Friends....

Long story short

One of my lady friends - who to be honest sometimes i find really irritating (i am a guy) - broke up with my best friend at my new school few months ago.

Basically, for the past few weeks we have hung out etc and i am getting a very strong impression that she is attracted to me. For example, she keeps on comparing me to her ex and saying things like "yeah your a bit more muscly than him" or "your a looooot (emphasis) more fun that him". So yeah im not an idiot and i am about 90% sure shes just using me to get back at him. She also compares me to her old old boyfriends like "oh he was so nice, you guys would get along so well although he woulndt understand you (i have a strong accent)" or "your so funny i think you'd hit it off". Yes sorry i sound really big headed.

But the weird thing is, infront of him she does **** all and i am not exactly attracted to her, but when we are alone shes always touching me and grabbing my stomach and testing its firmness.

Conclusion:

1. How do i just get the real motive out of this girl without hooking up with her best friend
2. Is it worth telling my best guy friend
3. Why is marijuana so expensive in seoul?

Thanks all

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Reply 1

Serendipity*

1

Yeah I'd tell your best friend...if you're best friends then surely you can trust him right? Explain to him how irritating it's getting and ask for his advice...if he's you best friend i'm sure he'll help you.
And i have no idea about 3.

Reply 2

yellow96

15

Well it depends on how upset your friend is over the break-up. Telling him that she's trying it on with you may just hurt him. Frankly it doesn't matter what this girl's intentions are as she's pretty much off limits; not just because she's your best mate's ex but because you don't like her / trust her, so rather than trying to figure it out, you could just stay away from her or tell her to back off.

Reply 3

ss7

OP

Well best friends is in terms of my current school, i mean my old friends in england i trust, he is more of a mate ya know? He broke up with her and he doesnt care about her, he has a girlfriend so i think thats alright.

I dont know about what to do with this girl though, she always uses words like "we and us" all the time when me and her are together, and she touches me a lot. I mean lets be honest, i have testosterone in me and i wouldnt mind some action, but then again my head is telling me this girl is just a nutcase.

By the way, have i made some posting errors? because it took like 2 hours for a reply

Reply 4

Serendipity*

1

Just tell her the truth, how you're feeling uncomfortable and could she please stop. Be straight but polite i guess.

Reply 5

ss7

OP

problem is, i am actually really out of order to her already. For example i push her into lockers to get away from me (i promise this is a last resort), i insult her, call her insecure and tell her to hook up with some loser who she likes. If i say for her to stop it it will go like this:

Me: Please stop it i am kinda feeling uncomfortable
Her: Stop what? going after you pleeeeeeeeeeeeease <insert crap here>]
Me: Ok

Then she will make a scene, and her best friend (my ex who i dumped about 1 year ago) will come in and bitch at me.

Reply 6

matt@internet

12

ss7

By the way, have i made some posting errors? because it took like 2 hours for a reply

Nah sometimes people just can't be arsed for a while.

Reply 7

Malik24

ss7

Well best friends is in terms of my current school, i mean my old friends in england i trust, he is more of a mate ya know? He broke up with her and he doesnt care about her, he has a girlfriend so i think thats alright.

I dont know about what to do with this girl though, she always uses words like "we and us" all the time when me and her are together, and she touches me a lot. I mean lets be honest, i have testosterone in me and i wouldnt mind some action, but then again my head is telling me this girl is just a nutcase.

By the way, have i made some posting errors? because it took like 2 hours for a reply

Well some topics just attract more people.

I think if you're close to your male friend then just talk to him about it. He can hardly have a go at you because you haven't reciprocated the feelings to her. But if you do do that, try and be discreet, it's obviously not going to be much fun to hear "And she said I'm sooooo much more fun than you, and soooo much more muscly.."

It could be that the girl was wondering why she ever went out with him and trying to compare him with everyone else - though if this kind of thing happens all the time when alone with her she may fancy you.

Reply 8

ss7

OP

Yeah thats the thing, telling if this girl is attracted to me is weird because she she seems really clingy, so its like it could just be her. Either way its still a bit odd in my mind. My friend will understand, her and her best friend with me and my mate used to go out clubibng a lot like as couples etc, but that has all kinda fallen through. Basically, me and him both know what shes like.

i dont mean to sound like an arsehole here or anything (even though i actually am), but its just this girl is like the complete opposite girl im kinda used to, shes like born in a small village in the middle of nowhere, had 3 boyfriends, and was completely besotted with one just because he said lots of compliments to her. so its all kinda :s-smilie:

for me,

Reply 9

Serendipity*

1

ss7

problem is, i am actually really out of order to her already. For example i push her into lockers to get away from me (i promise this is a last resort), i insult her, call her insecure and tell her to hook up with some loser who she likes. If i say for her to stop it it will go like this:

Me: Please stop it i am kinda feeling uncomfortable
Her: Stop what? going after you pleeeeeeeeeeeeease <insert crap here>]
Me: Ok

Then she will make a scene, and her best friend (my ex who i dumped about 1 year ago) will come in and bitch at me.

yikes she really is a stubborn one! Why don't you just say she's stalking you big-time and that isn't attractive to anyone, never mind you?

Reply 10

ss7

OP

i think that shes not stubborn but simply insecure after getting dumped. yeah ok fair enough she got dumped but i dont want that baggage on me.

I must go as it is late and i got early school

Thanks guys, shes in Hawaii for the week so i get a break!

Reply 11

Serendipity*

1

ah well. good luck anyway lol

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