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    Im currently in a relationship but am (hopefully) of to uni in september, he lives pretty far away from where I'll be studying (around £30 on the train) has anyone got any past experience with this or tips and advice for it?
    I really do love this person and hopefully I want it to work out
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    How long have you been with him? In some cases it can be better to just call the relationship off. Better than struggling through the distance and lack of physical contact.


    Most of the couple from my school split up when we all went to Uni, some stayed together than separated.
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    Yes it's doable. But it's also difficult. When in a long distance relationship communication, trust and honesty become much more important than in a relationship where you get to see each other often because issues become amplified due to the distance. You have to both want it and you have to both put your all into it.
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    (Original post by elm4541)
    Im currently in a relationship but am (hopefully) of to uni in september, he lives pretty far away from where I'll be studying (around £30 on the train) has anyone got any past experience with this or tips and advice for it?
    I really do love this person and hopefully I want it to work out
    I was in a 'long distance relationship'. It was about £70 - £78 return in advance on train and like 4 - 4.5 hours journey.

    We saw eachother about once a month. It was really difficult because we missed eachother a lot, but when we finally saw eachother it reminded us what we were all about and we had really amazing times together.

    It took a lot of effort on both of our parts, financially and timewise mostly, but then you have xmas, easter, summer breaks so it's doable.

    If you want it to work, you'll need good time management to get your assignments done so you have weekends free to see eachother. But you also need to spend time with friends/doing sports/whatever you enjoy, you don't really want your uni experience to just be uni and boyfriend.
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    Thank you people! Given me a lot to think about
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    My partner and I did it for two years. We weren't a train ride away - we lived at opposite ends of the planet. Which also meant a time difference of twelve hours, which made it almost impossible to schedule time to talk.

    My advice - Use Skype, have a talking schedule, have a full social life, and whatever you don, don't cheat. Keep your appointments with each other, talk often. Sometimes falling asleep together on Skype is good too. But if you don't have complete trust in each other now, I'm not sure it's worth it.

    But it can be done.
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    I'm in one with a girl who is a £400 plane ride away and currently it's going fine. Hopefully I'll be going over there for a longer period over summer and then later in the year/maybe next year looking at moving there on a more permanent basis.
 
 
 
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