I need help SH/ED

I dont know what to do, I have been self harming for a year now, and I did notice several posts on that topic, its my way of dealing with the problems that are going on in my life right now, I also didnt realy eat a lot but i thought maybe that was just normal for considering i am slim, although i am underweight. But now for 2 weeks i have not self harmed, it has been so so hard i dont know how i have managed. Now my concern is that i am starting to make myself sick, just started the other day, but i dont understand, is it because im not self harming, or is it something else, i dont know, i have a support worker but im to afraid to mention this to her, she knows i self harm and she know about my other problems she just doesnt know about the eating and sick part.
what should i do, has anyone been through the same?
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Reply 1

dh00001

16

i think you should tell her. itll be hard but they will be able to help so much more, as much as i would like to i dont know how else i can help

Reply 2

Angrybanana

11

http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=102720

http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=228366

Hopefully you should find what you need in there somewhere

Reply 3

ßlαcksωαn

17

Well done on not self harming for the past weeks! It a way I think harm yourself becoming like an obsession, like you get the urge to do it, and not always just to difer the emotional pain. But anyway. You need to tell the support worker how you've been feeling. Is the person a counsellor? You need to sort through your emotional problems to help anything. Do you mean you feel ill or are actually making yourself vomit? either way it's not healthy. And if your vomiting it's another way for you to 'control' something about your life that you have total control over. You cannot let emotional issues become physical problem. Get experienced advice asap.

Reply 4

izwhiz

I think you are using the vomitting as another means of harming yourself. I have been through both SH and having an ED and I won't pretend that it is easy to stop but you can do it. I personally found that I couldn't stop doing it until i looked at the real reason that I was doing it in the first place.

If I can help just PM me

Keep Smiling :smile:

xxxxx

Reply 5

Fitch

as a sh'er myself i can sympathise but let me congratulate you on a fab time in not harming thats really good..

making yourself sick is another way of punishing your body, no matter how good you feel.. if that makes sense.

you are posting about it so to me that means that subconciously you know what you are doing and what it will do but you want to stop & you are admitting what you are doing so that is a huge step hon.

mentioning it to your support worker may be useful as she will know the right channels.

keep fighting hon x

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

Thank you for replying, it means a lot.

Ok so I will speak to my support worker on Tuesday, as thatis when I am next seeing her, but how do you just bring something up like that? She already knew about my other problems so I never really ahd to tell her, we just spoke about them. What if she thinks im stupid?

I do want it to stop yes, I mean i regret self harming, but cannot stop, the longest I can go without it is 3 weeks because my feelings just build. I dont want a full blown eating disorder, and I know if I carry on with what im doing (limiting what i eat, being sick, constantly weighing myself) then it will get worse.

Im just afraid, I dont know what to think, or whether its the right thing.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

Also does anyone know any sites, or helplines, places I can email??? That will help me.

Reply 8

izwhiz

NSHN has a bit on ED's i believe, or Recover Your Life...I told my bf about things like that a while ago but i couldnt' bring myself to actually say it so i wrote it down in a letter and told him to read it when i wasnt there. I dunno if you would find that easier...

xxx

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

Thanks for that.
I think I might try writing a letter, that sounds good.

Reply 10

Scribbles

www.somethingfishy.org

www.edauk.com

www.nshn.co.uk

www.mirror-mirror.com (can't remember if that is the correct URL)

Personally I'd stay away from RYL.

Reply 11

Fitch

she wont think that you are stupid.. she is there for you to talk to & she will have some sort of training to help you to deal with all that is going on.

good luck.

Personally I'd stay away from RYL.

+1

Reply 12

PhilMc

16

I say tell her.

Just think of it like this, all this Self-harming isn't helping the problem is it? :smile:

If you need to vent some anger - beat up a sibling. Joking aside though do something to take your mind off your despair.

Good luck. :smile:

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