How do you know when you have found the right person?

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I am expecting the majority to say something like
"you just know" or "you can feel it".

But what makes you truely know,
that there is no-one better for you,
no-one who would give you a better life
or more happiness than the person you are with now?

Just a pondering thought.

Reply 1

Vampyrcorn

14

You have to consult a psychic. (unless you have a magic 8 ball of course).

Reply 2

Talya

16

I have met many people in my life and I know there is no one else out there like my boyfriend and therefore no one I could be as happy with. :smile:

Reply 3

Bubblebee

15

Piece

I am expecting the majority to say something like
"you just know" or "you can feel it".

But what makes you truely know,
that there is no-one better for you,
no-one who would give you a better life
or more happiness than the person you are with now?

Just a pondering thought.

I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that the majority of early teens to early twenties have not found that person.

Reply 4

Malik24

I don't think you can know until you've spent several years with a person and your interest in them/spending time with them has not waned at all over the years.. really I don't think that many couples have this "special spiritual bond".

Reply 5

ohyeahoh

3

When you act like a prize bitch and they still love you

Reply 6

little one

11

when no1 in your life has made you feel the way they do

...then again i agree with bubblebee :smile:

Reply 7

Schroedinger's Pandora

13

When you think about them every day, nothing they do can be wrong and when they move 400 miles away you feel like you've lost a limb.

Maybe?

Reply 8

Vampyrcorn

14

Bubblebee

I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that the majority of early teens to early twenties have not found that person.

Yes you're probably right with that.

Besides, even if they have, it's impossible to know whether they're right, surely? People change as they get older and you could easily grow apart. All sorts of things could happen: your partner could be taken in by a sadistic cult, or could develop severe mental health issues and start going on killing sprees, the possibilities are endless. Judging by the rate of divorce in this country, the fact that you never know every tiny aspect of anyone's personality, and the way that you or your partner's personalities could change in the future, I would have thought it's just impossible to know whether you're with the right person.

But that's ok. Taking risks is fun. :wink:

Reply 9

smellielli

1

When there doesn't seem to any worries in the world! And, you just know...

Reply 10

username47781

20

I think you simply just know when you have.

Reply 11

seafairy

1

I think that its a bit useless when someone says 'he's the one' etcetera because at the end of the day things happen and things change, and yeah great if i stay with my boyfriend, because i do love him, and i do have the best time with him, but i just dont see the point in thinking ooooh hes the one, im gonna marry him and have babies yadayada, because it is what it is and theres no point in analysing whether or not he's right for me. if we dont want to kill each other and we can have fun hanging out with each other then all the better for me. And if things dont work out then it sucks but theres always people out there who can make you as happy.

argh i dont know, maybe im just not that romantic?

Reply 12

Sanity Panda

When you sort of decide that Yeah, I'll be with the other person through most difficulties? Then again that could apply to friends as well..

Reply 13

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3

When she shouts:

'DAN! DAN! DAN! DAN! DAN! DAN! DAN! DAN! DAN! DAN! DAN! DAN! DAN!....DAN!.....DAN!'

Across a car park, intentionally. I would probably marry that girl.

Reply 14

Anonymous #1

Piece

I am expecting the majority to say something like
"you just know" or "you can feel it".

But what makes you truely know,
that there is no-one better for you,
no-one who would give you a better life
or more happiness than the person you are with now?

Just a pondering thought.

I know I've found the right person.

He's utterly amazing - he loves me for who I am, flaws and all. Doesn't even see the flaws, actually - doesn't care. I have to point them out for him to notice, and when he does, he shrugs it off. Whenever I get angry or upset for an entirely unreasonable motive, he still loves me. And I love him too - there's not a single thing about him that I'd change. I love every single one of his quirks - nothing about him irritates me.

He trusts me - I have a tendency to come across as flirting when I talk to other men, but he knows that I love him, and wouldn't ever dream of even kissing another man. He might look at other women sometimes - well, put a man on a beach full of women in bikini tops, and where do you expect him to look? But I know that it's me he finds the most attractive, inside and out, and I know he'd never touch another woman. Both of us are secure enough in our love to let the other one do what they want. We'd never dream of telling the other what to do, or not to, or in any way control them.

We're both prepared to do anything to stay together - he's planning on moving to the other end of the country to stay with me, when I start my new job. I signed a contract for the job before we first started going out, and it ties me to the area for a couple of years at least - and him moving to be with me; it's such an incredibly huge sacrifice. I've told him that it's a big thing to be asking of him, but he says I'm not asking, he's offering, and he'd much rather live with me most of the time and travel to visit mates some of the time, rather than the other way round. He truly does put me first. You wouldn't drop everything and move for someone you weren't completely sure of. And when I'm able to move, after those couple of years are up, I'm prepared to move with him to somewhere where his work prospects are better.

We make each other laugh so hard that sometimes we struggle to breathe. We start moping if we're apart for too long, and our friends have to ask why we're acting so miserable before we realise we're acting so sad. We think the same way - we often know what the other one is thinking without even having to ask.

It's not a case of him being most of what I want out of a man, it's a case of him being everything I want. I'm not settling, I'm not compromising. This is it. At the end of the day, if I'm happy, I want to share that with him. If I'm sad, I know a cuddle from him will make the worries of the world just fade away.

I honestly do want to spend the rest of my life making him happy. He feels the exact same way about me.

He's just perfect for me, and I feel so incredibly lucky to have found him. I can't imagine being with anyone else - ever.

This post is anonymous for personal reasons - if a mod wants to PM me to ask why, that's fine.

Reply 15

Ginger_Rogers

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When she shouts:

'DAN! DAN! DAN! DAN! DAN! DAN! DAN! DAN! DAN! DAN! DAN! DAN! DAN!....DAN!.....DAN!'

Across a car park, intentionally. I would probably marry that girl.

lmao. What if you and she own lexii? (I don't know how you would spell it :frown:

).

Would you DEFINITELY marry her then?

Reply 16

Mrs_F

15

Do you ever know?

I'm not sure.

I have met the most perfect man for me, I love everything about him, even his faults make me giggle (sometimes) and I can't wait to become his wife.
He treats me like a princess, and I can only hope that this continues.

I can't predict the future, but I can see myself with this man for the rest of my life. I can see us old together and still giggling about things we did when we were young.

We will have unhappy times, but I know that we will at least try to get over them and I'm am hoping that there will be a lot more good times than bad times.

Reply 17

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Ginger_Rogers

lmao. What if you and she own lexii? (I don't know how you would spell it :frown:

).

Would you DEFINITELY marry her then?

Marry her? I'd do more than that. I'd take the chocolate mousse, 12 inch plate and the lexii somewhere quiet and grow old with her. :p:

Reply 18

bunthulhu

14

Piece

I am expecting the majority to say something like
"you just know" or "you can feel it".

But what makes you truely know,
that there is no-one better for you,
no-one who would give you a better life
or more happiness than the person you are with now?

Just a pondering thought.

Considering most of us are in our teens, is this really the right place to ask?

Reply 19

Ginger_Rogers

7

LOL. Love it...in a way. (If you get that one, you're good!)

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