twisted friendships ??? HELP

Hey i've got a massively huge relationship problem.

basically im 15 and im rele good mates with this guy in the year above me, we sit near each other on the bus and talk a lot on MSN. since we've been mates we have occasionally fancied each other (i've prob liked him a bit more than he's liked me). but at some point last year our feelings for each other have basically withered away, coz we've realised we're better off as friends.

We ended up liking other people, and eventually started going out with them, however we broke up with bothe of them, he broke up with her because she was basically playing him about, and about 2 weeks l8r i broke up with my bf coz he kept trying to make me put him first instead of my GCSEs .

at this point, we were basically just on the rebound, and casually he asked me if i wanted 2 go round his (i had never been round his before) and i was like "sure". We were then discussing what we could do wen i got there, and he was like "let's make out ", and i thought he was sincerely jokin and was like "haha kk "

Wen i got there, we were jus chattin randomly 4 like 2 mins, and wen it was quiet he goes "hey", looks at me, and we made out. Basically even tho i didn't fancy him i had a sort-of soft spot 4 him so i was rele happy wen we did make out. I wasn't hoping to go too far though, because we wer still just friend, who were on the rebound, yet within 2 hours of makin out we got to 2nd base (which was amazing btw ). then he asked me 2 give him head, but i said no, explaining that i didn't want to go too far. he appreciated that, and we just carried on making out (he's a rele good kisser btw :p:

) however as soon as we stopped to go to school, he just carried on completely normally, and just acted as friends - which i appreciated and was fine with - but the atmosphere changed rele quickly from sexual to just plain friendly.

For the whole weekend (wt happend then was on friday), he didnt talk on MSN, which wasn't the norm, and i got worried that he thought i was crap. however soon after we started talkin more again, but we never talked about what happened between us, until yesterday wen we were jokin around about sex, and he just randomly asked me if i could come over again and i said no coz i was rele busy so he sed ok. Im so confused because sometime he' rele friendly 2wds me and we jus act gr8 wen wer jus m8s, sometimes hes askin me 2 come round, and sometimes he just doesn't talk 2 me [this is usually on the bus wen we sit near each other / off MSN]. I'm so confused as 2 what he's been feeling during and since our 'meeting' does any1 have any ideas why he was asking me 2 go round again, wen we wer simply on the rebound?

HELP plz - i know this is a rele long thread - but this has been the most complex and difficult problem of my relationship life, and i'd rele love some help please

thanks, xxxxxxxx

Reply 1

herecomestrouble

hm guys are difficult to read and are oftn not the best people and letting you know hw they are feeling... maybe he does have feelings for you but doesnt know how you feel about getting into a relationship with him or something so he feels he has shown his feelings by asking you over and is hoping you will make the next step?
How do you feel about him now? Do you want a relationship with him?
I think the best thing to do would be to sit down with him and talk about it... i know it'd be difficult but if you both keep avoiding confronting the issue it might just get more and more awkward and you might grow apart which would be a great shame to lose a friendship.

good luck though, :hugs:

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