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    Im really struggling at the moment, i have finished university, working now but I am regretting every choice I have made up till now.

    I just studied the most difficult subjects my whole life, i had the typical aim of becoming a doctor like all asians and my goals became too hard for me, i wasnt enjoyinv life since alevels and my studies were the only thing i focused on at college and univerdity as i had a bad break up with friends!

    All i thiught about was having a good career but i thought i had to be the best at everything in order to get there.

    I became a loner and a nerd which is not like me , i was always hardworking but not to the extent of abandoning all socialisation, i just no longer felt wanted by any of my peers even when i joined new classes ( i chose mostly science courses). I found people at college and uni not very welcoming.

    I just wonder if i should have not been so rigid with myself in wanting a science career and getting extreamly down everytime i didnt do well enough to get into a particular science career ( i actually beleived i was stupid for getting Cs in science, mostly due to stress from the friend issue) wish i had not been so hard on myself back then, and wish i didnt think too far ahead, i wished i studied subjects that were easy and enjoyed and not have let those so called friends ruin that for me ( i avoided choosing classes they were in).

    Just felt like posting this incase anyone else had any advice?
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    So are you at Uni now?
    Are you doing medicine?

    Life can be tough but at least you recognise some of the things you felt went wrong and you can do some damage limitation
    Learn from the Past, Live in the Present, Hope for the Future

    Throwing yourself into work to avoid an issue is never a good idea. Without proper balance and direction nobody will get very far, unless they're lucky, at which point they need to ask themselves whether they're happy as they are or whether they need to change. Balance can come in personal, social and work, and if you're not centred in one then chances are you won't be centred in the other two.

    You've realised your mistake, so don't dwell on it any longer. Make a point of learning from it and don't repeat the same mistake in the future. Bounce back as best you can and find a new direction if you don't want to be a doctor. You got this!
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    I am not a doctor i didnt get hood enough grades i did psychology and now have a different career direction working in government, but i do not have a balance at all, i am extreamly awakward socially, i really do know it started back when i faced a tough time due to friends and peers absolute hate towards me.
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