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Friend issue, give up on her?
I've been best friends with a girl for about 4ish years and we get on so well, talk every night for hours, see eachother most days etc but now exams have come she doesn't seem to care about me at all, we haven't spoken for 2 days and i'm worried that she just doesn't want to bother with me, i know exams are really important and we're both stressed and revising but she seems to think everything revolves around her for example we spoke a few nights ago on msn and she was feeling tired and stressed so was very rude and distant and when i asked her if she was ok she got annoyed and we basically had a fight and haven't spoken since.. this is really upsetting me as she's my closest friend but I haven't heard from her recently and don't want to call her incase she is busy and gets even more annoyed with me, i text her last night because i tried to call and she wouldn't pick up and she just dismissed me saying she was busy and would talk later.
*sigh*
*sigh*
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Imagine how irritated you'd be if you were working your ass off for exams, stressed and busy and generally wound up, and your friend kept nagging you to talk to her. Sorry to be harsh, it just sounds like you're smothering her. Tell her you understand that she's busy and you're happy to forgo talking on the phone for hours each night until the exams are over. Then stop worrying and do some revision yourself.
Reply 4
No i'm not thinking about ditching her, i'm just fed up with the fact that even though i'm her best friend everything seems to be more important than me, i'm so stressed aswell but I still have time to call/text her and let her know i'm there if she wants me. I know exams are really important but i'd always put my friends first, obviously people don't agree though.
Anonymous
No i'm not thinking about ditching her, i'm just fed up with the fact that even though i'm her best friend everything seems to be more important than me, i'm so stressed aswell but I still have time to call/text her and let her know i'm there if she wants me. I know exams are really important but i'd always put my friends first, obviously people don't agree though.
Give her some space. She still likes you, just leave her alone for a while. It sounds like you both need a break.
Anonymous
No i'm not thinking about ditching her, i'm just fed up with the fact that even though i'm her best friend everything seems to be more important than me, i'm so stressed aswell but I still have time to call/text her and let her know i'm there if she wants me. I know exams are really important but i'd always put my friends first, obviously people don't agree though.
Everything seems to be more important than you? You mean exams? Exams which can make or break your career for the rest of your life? If I was your friend your damn right I would consider them (the exams) more important than you. Sorry to be harsh but it is true.
You keep talking about her not thinking about you, yet you seem so self absorbed and quite frankly selfish that you can't see just how important these exams are to your friend.
Reply 7
What if she doesn't come back to me though? I've kinda been waiting for her to call tonight cos i miss talking to her
Reply 8
Cromulent
Everything seems to be more important than you? You mean exams? Exams which can make or break your career for the rest of your life? If I was your friend your damn right I would consider them (the exams) more important than you. Sorry to be harsh but it is true.
You keep talking about her not thinking about you, yet you seem so self absorbed and quite frankly selfish that you can't see just how important these exams are to your friend.
You keep talking about her not thinking about you, yet you seem so self absorbed and quite frankly selfish that you can't see just how important these exams are to your friend.
Yeah you're right i am being selfish and self absorbed, all my other friends seem to find a minute in the day to call me though so i don't know why she can't seeing as we're eachothers closest friends.
Anonymous
No i'm not thinking about ditching her, i'm just fed up with the fact that even though i'm her best friend everything seems to be more important than me, i'm so stressed aswell but I still have time to call/text her and let her know i'm there if she wants me. I know exams are really important but i'd always put my friends first, obviously people don't agree though.
Ironically you're not putting your friend first.
You should want what's best for her - which is to do well in her exams. Like it or not, exams SHOULD be your priority during exam period. She has recognised that, you haven't; it's not her fault.
If you're really her friend, let her do well in her exams. It's a week or two at the most, just grin and bear it.
The point of best friends is that they don't have to talk every day to maintain their friendship, btw. It's like sitting in silence - you don't need to say anything, you're just content to know the other is there.
Reply 10
bunthulhu
Ironically you're not putting your friend first.
You should want what's best for her - which is to do well in her exams. Like it or not, exams SHOULD be your priority during exam period. She has recognised that, you haven't; it's not her fault.
If you're really her friend, let her do well in her exams. It's a week or two at the most, just grin and bear it.
The point of best friends is that they don't have to talk every day to maintain their friendship, btw. It's like sitting in silence - you don't need to say anything, you're just content to know the other is there.
You should want what's best for her - which is to do well in her exams. Like it or not, exams SHOULD be your priority during exam period. She has recognised that, you haven't; it's not her fault.
If you're really her friend, let her do well in her exams. It's a week or two at the most, just grin and bear it.
The point of best friends is that they don't have to talk every day to maintain their friendship, btw. It's like sitting in silence - you don't need to say anything, you're just content to know the other is there.
That's true, i just feel we've got into a routine of talking every day and now we're not i feel kind of lonley i guess, but you're right i should let her get on with her revision and just leave her be.
Reply 11
Different people cope with exams in different ways. While you might be chilled out and relaxed about the whole thingand consider your friends to be more important to you still, your friend may be one of those people who stresses out a lot more, out of a genuine wish to do well. Similarly Joe Bloggs across the street might plan his revision 4 months in advance, while his best friend John Smith leaves it all till the last week and gets mega stressed.
Times like these are difficult for everyone. Someties people really need some "me time". I suggest (if you agree of course) that you apologise to yourfriend and try and see things from her perspective. You may then proceed to leave her in peace, and do your revisio and get the grades you're in line for. And yes, these exams are important!
Times like these are difficult for everyone. Someties people really need some "me time". I suggest (if you agree of course) that you apologise to yourfriend and try and see things from her perspective. You may then proceed to leave her in peace, and do your revisio and get the grades you're in line for. And yes, these exams are important!
Anonymous
That's true, i just feel we've got into a routine of talking every day and now we're not i feel kind of lonley i guess, but you're right i should let her get on with her revision and just leave her be.
Loneliness sucks, and don't worry - I'm sure she misses you too - she's just one of those lucky people with lots of motivation and a good head for her priorities. I'm sure as soon as exams are over things will be back to normal.
bunthulhu
Loneliness sucks, and don't worry - I'm sure she misses you too - she's just one of those lucky people with lots of motivation and a good head for her priorities. I'm sure as soon as exams are over things will be back to normal.
I hope so, for the original posters sake.
Hang in there Anon #1. Concentrate on your exams and not your friend.
Reply 14
everyone goes through a tough time during exams
some go through it alone, some don't
focus on your exams, as thats all you can do now..
she probably misses you too
some go through it alone, some don't
focus on your exams, as thats all you can do now..
she probably misses you too
Reply 15
Give her some space.
Reply 16
Thanks everyone for your replies 
I do hope things go back to normal cos i'd be quite lost without her, we're very close. I have been revising loads to take my mind off everything but it's just now I need a rest and am worrying about the whole situation and that she's just never gonna call or have time for me.
I do hope things go back to normal cos i'd be quite lost without her, we're very close. I have been revising loads to take my mind off everything but it's just now I need a rest and am worrying about the whole situation and that she's just never gonna call or have time for me.
Reply 18
I have other friends, it's just you know when you have a really special friend who you're closer to than anyone else.. yeah..
Reply 19
leave her be, when under stress people always do this, i dont personally, but its understandable, because in the end, they have to work if they dont they are going to miss their grades. after exams be nice again.
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