Is this normal?

I am 14, and have never been physically attracted to anyone, not to celebrities or real people. I don't find porn photos attractive either. I started my periods when I was 12, so surely biologically I should be 'fancying' people by now?

Help?

Reply 1

bunthulhu

14

Can you still look at someone and appreciate that they are attractive? Just because you don't want to have sex with them, I don't think is an issue; not to be patronising but you're very young. If you're still not remotely interested in sex in a year or two then I'd say it'd be more of a concern.

Reply 2

daniel_williams

15

yeah i can't see why it would be abnormal.

most people don't have prper relationships or feelings for people untl much later on in life. i can honestly say i didn't feel physically attracted to anyone when i was your age. yeah ok i had a girlfriend but when i was 14 it was the thing to do to try make it look like you were cool. but don't be worried i didn't start finding people physicaly attractive until i was coming up 16. yeah i had a few girlfriends here and there between but nothing serious.

but i can understand the way you feel. don't be worried about it. and as for pornography... it doesn't do much for a lot of people. personally myself... nah doesn't work. maybe if things were a little mroe personal you might get physically attracted to someone rather than "something" you can feel physically attracted towards.

Reply 3

misshape

OP

4

I can see that people are good looking, but only in an aesthetic way. I know I am very young :p:

however I have masturbated to orgasm... so what does that mean? (I know nothing, seriously!)

Reply 4

uk_chip

11

i just realised your a girl, i dont know but ive never come accross any porn for females on the net, unless its gay porn.

Reply 5

Tyler Durden

17

misshape

I can see that people are good looking, but only in an aesthetic way. I know I am very young :p:

however I have masturbated to orgasm... so what does that mean? (I know nothing, seriously!)

Erm, do you not think about anything when masturbating?

But anyway, I wouldn't worry about it. Means you have standards and self-control. Both of which are attractive qualities in a girl. Also, there's nothing very attractive about guys your age! And fancying celebrities is very different to finding someone attractive. Attraction is about intellectual, physical, emotional compatibility - not something overly easy to come by. Don't worry!

Reply 6

bunthulhu

14

misshape

I can see that people are good looking, but only in an aesthetic way. I know I am very young :p:

however I have masturbated to orgasm... so what does that mean? (I know nothing, seriously!)

Aesthetic is fine, at least you are recognising it.

That means you do have a sex drive, which means you don't have to worry. :smile:

Reply 7

Fluent in Lies

2

she probably imagines a beach sunset or a leafy glade. I hear that works for girls.

Reply 8

Tyler Durden

17

Fluent in Lies

she probably imagines a beach sunset or a leafy glade. I hear that works for girls.

Had a great one about the Lake District once myself! :p:

Reply 9

misshape

OP

4

OK, I'm pretty reassured now :biggrin:

Though let's not go any further into masturbation.. :p:

Reply 10

Fluent in Lies

2

Not into the penetrative stuff eh? :frown:

Reply 11

Dark Flower

lol i was like that when i was 14
i don't think being surrounded by 14 year old boys who still thought that periods meant a girl was bleeding Everywhere, but yet still expected to have had sex with a dosen girls by the time they were 16 because they were sofit, really helped me see them as attractive

Reply 12

Ozy

7

Perfectly normal, it wasn't until I was 16/17 that I started being attracted to other people.

Reply 13

faik_kheft

4

Absolutely nothing to be bothered about, I didn't fancy anyone till sixth form, so that would have made me 16/17ish...I always found it slightly bemusing when people were talking about how 'hot' certain guys were, and I really just couldn't see it myself.
:smile:

Reply 14

toth8

3

misshape

I am 14, and have never been physically attracted to anyone, not to celebrities or real people. I don't find porn photos attractive either. I started my periods when I was 12, so surely biologically I should be 'fancying' people by now?

Help?

So? Normal is relative.

Reply 15

ßlαcksωαn

17

geez you're still a baby. Though for myself, I found guys attractive in kinder! and have ever since. But we all develop at different times. Don't worry :wink:

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