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    I'm 16, I know quite young, and really think that I am ready to have sex, plainly just because I really want to have it. I've just come out of a realitionship so I'm not planning on getting into a new one too soon, but I still really want to have sex. I am worried that If I do get a boyfriend that I will be so nervous about doing it for the first time with him that I won't enjoy it as much, so is it really that bad to lose it with someone that I quite like but know that it won't lead anywhere else other than just sex?
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    it's not so much of a big deal anymore honestly
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm 16, I know quite young, and really think that I am ready to have sex, plainly just because I really want to have it. I've just come out of a realitionship so I'm not planning on getting into a new one too soon, but I still really want to have sex.
    Now I dont want to sound ike yo parents but think about it for a sec.

    You think youre ready cos you want to have it.

    Could you regret this down the road?

    Its not like porn where there seem to have 40 minutes of pure heaven and love, it can be quick, uncomfortable and rushed.....

    not hatin just sayin ok?

    Think a lil longer if needed and check out some advice websites too, it is your life tho, so your choice.
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I am worried that If I do get a boyfriend that I will be so nervous about doing it for the first time with him that I won't enjoy it as much?
    That is of course a a factor and the best sex is usually predetermined by good foreplay. As you dont sound particular sexually experienced not hatin just sayin ok, it is most likely going to be less than you imagined so you are mostly correct in your assumption. Just be more confident about yourself and yo body and youll be fine tho
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    so is it really that bad to lose it with someone that I quite like but know that it won't lead anywhere else other than just sex?
    Its not bad, its your life choices, but I dont think its right IMO. I think you should wait till youre more mature and ready for it to enjoy it the most, my 2cents Best wishes
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    Completely depends on the person in question. For some people their first time (and also sometimes every time after) is a very emotional experience. For others it's not that big of a deal. It essentially comes down to what you want and what value you place on your first time and sex in general. No one else can tell you when you are ready, how you should lose it or how you should feel about it.
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    I suppose it must have been or else it would have happened by now.

    Instead I basically self-destruct around women, and I'm pretty much destined to be alone forever.
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    Well it definitely hurts...I can tell ya that much.
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    Wasn't a big deal for me, but it did go on for far too long and nobody was having a good time :lol:
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    (Original post by LittleMissMay)
    Well it definitely hurts...I can tell ya that much.
    Not necessarily. That's just unnecessary fear mongering.

    Whether or not it is painful depends on a lot of things, but being nervous and scared it will hurt will most likely cause it to be painful when it may not have been as you tense up.

    If there is good foreplay before hand and lubrication is good it often won't hurt, but instead just be uncomfortable at first.
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    (Original post by SophieSmall)
    Not necessarily. That's just unnecessary fear mongering.
    ...Ok great. Nothing about my post is unnecessary nor fear mongering. Most people will say it hurts or is at least uncomfortable the first time.
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    (Original post by LittleMissMay)
    ...Ok great. Nothing about my post is unnecessary nor fear mongering. Most people will say it hurts or is at least uncomfortable the first time.
    Saying it definitely hurts is unnecessary. That may have been your experience, but many people don't gave that experience. By saying it definitely WILL hurt you induce unnecassary worry abd imply her experience must be the sane as yours, which is untrue.
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    (Original post by SophieSmall)
    Saying it definitely hurts is unnecessary. That may have been your experience, but many people don't gave that experience. By saying it definitely WILL hurt you induce unnecassary worry abd imply her experience must be the sane as yours, which is untrue.
    K.
    Anyway I never said it definitely will hurt



    (Original post by LittleMissMay)
    Well it definitely hurts...I can tell ya that much.




    so no idea why you've even included the word "will" as well as emphasised it with CAPS lock but anyway this isn't even worth a debate. Bye.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm 16, I know quite young, and really think that I am ready to have sex, plainly just because I really want to have it. I've just come out of a realitionship so I'm not planning on getting into a new one too soon, but I still really want to have sex. I am worried that If I do get a boyfriend that I will be so nervous about doing it for the first time with him that I won't enjoy it as much, so is it really that bad to lose it with someone that I quite like but know that it won't lead anywhere else other than just sex?
    pack your meat into her meat wagon everything is ok
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    Mine wasn't a big issue, but I do feel like I was peer pressured into it because all my friends were losing it so I just lost it to whoever I could. I do wish I had waited a little bit longer but now I'm older, it's never an issue and I don't really care about it.

    It won't be a big issue as you get older but I wouldn't recommend rushing it, you're only young once.
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    I don't see anything wrong with that. It's the 21st century so.... You can do it with whoever, just as long as it's not forced. I'll leave you to have the experience first hand, no spoilers. Have fun
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm 16, I know quite young, and really think that I am ready to have sex, plainly just because I really want to have it. I've just come out of a realitionship so I'm not planning on getting into a new one too soon, but I still really want to have sex. I am worried that If I do get a boyfriend that I will be so nervous about doing it for the first time with him that I won't enjoy it as much, so is it really that bad to lose it with someone that I quite like but know that it won't lead anywhere else other than just sex?
    It all depends on you and how you'll feel about yourself. I mean one partner won't ruin your reputation if that's what your worried about.
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    Just wait until the right guy comes along and you're more mature. Don't listen to all the sluts on here.
 
 
 
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