Rich guy and me.

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Basically i met this guy in a club last week and he is majorly rich and he's a doctor aswell. To be honest when we got talking i had no idea he was rich..i just thought he was attractive and cute. Well we have been speaking to each other and texting each other since last week.He wants to date me...etc. I
know this sounds stupid as most girls would love to date a rich guy...but i reckon i'd feel really uncomfortable.He keeps mentioning all these expensive restaurants that he's gonna take me to. To be honest I'm from a really normal conservative middle class family and i can't stand materialistic people..so i'd just feel weird dating him. But.....then i find him really attractive as a person...before i found he was rich.
I gave him my number...and now he won't leave me alone...and do like him.
I just don't like the fact that he's sooo rich.
I don't know what to do??? :confused:

Reply 1

milly.

12

Go out with him, if you like him then put up with his 'fault' of being rich.
If you end up not liking him, end it and problem solved.
Just because he's rich doesn't necessarily mean he's materialistic.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

boys-play-rock-and-roll

Go out with him, if you like him then put up with his 'fault' of being rich.
If you end up not liking him, end it and problem solved.
Just because he's rich doesn't necessarily mean he's materialistic.

Thats true. But why does he keep saying how he'll take me here and thereto these expensive places???

Reply 3

Misogynist

18

Because he thinks you'll like it if he spends so much time and money on you.

Women..

Reply 4

kiss-the-rain

Maybe he is just trying to impress you...?

Why don't you suggest a place..?

Reply 5

DeepStar

17

boys-play-rock-and-roll

Go out with him, if you like him then put up with his 'fault' of being rich.
If you end up not liking him, end it and problem solved.
Just because he's rich doesn't necessarily mean he's materialistic.

Simple as that !! :biggrin:

Reply 6

Custer

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Anonymous

Basically i met this guy in a club last week and he is majorly rich and he's a doctor aswell.

If he's a doctor, then he's likely to have worked hard for it and also if he was really poor, it would be wrong to feel annoyed if he invited you to crappy places. So since this guy is rich, it should work the same way.

Reply 7

nota bene

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Anonymous

Thats true. But why does he keep saying how he'll take me here and thereto these expensive places???

Here is one possible answer that I agree with:

Misogynist

Because he thinks you'll like it if he spends so much time and money on you.

Another possible answer would be that all these places sounding extremely flashy in your ears (well they are), but to him it may just be where he normally goes and therefore it is not that much of a big deal to him? I.e. he just mentions some food shacks where he's usually at :p:

Reply 8

MagicNMedicine

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Anonymous

To be honest I'm from a really normal conservative middle class family

thats why you're fussing about something unimportant, if you'd grown up in a council estate you would appreciate someone for having bettered themselves

Reply 9

Jelkin

17

Yeah, I'd be most impressed with his being a doctor. Just be pleased that he's intelligent and has worked hard. You'll get used to the money thing - I have a wealthy boyfriend and although it was never a real problem, I do feel uncomfortable about things now and then ... it's getting better though. Also, he'll probably want to (or insist on) paying for things, which you might feel bad about, but you'll get used to it, or if he doesn't insist quite as much as my boyfriend then you can pay your own way.

What I really hate is the fact that because I gave up on trying to pay my own way all the time (my boyfriend honestly won't hear of it and it gets to be a hassle wrestling over the bill at dinner and racing to get your money out before him), people working behind bars, etc, seem to think I'm a massive gold digger, particularly as he always makes this joke, like, "oh, OKAY, I'll pay for you ... AGAIN," or, sometimes, "I guess you didn't bring your wallet ... *sigh* ". I should probably talk to him about that again.

Reply 10

sebbie

15

Poor bloke can't win, if he'd offered to take you to McDonalds you'd be moaning at him for being cheap!

Reply 11

Schmokie Dragon

17

He is trying to 'get the girl'. He doesn't know you don't like materialistic people, and an awful lot of girls are deeply materialistic, so he is just trying out what he thinks is a winning tactic.

You could always take the bull by the horns and suggest a night out that you would enjoy. Or maybe a day out. Show him the direction you want to go in and see if he gets the hint.

Reply 12

*Katie*

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nota bene

Another possible answer would be that all these places sounding extremely flashy in your ears (well they are), but to him it may just be where he normally goes and therefore it is not that much of a big deal to him? I.e. he just mentions some food shacks where he's usually at :p:

I am with nota bene. Maybe he's not trying to impress you; he might genuinely eat at these places and not realise that you see it as 'flashy'. Or he might think that you'd be impressed - but go out with him and find out! I'm impressed with you for not being a bit of a golddigger - the amount of girls I know who seem to be dating guys for the sake of it (obviously the fact that they're related to x or stand to inherit and estate has nothing to do with it :rolleyes:

)

Reply 13

Anonymous #2

Sounds like someone has an inferiority complex - you shouldn't judge/treat people differently because of their wealth (or lack thereof)

Reply 14

Anonymous #3

Give the guy a chance. I come from a very wealthy family and you can get into 'circles' where all people care about is money. In the past I have gone out with 'shopping girls' because that is all I have known.

Now however I have an amazing girlfriend who has made me strive to be a much better person, there is no need to be arrogant or snobby with her, she just makes me feel so comfortable, we don't even talk about money, we do things and they are fun because we are together not just because it is 'the thing to be seen doing'. We do things that we want to do even though others may consider them boring, we don't give a stuff :smile:

Perhaps you could do this for this guy? He clearly wants to impress you but you should show him that he doesn't need to throw his money around to make you happy. Perhaps tell him you wouldn't feel comfortable going to an expensive resturant just yet? If he reacts badly then he isn't worth being with...on the other hand :smile:

Reply 15

Margerie Dawes

How old are you and how old is he just wondered. Yeah he is probably just trying to impress you as lots of women are attracted to wealth and status.

Reply 16

randomgirl

14

Ask him if he fancies going to McDonalds? :tongue:

There's some good advice in this thread, I reckon you should suggest a place.
And as somebody mentioned, these restaurants might be his usual haunts and he doesn't consider them as being over-the-top expensive and flashy.

I reckon you should go out with him once and see how it goes!

Reply 17

ßlαcksωαn

17

Stop being such a judgemental idiot. You mentioned 'rich' like 50 times in that post. Are you that silly that you can't just look at the guy despite his bank account..you've said you're attracted to him so what's the problem??