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I'm too sensitive.

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Reply 1

dh00001

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never supress your feelings, it will really **** you up in the end. if a situations bothering you, remove yourself from it or tell the person its upseting you.

Reply 2

ßlαcksωαn

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I don't think it's really something you can change at the drop of a hat. It's probably just the way you are, and dont let other people knock you are it. All we could say is toughen up and stop crying..but that wouldnt improve anything...

Reply 3

*River

15

To an extent, you do have to just accept who you are. My mother especially gives me a lot of stick about being sensitive, but it's just a part of my personality and I can't change that.

Try not to let things get to you and don't just jump to conclusions - often if you rationalise events and think about them before reacting, you won't appear too sensitive.

Reply 4

shauny

*River

To an extent, you do have to just accept who you are. My mother especially gives me a lot of stick about being sensitive, but it's just a part of my personality and I can't change that.

Try not to let things get to you and don't just jump to conclusions - often if you rationalise events and think about them before reacting, you won't appear too sensitive.

Hey Starry, I know your situation, and if you feel you're too sensitive, it's possible to do something about it.

If you want to be less sensitive, you need to start by being less reactive to things. When things happen which you'd usually react to (i.e. cry, get upset, etc, suppress your feelings and adopt a 'who cares' or a 'it doesn't matter' mentality. Eventually, you'll react less to ***** that gets thrown your way, and you'll feel less and less upset when these things happen.

Don't just accept it, if there's a part of you you're not happy with, change it, that's what self-improvement's about :smile:

..shauny

Reply 5

AverageGuyOnTheStreet

9

dh00001

never supress your feelings, it will really **** you up in the end. if a situations bothering you, remove yourself from it or tell the person its upseting you.

I second this completely. I was bullied when I was 11 and was unable to express my feelings for 9 years. I am still recovering from the effects.

You will 99% likely not be anywhere near as bad as I have been (my case is rather extreme). I went through all of my teenage years miserable on the inside but pretending to be happy, then when I got to uni I became depressed. I was too ashamed to admit to anyone, including myself, that I had a problem. I ended up having a huge crying fit in one of my tutorial sessions and decided that my course was the source of all my problems, so decided to transfer. A week later, faced with uncertainty, fear, and extreme sadness, I attempted suicide. I wasn't able to admit how bad I felt at that time until a couple of days ago. It was a completely different episode, 3 months later, that made me get help. It was such a relief that I could finally tell someone how I felt.

Whatever you do, OP, make sure you don't bottle up your feelings. That's what I did and I have serious long term health problems as a result. :hugs:

to you.

Reply 6

theredsox

15

You could always put yourself into situations which might normally be slightly upsetting. If you keep experiencing them then eventually you might not react to them so badly.. you'd just desensitise.

Reply 7

Empyreal Rhapsody

8

1. As people have said, do not bottle up your feelings
2. Being sensitive is not a bad thing, especially as you're a girl
3. You will begin to understand people more as you gain more "worldly experience". This does not mean that you will understand things by becoming older -- it means you will understand people, what they do and what's going on inside by experiencing the world. This will also help you put things into perspective (note: this doesn't mean you'll become thick skinned or insensitive, it just means that you'll have a much bigger framework/concept of life into which you place occurrences, meaning that small things have less prominence, in turn meaning that they will bother you less).

Reply 8

goodmen

13

you'll fit right in here then

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

Your thread sounds like me and my family! I'm exactly the same. I get upset over things that my uncle says. But if anyone else said them i guess i wouldn't get upset.
I get upset and then my parents have a go at me and say i'm spoiled and ungrateful (which has got to do with what).
His son is the same. they're both horrible people, selfish, nasty, small minded. I just now think to myself, ha i'm better than you. I'm going to have a better job, life and more money than you so i'm going to have the last laugh. Sounds like i'm up myself but it seems to work!!

Reply 10

onthejubileeline

StarryEyedSurprise

This is going to sound really stupid but, does anyone have any ideas how I can "toughen up"? People have told me I'm too sensitive but I don't know how to stop. I've gotten better over the years but I still feel I have a problem. I went through a bad childhood and I'm sure that has something to do with it. I'm quite black and white and don't understand why people do some things. Some things that people say bother me but not other people and when I talk to people they can't see why I'm bothered. It happens mainly when family come round. They're quite thick-skinned and believe in giving their kids thick skin. They tell them to stop being such wusses, for example. I never cry in front of my mum because she says I'm just feeling sorry for myself. Has anyone felt the same way?

I know what you mean, I'm pretty sensitive, though it sounds like you're being put under far too much pressure to change it by people that clearly don't understand. Sensitivity is a disposition, just like having a bad temper or soemthing like that, and it's something that can be controlled...to an extent. For instance, it wouldn't be appropriate (in many situations) to burst out crying out of the blue (lol, I know how hard it is not to sometimes!), so in situations where it's getting out of control, just walk away.

Though, remember, it's NOT wrong to be sensitive, it's just the way you are, and it can often entail some really good things - like you might be more attentive to other people, more sympathetic and empathetic. Don't let people force you to just see the bad side of being sensitive - it can also be a big gift! I hope things get easier for you, xx

Reply 11

sauce

13

I used to cry at loadsa stuff, work toughened me up a lot. Because a lot of the bosses are complete and utter pricks. Now I like to get angry more, think of funny things when I feel myself getting really upset and feel I might cry. Also humming to yourself helps when you feel you may cry. Similar situation today where the boss was a right bitch as usual to me and I just kept getting angry at how ignorant she was and my eyes watered a bit but I managed to avoid crying.
Good luck ^_^

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