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emotional or physical affair? which is worst
As the title says are you more likely to forgive your partner if he/she has a ons ie purely physical or if they have no physical relationship but he/her is discussing everything with them instead of you.
Reply 1
Gah. I can't answer "the former" or "the latter" because you've put them in two different orders, and I can't answer "physical" or "emotional" because you've asked two different questions. *rants*
I would find it easier to forgive them for the "physical" affair.
I would find it easier to forgive them for the "physical" affair.
Reply 2
Jaynie
OP
ok sorry here is the question again
are you more likely to forgive your partner he/her is discussing everything with someone else instead of you or if he/she has a ons ie purely physical
are you more likely to forgive your partner he/her is discussing everything with someone else instead of you or if he/she has a ons ie purely physical
Maybe theres some things theyre embaressed to tell you?
But if my partner was being all best-friendsy with some guys and subsequently neglecting me, would probably hurt more than a physical cheating. At the same time, you cant stop your partner from having good friend of the opposite (or same
) sex
But if my partner was being all best-friendsy with some guys and subsequently neglecting me, would probably hurt more than a physical cheating. At the same time, you cant stop your partner from having good friend of the opposite (or same
) sexReply 4
Hmm, I think the discussing everything with someone else option is called having a friend? 
As for the physical one, I'd make no attempt to forgive anyone who cheated on me, they'd be out of my life forever.
..shauny
As for the physical one, I'd make no attempt to forgive anyone who cheated on me, they'd be out of my life forever.
..shauny
I don't think that discussing problems with somebody is an emotional affair. an emotional affair, in my eyes, would be loving somebody else and talking to them intimately.
And honestly I doubt I'd be able to forgive either an emotional or a physical affair. I can't class one as being worse than the other.
And honestly I doubt I'd be able to forgive either an emotional or a physical affair. I can't class one as being worse than the other.
Reply 7
they're both as bad as each other really.
Reply 9
An emotional affair, as in the other person having feelings for somebody else, is far worse than the physical infidelity in my eyes.
I speak from experience!
I speak from experience!
Reply 10
I posted that. Why did it come up as anon? Odd.
Anonymous
An emotional affair, as in the other person having feelings for somebody else, is far worse than the physical infidelity in my eyes.
I speak from experience!
I speak from experience!
yeh...but...if they love somebody else it's not as though they can actually help it. you can't choose who you fall in love with. that doesn't mean it's any less hurtful to the person they were originally with, but at least you have the knowledge that they didn't set out to fall in love with somebody else.
a physical affair though, well basically that is a complete disregard for the feelings of the person they are meant to be with. they have complete control of the situation, yet they OPTED to sleep with another person.
So both seem bad to me.
Reply 12
But surely a certain closeness must be established with a person to fall in love with them? I wouldn't get that close to a person if I was in a relationship if there was a chance of that happening.
I was able to get over the physical infidelity a lot quicker than I was the emotional affair.
I was able to get over the physical infidelity a lot quicker than I was the emotional affair.
Reply 13
Lol, this issue was addressed on Loose Women earlier. 
I don't think I'd forgive either, but emotional is probably worse due to the mental connection between the people.
I don't think I'd forgive either, but emotional is probably worse due to the mental connection between the people.
Reply 14
Emotional, definitely.
Both are awful.
But as someone else said, your emotional definition is a bit skewed.
An emotional affair would have to include feelings to make it wrong.
Discussing everything with someone else is a friendship [although granted, if it's a member of the opp sex I would rather it didn't happen] I discuss everything with my boyfriend and MOST stuff with my bestfriend [who's a girl].
If feelings are involved, that's another kettle of fish.
Worst thing ever.
Although.. the physical image i'd get if my boyfriend physically cheated on me would probably haunt me for years.
eh.
they're both horrible..
But as someone else said, your emotional definition is a bit skewed.
An emotional affair would have to include feelings to make it wrong.
Discussing everything with someone else is a friendship [although granted, if it's a member of the opp sex I would rather it didn't happen] I discuss everything with my boyfriend and MOST stuff with my bestfriend [who's a girl].
If feelings are involved, that's another kettle of fish.
Worst thing ever.
Although.. the physical image i'd get if my boyfriend physically cheated on me would probably haunt me for years.
eh.
they're both horrible..
Reply 17
shauny
Hmm, I think the discussing everything with someone else option is called having a friend?
As for the physical one, I'd make no attempt to forgive anyone who cheated on me, they'd be out of my life forever.
..shauny
As for the physical one, I'd make no attempt to forgive anyone who cheated on me, they'd be out of my life forever.
..shauny
Couldn't have said it better myself!!!
Reply 18
it's not really an affair, but i'd be more upset to know that my ex's new girlfriend and him had a deep emotional connection, as opposed to thinking they just like screwing each other and that there's not much more to them than that...
Reply 19
emotional would be worse definitely, it would hurt so much to know someone you loved cared deeply for someone else and there's no way you can compete, you can't continue a relation knowing constantly that they might be thinking of someone else
however I would be more likely to break up with someone if they had physcailly cheated, but it wouldn't hurt as much because I'd think less of them, knowing that they were shallow and couldn't control their physical urges,
however I would be more likely to break up with someone if they had physcailly cheated, but it wouldn't hurt as much because I'd think less of them, knowing that they were shallow and couldn't control their physical urges,
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