My flatmates and I have always gotten on really well. Whenever I have asked them what we'd be doing for accommodation next year, they have always said that "we'll look soon" and that I'd be staying with them.
However, it turns out that they went behind my back and got a three bedroom flat together. I overheard them talking about it. Rather than flat out confront them, I kept asking them about accommodation for next year, and still the same answers.
Eventually they told me, after I got very angry with two of them. I told them how "it'd be very selfish if you were getting a flat behind my back". Problem is, they told me today - three days after uni accommodation applications opened. This has left me with very little chance of getting uni accommodation, and it'll be hard to get a non uni-flat now.
They said that I shouldn't take it personally, and that I can come round whenever I want. They also said they didn't tell me because they were worried that I wouldn't speak to them again.
I can't really work out whether or not they do actually want me to come round all the time next year, or if they dislike me. I've been pretty blunt with them, just giving them one word answers and not spending any time in our living area. They've been trying to speak to me all the time though, message me on Facebook etc. They knocked on my door on Saturday and asked if I wanted to come to a party, I just said "no".
How do you think I should act towards them? Should I just act as if nothing has changed, or should I just scrap them? What they did was pretty bad, in my opinion.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
What a **** move on their part.
Have they explained why they did it and left you out of the loop? Why didn't they look for a 4 bed with you?
With decorum, grace and civility
These people aren't your friends. If they ask you something give them polite one word answers and don't bother asking about them, because you shouldn't give a damn.
This situation is so awkward. There must be a reason why they didn't include you and they don't want to tell you - probably because they think it will make the situation even more awkward than what it is already.
Personally, I wouldn't know how to act either - sorry I'm not sure what advice to give.