Letting him know that you like him SUBTILY aka THE CRUSH THREAD!

Who has a crush? :biggrin:

It is making your life miserable or happy (or both!) Please share your current crush experiences. We can have a good natter and compare notes! I think we will find a lot of similarities! :smile:

Also, whilst you’re at it, you can advise on my crush situation? (Rep action!) :redface:

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Reply 1

dh00001

16

what do you plan to do with you boyfriend? i think you should break up with him before considering this with the international lad.
why not ask him how hes coping without a girlfriend in this country and go from there.

Reply 2

*Tears and Butterflies*

2

I have a crush, I really like him, he ahs no idea. He's going off to uni soon tho. I would tell him but i'm farr to shy. I did tell some friends i liked him whilst drunk the other day though so no doubt he will find out :s-smilie:

I hate crushed, because I can never show that I like someone. so I guess they never get the hint :frown:

The i'm left wondering ..................

EDIT; Sorry! completely missed your problem thinking about my crush lol :redface:

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

dh00001

what do you plan to do with you boyfriend? i think you should break up with him before considering this with the international lad.
why not ask him how hes coping without a girlfriend in this country and go from there.

Hey, thanks :hugs:

I actually have asked him that. He replied saying that his 'spies' tell him that she has been playing away :eek:

Drama!

The bottom line is that he has a girlfriend, and I can accept it if he doesnt want to finish with her. Afterall I'm in a relationship myself (albiet a unfulfilling one).

So how can I lay my cards on the table and get the record strait? Or from the 'evidence' I have presented, does it look like he's interested or not?

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

*Tears and Butterflies*

I have a crush, I really like him, he ahs no idea. He's going off to uni soon tho. I would tell him but i'm farr to shy. I did tell some friends i liked him whilst drunk the other day though so no doubt he will find out :s-smilie:

I hate crushed, because I can never show that I like someone. so I guess they never get the hint :frown:

The i'm left wondering ..................

EDIT; Sorry! completely missed your problem thinking about my crush lol :redface:

Why are you shy with your crush? Do you have any suspicions that he likes you? :smile:

Reply 5

dh00001

16

Anonymous

Hey, thanks :hugs:

I actually have asked him that. He replied saying that his 'spies' tell him that she has been playing away :eek:

Drama!

The bottom line is that he has a girlfriend, and I can accept it if he doesnt want to finish with her. Afterall I'm in a relationship myself (albiet a unfulfilling one).

So how can I lay my cards on the table and get the record strait? Or from the 'evidence' I have presented, does it look like he's interested or not?

it looks like he is interested yes. ask him if he would rather have someone over here, and if shes up to it why cant he be. then if goes well you can suggest yourself albeit subtely.
but please deal with your own boyfriend before doing this, its not fair on him.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

dh00001

it looks like he is interested yes. ask him if he would rather have someone over here, and if shes up to it why cant he be. then if goes well you can suggest yourself albeit subtely.
but please deal with your own boyfriend before doing this, its not fair on him.

Thanks again :hugs:

I really appreciate your advice.

Does it really look like he's interested from an outsiders perspective? His contrasting behaviour has confused me (As you can see from the positive and negatives lists, he is quite a bizarre fellow.... but damn sexy :redface:

)

What is your opinion on the negatives? They worry me, and hold me back.

Reply 7

Dionysus

15

I would end your existing relationship first but, afterwards, just tell him. You see, the great advantage you girls have is that you don't need to be subtle! Unless he's incredibly sensitive or something I doubt it would offend him if it's a no.

Reply 8

dh00001

16

sounds abit odd (im begining to think youve made a thread about him before) i would say the positives out weight the negatives and so would be worth a go if he does show an interest. after youve become single of course.
basically just keep talking to him and see, it looks like hes interested but confirmation is always good

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

Cage

I would end your existing relationship first but, afterwards, just tell him. You see, the great advantage you girls have is that you don't need to be subtle! Unless he's incredibly sensitive or something I doubt it would offend him if it's a no.

Thank you

Do blokes not get hints? Do I need to be more direct? I'm scared of rejection and ending up looking like a dick. Because I have to spend another 2 years in close proximity with him.

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

OP

dh00001

sounds abit odd (im begining to think youve made a thread about him before) i would say the positives out weight the negatives and so would be worth a go if he does show an interest. after youve become single of course.
basically just keep talking to him and see, it looks like hes interested but confirmation is always good

Great!

So what's the plan? What should I do first? :ninja:

Can you be my lurve guru and advise me step by step? (I know I should make these decisions for myself, however this particular bloke is *SO* confusing that I need guidance). So what should I do first? I'm ready for orders :ts:

An email?

Reply 11

dh00001

16

your boyfriend. if you want this other guy you need to break off with him. your not happy anyway and currently just stringing him along. always best to do it face to face.
then we will move on to the other guy :p:

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

OP

dh00001

your boyfriend. if you want this other guy you need to break off with him. your not happy anyway and currently just stringing him along. always best to do it face to face.
then we will move on to the other guy :p:

yeah, yeah.

Aaaaaaanyway :biggrin:

Lets talk about this other guy (theoretically of course :rolleyes:

), if you were my lurve guru, what would you advise my next step to be? :hubba:

(Considering the crush dude)

Reply 13

dh00001

16

contact him saying you dont know how he can cope with being so far away from his girlfriend, knowing whats shes doing as well. and move on to how he deserves to have someone near by who he can see more often and have fun with. no names yet. keep it general. gauge responce

Reply 14

Just some guy

10

Anonymous

Hey, thanks :hugs:

I actually have asked him that. He replied saying that his 'spies' tell him that she has been playing away :eek:

Drama!

The bottom line is that he has a girlfriend, and I can accept it if he doesnt want to finish with her. Afterall I'm in a relationship myself (albiet a unfulfilling one).

So how can I lay my cards on the table and get the record strait? Or from the 'evidence' I have presented, does it look like he's interested or not?

...wasn't there a thread on this a while ago? The one where almost everybody concluded the guy was a muppet?

...anyway, crushes suck. You don't ask them out; you regret your decision. You do ask them out; they reject you and you regret your decision. Ech, not that I'm bitter or anything :p:

, maybe I have an ugly face or something.

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

OP

dh00001

contact him saying you dont know how he can cope with being so far away from his girlfriend, knowing whats shes doing as well. and move on to how he deserves to have someone near by who he can see more often and have fun with. no names yet. keep it general. gauge responce

hmmm how do I start a serious convo like that?

"Hi there!

It must be hard to be so far away from your girlfriend..." lol

:s-smilie:

I cant email out of the blue starting with that... can I?

Is there anyway to slip onto the topic more subttily?

Reply 16

Anonymous #1

OP

Just some guy

...wasn't there a thread on this a while ago? The one where almost everybody concluded the guy was a muppet?

could be

Anyway, I want him for my sex-buddy, so if he's a muppet that doesn't effect the secks :teeth:

Reply 17

dh00001

16

just a general email. moan about relationships saying that they can be hard normally and then move onto his situation?

Reply 18

Knotty

He's interested. The excuses for not going out were genuine (or, quite possibly, he's faithful and while he's still technically with his girlfriend he doesn't want anything happening), and he mentions those things/exaggerates them as a very tactless way of trying to impress you :P . From what you said it's almost certain that he likes you.

It might just be a better idea to step up the flirting a bit. You know, it's not a massive boundary to cross to move your hand an inch lower when you touch his back (I'm talking along the lines of guys-girls so that may sound a bit weird lol) but it sends the right signals and if he's looking for them he'll pick up on them.

Reply 19

Anonymous #1

OP

dh00001

just a general email. moan about relationships saying that they can be hard normally and then move onto his situation?

can you be an absolute STAR and type a little mock email for me? :redface:

I will deffo reward all your help with a tasty rep for being such a dude ^_^

Letting him know that you like him SUBTILY aka THE CRUSH THREAD!

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