Do you think that it is morally wrong to moan/self pity? When you consider how many people live in poverty etc is it wrong to self pity?
No, I think you should be allowed to moan about whatever you want.
“I think that if I ever have kids, and they are upset, I won't tell them that people are starving in China or anything like that because it wouldn't change the fact that they were upset. And even if somebody else has it much worse, that doesn't really change the fact that you have what you have.”
The only thing which annoys me is people who continue to moan but refuse to make any attempt to improve the situation they are in. I think generally having a bit of a moan can make you feel a lot better and you need a bit of self care (which can include feeling sorry for yourself) sometimes... just need to have limits so you don't make yourself feel worse.
As far as comparing, there's no point, there's always someone worse off and better off and the only thing that really matters is how you feel in your mind, if you feel crappy then you deserve to do whatever will make you feel better.
I think it is wrong and find it cringe worthy when people who are so lucky to live in peace and prosperity moan and whinge it is nauseating,
Morally wrong? That's stupid. No.
moaning can become a lifestyle for the feeble
It's not wrong if you're planning to change your circumstances. If you're going to carry on giving yourself reasons to moan about, then you're not better than whatever it was you were moaning about in the first place.
No, of course it isn't morally wrong. I mean we have all done it at some point whether it is wishing we had a new car, a better life etc.
I used to get these thoughts a lot before, I started moaning about my life, looking at what other people had and wishing I had it too. I was making comparisons which were pulling me down.
But then, I started to think about all the things that I do have such as a roof over my head, warmth, clothing, food and water. These basic essential things that we all need that many people don't have because they live in poverty.
Last week, I was laying in bed, and I was thinking just how uncomfortable my mattress was and wondering how good it would be to have much more money so that I could buy a new one, a comfier one. However, I then thought about all those other people who don't even have a bed to sleep in. Men, women, children who have to sleep on the dirty ground whether under a roof or plainly outside, who are vulnerable to danger and who barely have anything to eat! So I thank God for having shelter, a bed to lie in each night, food on the table to eat, so that I am able survive and live a reasonable life, that many people in poverty only dream of.
So, what I'm saying is that yes we can moan and have self pity. But to a certain extent.