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    I was in an abusive relationship which started during school. We officially broke up and he turned his life around (so I've heard).

    I met the love of my life and got married recently, so I am completely over him but I was to see what he us up to since we did spend so long with one another and planned dreams we had together (career/travelling etc).

    Would it be wrong to contact him?
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    No, let the past stay where it rightly belongs.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I was in an abusive relationship
    Its a no brainer, should you contact him?


    this:
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    It's a dodgy area,as your question probably acknowledges. Facebook and linkedin offer opportunities to reach back that in former times didn't exist. If you intent is honourable who's to say this is wrong - it could be good to draw a line under previous angst. But current partners are likely to view such nostalgia with at least some suspicion and my experience is that the past is best left in the past and to focus effort on the present and future.
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    (Original post by Zarek)
    It's a dodgy area,as your question probably acknowledges. Facebook and linkedin offer opportunities to reach back that in former times didn't exist. If you intent is honourable who's to say this is wrong - it could be good to draw a line under previous angst. But current partners are likely to view such nostalgia with at least some suspicion and my experience is that the past is best left in the past and to focus effort on the present and future.
    That is true. I just wanted to see if he ended up doing the things we always spoke about. I've heard he had met someone too. My husband respects my wishes but ofcourse is very protective over me and doesn't want me to build ties with my ex again.

    (Original post by ForestShadow)
    Its a no brainer, should you contact him?


    this:
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    I did also include that he turned his life around
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    I've always regretted getting in touch with old friends. Even if people have changed for the better you've usually grown apart, and for good reason.
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    He may have turned his life around,however this doesn't erase the fact he mistreated you. Live happily ever after with your husband and leave him in the past.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I did also include that he turned his life around
    Never heard that one before...
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    No don't do it.

    He might be a nice guy or whatever now but it won't ever change the fact he was abusive. You have a husband who loves you and you love back now, so why bother?
 
 
 
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