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How to be around your ex
Hi, basically Ive just kind of broken up with someone about a week ago because he realised he still had feelings for his ex. i was hurt but also supportive cos at the end of the day I cant force him to be with me if he still has feelings for someone else, its not fair on either of us.
We were together almost 2 months and now that we've split i dont really know how to be around him. I mean we ended on good terms and still as mates but its kind of hard to talk now without there being loadsa awkwardness, mayeb it would be easier to stop being in contact altogether but I still really like him even if it is as a mate, plus we have mutual mates as well so it would be kind of hard. Plus he said he still does have some feelings for me so i cant help thinkng maybe theres still a chance. but yeah i dunno. At the moment its the fact that we cant talk so freely anymore thats getting to me. any advice much appreciated.
We were together almost 2 months and now that we've split i dont really know how to be around him. I mean we ended on good terms and still as mates but its kind of hard to talk now without there being loadsa awkwardness, mayeb it would be easier to stop being in contact altogether but I still really like him even if it is as a mate, plus we have mutual mates as well so it would be kind of hard. Plus he said he still does have some feelings for me so i cant help thinkng maybe theres still a chance. but yeah i dunno. At the moment its the fact that we cant talk so freely anymore thats getting to me. any advice much appreciated.
Reply 1
People always have mixed feelings about this subject, but i'm a firm believer that you can be friends with an ex. I'm friends with all of mine, yes it was awkward but we got through it and became really great friends.
Try not to push a friendship at first, don't think that you two have to talk, that you two have to be around each other cause the space will do both of you the world of good. Take it slowly, take some time out from each other and see how that goes. You two are the exact same people that got on before, and when you were both dating. Be the same person you were then. Talk about things you two would always talk about, things that interest you both. Treat him the way you would treat any friend.
I know how you're feeling but try not to get caught up in forcing a friendship, if you two are going to be friends then it'll take some time for the awkwardness to go away, but if you're meant to be friends, you will be. It just takes time, that's all.
Try not to push a friendship at first, don't think that you two have to talk, that you two have to be around each other cause the space will do both of you the world of good. Take it slowly, take some time out from each other and see how that goes. You two are the exact same people that got on before, and when you were both dating. Be the same person you were then. Talk about things you two would always talk about, things that interest you both. Treat him the way you would treat any friend.
I know how you're feeling but try not to get caught up in forcing a friendship, if you two are going to be friends then it'll take some time for the awkwardness to go away, but if you're meant to be friends, you will be. It just takes time, that's all.
Reply 2
Personally I would spend a bit of time without contacting him.
Reply 3
don't wait around for him and yeh try and focus on other people for a while, seems like he's wasting everyone's time being confused about how he feels
Reply 4
Tell me about it, especially since we got together so soon after his ex and i was really wary that he hadnt got over her yet, yet he assured me a million times he was over her and there was no chance of them getting back together. men. Thanks guys. Its just hard not to be able to talk so freely any more, but yeah i think i will just leave it for a bit and see what happens 
Reply 5
still talk tbh, my ex-gf and i used to be good friends, then after we split we have rarely spoken since, kinda sad tbh ;/
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