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boyfriend/girlfriend uni relationships

For those of you that had a relationship before you went to uni and are now at the same uni did your relationship last?

If not how long was it before you broke up and why?

anon because I am nervous posting here. thanks

Reply 1

white water lily

I have a friend who was with her boyfriend before coming to uni, now they're at the same uni, and still together.

My boyfriend is going to be at the same uni as me next year :smile:

And I can't see the relationship ending... We've survived a year apart so I'm expecting it to be easier.

Are you worried about being at the same uni as your partner?

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

Well I am at hte same uni as my boyfriend although in separate halls, we had a bit of a sticky time around feb/march but seem to have got through. However lots of my friends who had relationships before going to uni have now broken up and I suppose I'm worried we will too.

We have found it hard developing other friends/joining clubs etc and spending lots of time to get to know them as well as keeping the relationship going hence my post to see if others who went to the same uni are finding it difficult.

Next yr we will be living separately too and he is sharing with 2 other girls and a boy and me 4 other girls (long story why we are not sharing). I know I will have a slight problem with that as one of the girls flirts with him and is quite territorial with him if you know what I mean, writes we are going to do this and that next yr on facebook etc so I am worried. Also he will be away in his third yr as he is a language student as will she, so I suppose I'm afraid that he will develop a relationship with her, maybe not sexually but emotionally.

hence asking the reason the reason why peoples relationship has broken up.

Reply 3

username47781

20

A relationship works if you trust each other. Mine survived uni mainly because we could trust each other and although we spent a while apart, we would always look forward to the next time we saw each other.

Reply 4

white water lily

I can see how it might be hard developing other friends etc... I'm lucky I won't have that problem cos I've already been here a year.

About the flirty girl though... sure its annoying and I can see why it upsets you, but has your boyfriend given you any reason to doubt him? I've kind of experienced this from the other side.. There's a guy who flirts with me a bit, he writes annoying things on facebook too, and it upsets my boyfriend. But there is no way anything would ever happen between me and this guy. Trust your boyfriend :smile:

-unless he's given you reason not to...

Reply 5

toonbarmy

In all honesty, it is very simple to keep a relationship going whilst at uni. My girlfriend goes to bath whilst i (last year) was at swansea. We would see eachother a fair few time (weekend) and it was managable. My feelings on this is that if you are keen to break up with someone just because you are going to uni, then your relationship to begin with was pointless. Whats the point of being with someone if you cant see yourself spending the rest of your life with them?

Reply 6

username47781

20

toonbarmy

In all honesty, it is very simple to keep a relationship going whilst at uni. My girlfriend goes to bath whilst i (last year) was at swansea. We would see eachother a fair few time (weekend) and it was managable. My feelings on this is that if you are keen to break up with someone just because you are going to uni, then your relationship to begin with was pointless. Whats the point of being with someone if you cant see yourself spending the rest of your life with them?

Does seem like a lame reason to break up, least without even trying. Then again obviously you don't know for sure if you will stay together forever, you can't predict the future. But usually theres a bigger reason for breaking up, and it isn't for uni really.

Reply 7

toonbarmy

Rock Fan

Does seem like a lame reason to break up, least without even trying. Then again obviously you don't know for sure if you will stay together forever, you can't predict the future. But usually theres a bigger reason for breaking up, and it isn't for uni really.

You can never know for sure if you are going to be with someone for the rest of your life, but can have a good idea as to what state the relationship is whether it be ling term or short term. I mean i know i want to be with my girlfriend for the rest of my life so i went in with the mentality of not wanting to break up with her and not wanting to lose her. In the end, your mind set is what will decide how things go. Also trust is the key. Without that, things will not work out whether in long distance or short distance relationships

Reply 8

Tag

8

me and my boyf were together for 2 years, this year he has been at uni (but we are the same age) and come spetember I will be going to a different one. Now it's over three years and things have changed obviously, we don't see each other as often, but considering I was in 2/3 of lessons with him at school, called emailed and saw him most night/weekends and all day during school, you know. We are doing ok though, great infact, we have a teriffic summer lined up as he is back for three mnths :biggrin:

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

Hi can anyone answer my first posting at all
Thanks

Reply 10

Talya

16

I did not beak up with my bf when I came to uni, and we are still going strong end of first year. But we went to same uni so easier than for people in LDRs

Reply 11

Paperfolders57

white water lily

I have a friend who was with her boyfriend before coming to uni, now they're at the same uni, and still together.

My boyfriend is going to be at the same uni as me next year :smile:

And I can't see the relationship ending... We've survived a year apart so I'm expecting it to be easier.

Are you worried about being at the same uni as your partner?

both at same uni then nothing to worry about , only a long distance from each other then can get strained some what. But feel strong enough about it then can get around it!!

Reply 12

Vampyrcorn

14

This is why everyone should start dating their hamsters ;yes;

They're relatively portable (compared to the average partner anyway) and they don't pick fights with you. There are many more advantages too, but I'll leave you all to discover them for yourselves. I don't want to ruin the fun. :biggrin:

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