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    So met with a girl had a good time albeit low-key coffee for about 3 hours.

    On and off messaging which started ok and tried to see if we could meetup again.

    Got a message which said that if we could remain friends for now. She mentioned that she needs to take a step back as theres a lot of stuff going on with her work, family and university. She said this could change but for now if we could remain as friends..

    So is this basically a way of telling me to get lost? It feels like a friend-zone and that there is nothing there. What do I do? I am going to leave it with her as it feels like this isn't worth pursuing....
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So met with a girl had a good time albeit low-key coffee for about 3 hours.

    On and off messaging which started ok and tried to see if we could meetup again.

    Got a message which said that if we could remain friends for now. She mentioned that she needs to take a step back as theres a lot of stuff going on with her work, family and university. She said this could change but for now if we could remain as friends..

    So is this basically a way of telling me to get lost? It feels like a friend-zone and that there is nothing there. What do I do? I am going to leave it with her as it feels like this isn't worth pursuing....
    She sounds like she doesn't want to commit to a relationship at the moment but she said this could change which may mean she is interested.
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    Do I stay in touch or do I break it off completely? It's really ambiguous when she says 'things might change' and the way it came was really sudden following a period of no messages (after I sent a hey what's up message).
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    Do I stay in touch or do I break it off completely? It's really ambiguous when she says 'things might change' and the way it came was really sudden following a period of no messages (after I sent a hey what's up message).
    She wouldn't say that things might change if she wasn't interested at all. I think it means 'not right now'. Maybe you should give it some time and ask her out again after two month or so?
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    why do people on TSR use 'albeit'? Like stfu use that posh ass language somewhere else
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    Sounds like a **** way of saying she isn't interested.

    A lot of people won't come clean and say it so just make up some nonsense about "Needing a step back and maybe in the future..." and then next week you'll see her on a date with someone else. It is a really cowardly way of dealing with that situation which actually leaves the other person in limbo a lot of the time. If I was you I'd play it off and just look to meet with someone else.

    Maybe I am wrong.
    More likely I'm right.
 
 
 
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