine the situation im in...
trust me... u'll find someone else, hu wont even compare to them... u have ur hole life ahead of u.. and u will find someone hu wil stay in this country and b with u...

I'm upset im leavin him..but, dont leave him until he goes....i no this sounds silllyy, but have fun with him 4 3 months uve got left!! leaving him now will make u think 'damn, wat if?' and u'll be miserable until he leaves... i no i'll b unhappy wen i leave for a bit, but ther will b others.. im gona enjoy my time with him up till august and remember the fun times we had together..not dwell on leaving...
xXx

Reply 10

goodmen

It might hurt but take a year long break when it hurts. If hes out in Australia he probably wont want to be hindered with a girlfriend and if hes away for a year you might want to let your hair down every now and again

Reply 11

Hx18x

Thanks everyone :smile:

To the person who posted first , Im at college so I wont be getting a job lol , but yeah :smile:

I guess Im just gunna have to enjoy these last 3 months with him and then see what happenes when he gets back , and like a few of you had said, If our feelings are really strong when he gets back we can pick up where we left it :smile:

Its just scary thinking hes guna be half way round the world lol , Im no im guna miss him alot and yeah , it has only been 2 months so far with him but I really do like him.

Thanks everyone who has replied :smile:

Your really helpful :smile:

xxxxxx

Reply 12

. sav .

My blokes just gone to another country as well, but jsut for 3 months. It is difficult and I'm not comparing our situations at all becuase a year is so much longer and more difficult.

In my experience, Skype / Msn with webcams / microphones is the way forward. i know with australia its difficult becuase of the time difference but if you two decide you're that committed then it can be done. Get a job, earn some money and go out to see him 6months in. That way theres a break in the middle and you get to see him for a week or so.

Alternatively maybe you need to have a chat with him, a serious one, to discuss where you two are going and how you want to approach this situation. Im sure he's in the same mindset as you, he'll want to sort it out just as much as you andmaybe he's got some new ideas on this. Just remember that if he suggests you part for the year, its not becuase he doesnt wanna be with you or he thinks this isnt gonna work... its becuase its gonna be a tough time for you both and the strain on a relationship will be greater than the strain on a friendship. Make it through as friends and see where you go from there.

Reply 13

Ang|ophi|e

I just started summer break and i've got 2 1/2 months away from my boyfriend. Although this doesnt compare to a YEAR you have to face, I feel the same way. My advise is just to enjoy the months you have left with him. Don't think about Australia. Just make the most of it. During the year he's in Australia, try to keep in contact with him. It can be through email, IM, or phone. Based on what you are saying, you have strong feelings for this guy. You should talk with him and discuss the future of your relationship. If he loves you as much as you love him, I'm sure a long-distance relationship wouldn't sound so bad.

Reply 14

Fluent in Lies

If you want to be together enough you'll see it out. If either of you lack the commitment I'd say it's best to break up.

Better to be together, if not with you, than not together at all.

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