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    Ok I am so confused with my sexuality. I am a 17 years old girl. Ages ago, when I was 13/14, I was convinced that I was a lesbian, because I liked watching lesbian porn. I haven't watched porn since I was 14 until a few months ago (but not regularly, like every few weeks). I been attracted to guys in real life, but I've never been attracted to girls in real life. Also, this is weird but I get find myself being attracted to unattractive/ below average looking guys, because of their personality. Like I literally get turned on by their personality.

    I get turned on by gay, lesbian and straight porn. Oh, i get turned on by penises too. So having this is mind, I thought that maybe I'm bisexual. BUT I don't like vaginas. When I watch porn and it zooms into the vagina, I look away, because I find it gross and disgusting. But I like boobs. A lot. Probably because I'm flat chested myself. As I've said before I've never been attracted to a female in real life, but I would like to have a lesbian experience at some point because I like boobs. But at the same time I don't want the lesbian experience because I'm scared of vaginas. When I watch lesbian porn, I stay for the undressing and the boobie playing parts, but close as soon as they start doing other stuff.

    Also, this is weird but I find that people with lingerie are hotter than being completely naked. Like a guy in tight boxers (which reveal the outline of a boner), or a girl who is wearing a lacy bra with a slight nip slip is SUPER hot. It turns me on more that a naked guy/girl.

    The thing that confuses me the most is that multiple articles on the Internet have stated that an experiment showed that straight women are turned on by gay, lesbian and hetero porn, whereas straight guys are only turned on my hetero porn. Which confuses me, because straight= attracted to the opposite gender, so how can you be straight if you are tuned on by lesbian porn?

    I've never been in a relationship before. So no girlfriend/ boyfriend. But I have had multiple boy crushes tho.

    I know, it's all very confusing. I don't feel like I'm in denial about my sexuality or anything, because I feel like I'm comfortable with not being straight. It's 2016 and I feel like more people accept the lgbt community. But Im just annoyed since I don't know what I am. I tell people that I'm bicurious...
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    Sexuality is complex

    Sexual orientation is made up of a number of things including attraction, identity and behaviour (what I like to think of as 'thought and word and deed'...) They do not have to be, and often aren't, the same as each other and also often change over time.

    Do a search for 'Klein Sexual Orientation Grid', try it and see what results you get.
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    Like Unprinted said sexuality is complex, and as you get older in life, labels get less important.
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    I'm 16 y/o girl and pretty much in the same boat as you (apart from the vagina thing) lol so at least you know you're not alone! Like you, I'm totally fine with being lgbt, I'm just unsure what I am yet. I don't really feel comfortable identifying with bisexual because I think it has so many stupid connotations like 'attention seeker' and stuff. It's always gonna be confusing, I guess just try and remember we're all different and we don't need labels x
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    I know how you feel, although I know i am bi-sexual, I am starting to think I am lesbian. There's no rush to label yourself when it comes to sexual orientation, believe me it took me years to finally realise that my crush for a singer wasn't just some silly crush. You have your entire future to figure this out so just focus on the things that matter hunni, your heart will tell you in time.
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    I am only 15, and a boy, but I feel the same... I had girl crushes but only one boy about a year ago...
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    ok i am so confused with my sexuality. I am a 17 years old girl. Ages ago, when i was 13/14, i was convinced that i was a lesbian, because i liked watching lesbian porn. I haven't watched porn since i was 14 until a few months ago (but not regularly, like every few weeks). I been attracted to guys in real life, but i've never been attracted to girls in real life. Also, this is weird but i get find myself being attracted to unattractive/ below average looking guys, because of their personality. Like i literally get turned on by their personality.

    I get turned on by gay, lesbian and straight porn. Oh, i get turned on by penises too. So having this is mind, i thought that maybe i'm bisexual. But i don't like vaginas. When i watch porn and it zooms into the vagina, i look away, because i find it gross and disgusting. But i like boobs. A lot. Probably because i'm flat chested myself. As i've said before i've never been attracted to a female in real life, but i would like to have a lesbian experience at some point because i like boobs. But at the same time i don't want the lesbian experience because i'm scared of vaginas. When i watch lesbian porn, i stay for the undressing and the boobie playing parts, but close as soon as they start doing other stuff.

    Also, this is weird but i find that people with lingerie are hotter than being completely naked. Like a guy in tight boxers (which reveal the outline of a boner), or a girl who is wearing a lacy bra with a slight nip slip is super hot. It turns me on more that a naked guy/girl.

    The thing that confuses me the most is that multiple articles on the internet have stated that an experiment showed that straight women are turned on by gay, lesbian and hetero porn, whereas straight guys are only turned on my hetero porn. Which confuses me, because straight= attracted to the opposite gender, so how can you be straight if you are tuned on by lesbian porn?

    I've never been in a relationship before. So no girlfriend/ boyfriend. But i have had multiple boy crushes tho.

    I know, it's all very confusing. I don't feel like i'm in denial about my sexuality or anything, because i feel like i'm comfortable with not being straight. It's 2016 and i feel like more people accept the lgbt community. But im just annoyed since i don't know what i am. I tell people that i'm bicurious...
    ayo cuz! Imma b straight up trippin witcha homie, got wit what you feel man! Hit em like chris brown
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    You, my dearest friend, are bisexual.


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    dont worry, a lot of girls tend to watch girl on girl rather that hetrosexual, even tho they are hetrosexual, this is a proven fact that i have read somewhere and dont worry in time u will know and i dont like labels just love who you wanna love and have sex with who ever you want to have sex, dont worry about the label, just have fun, we are in a postmordern society so if anyone judges **** them ( not in that way ahahah sorry had to )
 
 
 
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