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    So, recently my mother has moved in with her partner meaning that instead of my student finance being based on just her, it is now being based on him as well. I dint class him as my step dad nor have i ever classed him as my step dad. Since moving away from home, my mother has never helped me out finacially because she cant afford it. Meaning i have been relying soley on jobs i have had whilst at university on and off. I have also been relying on my grandfather to help me out as and when he can.

    I dont feel comfortable having him on my student finance as i literally have nothing to do with him at all.

    My mother no longer lives at the address that i had lived at throughout my childhood and when i go back home to visit, i am not welcone to stop at my mum's and her partners house therefore i stop at my grandmothers house.

    I know that i can't apply as an independant student as i don't have 3 years worth of consecutive wage slips to prove that i have been fending for myself for the past year. I am also only 23 and for some reason, am not classed as being independant as i am not over 25.

    This whole situation is seriously hindering my chances and jepordising me actually staying at university and carrying on with my studies.

    I just wondered if anyone at all could suggest anything that i can do, I've rang up student finance and they dont seem to understand people that don't actually have a normal, happy family
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    (Original post by kierangowan)
    So, recently my mother has moved in with her partner meaning that instead of my student finance being based on just her, it is now being based on him as well. I dint class him as my step dad nor have i ever classed him as my step dad. Since moving away from home, my mother has never helped me out finacially because she cant afford it. Meaning i have been relying soley on jobs i have had whilst at university on and off. I have also been relying on my grandfather to help me out as and when he can.

    I dont feel comfortable having him on my student finance as i literally have nothing to do with him at all.

    My mother no longer lives at the address that i had lived at throughout my childhood and when i go back home to visit, i am not welcone to stop at my mum's and her partners house therefore i stop at my grandmothers house.

    I know that i can't apply as an independant student as i don't have 3 years worth of consecutive wage slips to prove that i have been fending for myself for the past year. I am also only 23 and for some reason, am not classed as being independant as i am not over 25.

    This whole situation is seriously hindering my chances and jepordising me actually staying at university and carrying on with my studies.

    I just wondered if anyone at all could suggest anything that i can do, I've rang up student finance and they dont seem to understand people that don't actually have a normal, happy family
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    (Original post by kierangowan)
    So, recently my mother has moved in with her partner meaning that instead of my student finance being based on just her, it is now being based on him as well. I dint class him as my step dad nor have i ever classed him as my step dad. Since moving away from home, my mother has never helped me out finacially because she cant afford it. Meaning i have been relying soley on jobs i have had whilst at university on and off. I have also been relying on my grandfather to help me out as and when he can.

    I dont feel comfortable having him on my student finance as i literally have nothing to do with him at all.

    My mother no longer lives at the address that i had lived at throughout my childhood and when i go back home to visit, i am not welcone to stop at my mum's and her partners house therefore i stop at my grandmothers house.

    I know that i can't apply as an independant student as i don't have 3 years worth of consecutive wage slips to prove that i have been fending for myself for the past year. I am also only 23 and for some reason, am not classed as being independant as i am not over 25.

    This whole situation is seriously hindering my chances and jepordising me actually staying at university and carrying on with my studies.

    I just wondered if anyone at all could suggest anything that i can do, I've rang up student finance and they dont seem to understand people that don't actually have a normal, happy family
    I'm in a nearly identical situation, except as an undergrad. Dad's partner I don't even speak to, nor does she pay anything towards me, seems to have to be included on student finance application. This is really hurting my chances of going to university as my dad is on less than 25k and therefore if (and it really should) the student finance actually just took his earnings into account I'd be able to get enough help to survive.

    There must be some loophole or way of getting round this issue, others must have had it.

    And I ABSOLUTELY understand your comment on them not understanding anything but a big happy family - this is driving me mad!
 
 
 
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