Alone

I have nothing going for me at the moment. No friends to hang out with, no girlfriend, no part-time work, no hobbies. Just me, this room, this house, the family, and night-time.

I have my first exam on Monday and I've been on study leave for over 2 weeks now and I hate it. Last week was OK because I went to see my mates occasionally to revise, but this week it's as if everyone is competing and therefore shutting themselves off from me, which makes me more nervous about the exam because I wonder whether I'm revising enough, or if I'll do as well as everyone else. I'm not a competitive person but this has brought out the worst in me; I'm becoming very paranoid being cooped up here all the time. I haven't left the house in about a week, and every night I spend hours planning the next day so I get to go out, but I always wake up at 1-2pm and don't bother. :frown:

I'm driving myself crazy being stuck here all the time. My family think I'm a sad loser because I'm here all the time, and so do I now. Help!

Reply 1

Ginger_Rogers

7

Try getting up earlier and sticking to your plans?

Reply 2

jay90

Anonymous

I have nothing going for me at the moment. No friends to hang out with, no girlfriend, no part-time work, no hobbies. Just me, this room, this house, the family, and night-time.

I have my first exam on Monday and I've been on study leave for over 2 weeks now and I hate it. Last week was OK because I went to see my mates occasionally to revise, but this week it's as if everyone is competing and therefore shutting themselves off from me, which makes me more nervous about the exam because I wonder whether I'm revising enough, or if I'll do as well as everyone else. I'm not a competitive person but this has brought out the worst in me; I'm becoming very paranoid being cooped up here all the time. I haven't left the house in about a week, and every night I spend hours planning the next day so I get to go out, but I always wake up at 1-2pm and don't bother. :frown:

I'm driving myself crazy being stuck here all the time. My family think I'm a sad loser because I'm here all the time, and so do I now. Help!

Ahh...study leave! I could just remember this time last year when I was on study leave,the football world cup was on and that was the only reason to put off revision for my GCSEs.

As their is no major thing going on this year, I suggest that you talk to someone,who is very close to you, and talk about your feelings. That way you can 'put thing's off your chest.'

Well look at the bright side,I don't have study leave for my AS levels! :frown:

Reply 3

thebarmaidsmiles

Hug

I'm watching my younger brother going through the same thing and it's breaking my heart.

So I'll tell you exactly the same as him -this is just for the time being, honestly. I really really recommend you find a job, I worked in a ******ty co-op 2 days a week. Pay was pants but it got me out of the house and talking to people.

Exam time is so depressing, everyone always thinks everyone else is having a better time of it. Bull. Loads of people are feeling the exact same thing.

Don't let this affect your exams - wat I did was say well ok nobody likes me, people think I'm sad, fine... so I'll just work harder to avaoid it. Not the best solution but it's nice surprising yourself sometimes and realising a bit of revision = smarter you = something to smile about.

But yeah - job... please please please! And gf, honestly all relationships do at this time is mess things up. get yourself happy and see who comes flocking :smile:

Reply 4

mkchelsea

1

Well in the run up to the exams alot of people are out home revising. Just wait until they are finished and then you can start to enjoy yourself!!! :biggrin:

If you just concentrate on your exams now, and don't think about your friends, then you won't feel as depressed. Well that works for me :s-smilie:

Reply 5

scribble_girl

14

I get the same during long holidays and things :smile:

- I'm always moaning about it, but if I don't have structure I get really cabin-feverish. Sometimes the best thing to do is just escape. Not necessarily to see people, but just be around them? Four walls can get awfully depressing.. Try and give yourself back some structure in your day; I know I get really aimless otherwise. Just bear in mind it's only temporary..

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

Today I managed to wake myself up at 9am, felt great. However, I haven't revised as much as I would've liked to. I'm very anxious for Monday because I don't think I've done enough, and the thought of doing it over the weekend, and whether I'll have crammed in enough information, is playing on my mind. I've done about 70% of the total notes I need to make for one out of two exams, and I've fully learnt about 30% of this exam. And I haven't even started revising for the second exam.

I also am trying to pack in a lot of other responsibilities on the side, such as my fitness and health, getting a driving license, and so on. I no longer feel so alone, but now I feel overwhelmed, now that I'm back on planet earth and realising how much I've to do. Any advice on this?

Reply 7

ForumFreak

9

Focus on one thing at a time. Now focus on the exams. When the exams are over focus on the next thing. Dont try to do too much at once.

Reply 8

Anonymous #2

look i know how hard it is we have all been there....just take it easy.get through your exam on monday (good luck btw) and keep going thru it litle by little. dont over plan jsut work your revision around what you think you should do and when you can do it.

its really easy to feel alone but make some effort to tlak to people and analyse things from an outsiders perspective....its cliche but sometimes you really cant see what youve got

and failing all sensible answers whack the music up loud and have a good boogey that always blows away the cobwebs

xxxx

Reply 9

invisible_gal

As Forumfreak (cool name) said, for the moment focus on the exams. They cant last much longer, a month at most, and then you can get out of the house a bit more.
Try and get a job, fill in application forms, whatever. I used to feel very lonely, my friends are very competitive and clever sort of people and they work a lot! I hated being in my house with my family all the time so I got a job in a spar and I made new friends and met a lot of people. The pay is ok, gives me enough money to get out with friends and buy stuff I want. My parents hate my job but I love it, sounds weird but it really changed a lot of things for me.
About feeling overwhelmed, you can only do your best (I know it sounds totally cliche) but do what you can. Im doing A-levels atm so I understand the exam thing.
Sorry for rambling on here!

Reply 10

Forté

2

Going to uni next year? Summin' to look forward to i guess...

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