Is this a turn off?

I have pectus excavatum ( see link) which makes me have a dent in my chest. I havent told anyone about this, and am very self concious about the issue. What would you think if you saw someone like this? I have been looking into surgery to correct it, but it seems a big step and i dont know if its worth it. What do you people think?

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Reply 1

uk_chip

11

is it like that when you breathe out aswell? personally i would have surgery no matter what, but i am aware that is onlyl my opinion and i know people who would never even consider it. personally i think that if something is wrong and you feel it needs to be fixed, FIX IT!

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

Thats no me in the pic btw, but i'm similar. Its always dented in, and although its not causing any health problems, i think, i hate it. Thanks for an honest opinion.

Reply 3

Dark Flower

My friend has this and it hasn't affected his luck with the ladies.
Personally i don't think you need to have surgery, unless it's really affecting you personally.
If you're worried about what partners think of it, if they are that superficial to be bothered by it, then do you really want to be with them?
I think it's completely up to you, it's whether changing that will give you more self confidence, or whether finding someone who accepts you for who you are

Reply 4

daniel_williams

15

someone i know has this very same condition (al be it they are 48) but i know they used to worry about it a LOT. if there is someone who likes you a lit will see past it. however. if you do feel extremely concious about it then surgery can fit it. yes the operation will be rather drastic because its in an area thats well not easily accessible due to the number of vital organs around it.

do whatever you feel you need to do. the fact is if someone loves you as a person yeah they mgiht not think its majorly attractive but i doub't they'd love you any less for having a condition such as this.

Reply 5

trixy17

LeoBean

My friend has this and it hasn't affected his luck with the ladies.
Personally i don't think you need to have surgery, unless it's really affecting you personally.
If you're worried about what partners think of it, if they are that superficial to be bothered by it, then do you really want to be with them?
I think it's completely up to you, it's whether changing that will give you more self confidence, or whether finding someone who accepts you for who you are

I agree, if someone can't just accept you for who you are, it there any point in knowing them at all? Don't change yourself for other people. Get the surgery if you want it!

Reply 6

dead antics

^^^ thats true but its hard isnt it

are you a boy or a girl?

Reply 7

Flank Runner

don't worry about it chief, no ones perfect, at least you have your health

Reply 8

Serendipity*

1

I'll be honest with you, initially when I saw the pic I was like "ouch!". It didn't make me gross out, just feel really bad for you. I hope it's not painful?
Secondly, like a few people have said, if someone truly likes you for who you are then that shouldn't get in the way. I know I wouldn't let that stop me loving someone :smile:

Reply 9

inferiormadbeing

1

My friend has this as well (we rest drinks in it) and has a wonderful gf who he has been with for the past 2 years, so I wouldn't worry about it.

You should be loved for who you are. :smile:

Reply 10

Jelkin

17

I don't think it's really a big deal. Admittedly a regular chest is more attractive, but it's just one of those things, like having a bit of a belly or greying hair whilst still young. It doesn't make you unattractive. It won't mean you can't get a girlfriend or anything. Don't get surgery just for the ladies - do it if you can't accept the way you look.

Reply 11

Llamaaa

15

I think it is cute :biggrin:

Reply 12

Lara C.

3

i remember a lad in my PE group had one of those, didnt give him any problems.

Reply 13

Dollaleigh

8

personally if i had it and it was making me feel bad and self conscious and there was a way to put it right, id get the surgery

Reply 14

ThatLauren.

Noo it's not a turn off! Some people may find it strange but it can't really be helped- and it's not that bad. When someone really likes you they won't care.

Reply 15

DaChronik

Damn... Is it that big? I can see why you worry about it, but tbh its prolly like anything, someone aint gonna care if they like you for u... Hell people might find it cute... I dunno...

Personally I would get surgery, but not so I could impress someone! Oh and if it didnt cost that much... lol

Reply 16

yellow96

15

It wouldn't be a turn off for me. I mean I'd notice it but I'd just be more curious than anything else.

Reply 17

*Katie*

1

redballoons

I'll be honest with you, initially when I saw the pic I was like "ouch!". It didn't make me gross out, just feel really bad for you. I hope it's not painful?

That's what I'd feel like if I was "getting down and dirty" and saw it - so it may perhaps be a mood killer if the person didn't know about it already?
I don't think it's that big a deal (I'm more turned off by belly buttons that poke outwards, I have no idea why :redface:

) BUT I do think that if it's making YOU feel self-conscious, then I would look into the surgery. Hope that helps!

Reply 18

yellow96

15

Sorry to post again, and I know that's not you in the picture so forgive me if this doesn't apply, but would it become less noticable if you built up some muscle? I'm not familiar with the mechanics of the condition, but if this would help then it could do wonders for your confidence in general.

Reply 19

louisedotcom

13

If its not causing you any health problems or serious emotional ones (ie you get depressed about it) then I dont think that there is any need for surgery.
I cant see it being much of a problem or a 'turn off' for anyone especially if it doesnt effect you physically in anyway.

If however I had this condition I would have surgery simply because thats just the kind of person I am- if something is 'fixable' I'd try and have it fixed.

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