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She Cheated!

Ok so this really threw me off today... A few days ago me and my ex were speaking and I told her that I was in love with her... I dunno if her reaction was good or bad, but she said it made her feel like the most special girl in the world. So we spoke for like 5 hours on the phone, and we decided to get back together.

Two days later she went into Bristol for a day trip, and as soon as she left she started giving me problems. She ignored my text, as in what I wrote... I told her to have fun n she kept replying with "hey what u up to? u ok?" n she wernt drunk or anything... So she went out, and Im 90% sure she got with someone, despite sayin she wouldnt... She could have even slept with someone... So the next day... No text, I decided to text her... The reply "this isnt worth it, its not workin. take it eze, bye x" which threw me off... I text her sayin "whats goin on" etc... no reply... I decided I should ring her, she picked up n all I heard was someone go "get off the phone n keep kissin me!". You can imagine how I felt... I told her go somewhere quiet so I could talk, her response... "nah Im busy!" so yeh... Shes prolly gonna stay in Bristol today too... Doin what Im not sure... :frown:

You cant imagine how bad this felt... Like someone grabbed my heart n ripped it out... I know she aint gonna text me, I asked her if she was gettin with anyone... But no reply... This aint like her, and we've been together for about two years...

I dunno what to do... I feel like ****! Sorry bout the long post... I had to tell someone... lol

Reply 1

dh00001

16

mate she doesnt sound worth the time of day. especially after that text. shes clearly not think of you. chuck her (under a bus if so desired) and set about finding someone who will treat you fairly. its hard i know and so easy to say but personally i dont think this ones worth the hurt.

Reply 2

joz12345

1

yea look for someone you deserve someone much better no one deserves that

Reply 3

Crowgirl

Regardless of how she was when you were together, the fact of the matter is that she has been a c*w who has completely disregarded your feelings. Youre better off without her! Hope you cheer up soon, because that girl really doesnt sound like she deserves your thoughts.

Be happy!!!!!

Reply 4

jay90

Look she is not worth it if she is doing this to you.I suggest that you move on and forget about this and maybe in the (near) future you will meet someone who really values you for what you are and not treat you like the side dish.

Reply 5

PhilMc

16

That's why I have said in my past three threads.. Ex's are a no-no.

Unlucky mate. :frown:

Just move on.

Reply 6

shauny

Cut her out of your life completely. No contact, no 'going somewhere to talk', no reconsidering a relationship ever again. Just eff her off, you don't have time for lousy girlfriends in your life.

..shauny

Reply 7

dita_parlo

11

My ex boyfriend of four years I found out he was cheating on me cos he was staying at my house, I had gone to bed and he was still downstairs, I heard him on the phone to his other girl telling her how much he loves and misses her blah blah blah...I know how terrible this feels for you :knuddel:

The best thing to do is the usual cliche advice, go out with friends, have a good time, take up a hobby, and cut all contact with her. You will find somebody who is more suited to you and would never dream of doing anything like this to you, believe me. :knuddel:

Reply 8

welshprincess

1

Firstly *massive hugs*
She doesn't seem worth it babe! I can't believe that she picked the phone up while she was kissing someone else :| How insensitive is she?!?!?! An ex of mine cheated on me with about 4 other girls that i knew of...he'd tell me he was "going away" then his phone would be off for 3 days solid and his excuse would be "i had no signal". At the time i was so desperate not to lose him that i put up with it all. But then we finished, at the time it felt like the worst pain ever...but the more i thought about it the more i realised i can do better than someone who plays me like a fool. I know its hard and you probably don't wanna hear it, but i think you're best without her, if you want to chat i'm here :smile:

xxx<3

Reply 9

username47781

20

She ain't worth it, cut this girl out of your life. She'll never be happy if she likes to cheat.

Reply 10

*River

15

It sounds like she's your ex for a reason - it's time to let go.

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

OP

Thanks you guys... And yeh your advice is all good. Theres just two things in my head Im not sure about, one if she did actually cheat on me... She hasnt admitted and I hung up as soon as I heard that cos I was soo pissed off... She might not have, she did promise she wouldnt...

And the second thing, we wernt even properly together... So I dunno...

Omg u guys can see how much I love this girl! I dont know why... :frown:

Reply 12

dh00001

16

ok so ask her when she gets back. and even so the original text is enough to get rid of her.
you might be able to get a tank on ebay.

Reply 13

welshprincess

1

I can see how much you love her, i was in the same situation as you....i actually took my ex back twice before realising he wasn't worth it. If she didnt cheat on you then what was with the phonecall? If she had someone pretending she was gonna kiss them then shes pretty messed up, whichever way you look at it...you deserve better. She didn't even have the decency to spend some time talking to you. You both decided to give things another go so you were together...this isnt your fault its obviously her who has the problems. I know its hard but i think you need to let her go *hugs* xx<3

Reply 14

Mernard

Why are you even considering her after all the abuse she's hurled at you? Really. Mein Gott.

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

OP

Its cos I really love her... Its not really abuse tho... Oh god... Now Im stickin up for her...

Someone shoot me... :frown:

Reply 16

Mernard

Anonymous

"this isnt worth it, its not workin. take it eze, bye x" which threw me off... I text her sayin "whats goin on" etc... no reply... I decided I should ring her, she picked up n all I heard was someone go "get off the phone n keep kissin me!". You can imagine how I felt... I told her go somewhere quiet so I could talk, her response... "nah Im busy!"

That's not abuse? Alright...sado-masochism much?

Really though, do something else, take your mind off it, then read what you wrote about her. No self-respecting person is going to take that. You're just not seeing the clearer picture right now because of whatever you feel for her.

Reply 17

shauny

Ignore your feelings for her. Go get some new girls.

If it's not abuse, what is it? It's disrespect - kick the sleaze out of your life, you don't have time for her.

..shauny

Reply 18

dpali

1

I know you said you're in love with this girl but you've got your entire life in front of you. Some things to make you feel better:

1) Girlfriends/Boyfriends are like buses. If you miss one, you can always catch the next one (and it's never too far behind)

2) It's actually quite easy to fall in love. And you will do so, again and again. :smile:

3) Don't go back to exes. There's a reason you're not with her. Stick by the reason and move on.

4) Easier said than done...and I've run out of points but I hope you feel better. I was in love with someone else about a year ago and it just wasn't possible. I've moved on and am now much happier. You will be too!

Reply 19

toth8

3

Anonymous

Ok so this really threw me off today... A few days ago me and my ex were speaking and I told her that I was in love with her... I dunno if her reaction was good or bad, but she said it made her feel like the most special girl in the world. So we spoke for like 5 hours on the phone, and we decided to get back together.

Two days later she went into Bristol for a day trip, and as soon as she left she started giving me problems. She ignored my text, as in what I wrote... I told her to have fun n she kept replying with "hey what u up to? u ok?" n she wernt drunk or anything... So she went out, and Im 90% sure she got with someone, despite sayin she wouldnt... She could have even slept with someone... So the next day... No text, I decided to text her... The reply "this isnt worth it, its not workin. take it eze, bye x" which threw me off... I text her sayin "whats goin on" etc... no reply... I decided I should ring her, she picked up n all I heard was someone go "get off the phone n keep kissin me!". You can imagine how I felt... I told her go somewhere quiet so I could talk, her response... "nah Im busy!" so yeh... Shes prolly gonna stay in Bristol today too... Doin what Im not sure... :frown:

You cant imagine how bad this felt... Like someone grabbed my heart n ripped it out... I know she aint gonna text me, I asked her if she was gettin with anyone... But no reply... This aint like her, and we've been together for about two years...

I dunno what to do... I feel like ****! Sorry bout the long post... I had to tell someone... lol

Life's a bummer, but so what? Best dump her and move on.

She Cheated!

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